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Old Mar 18th, 2017, 18:05 PM   11
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I initiate by waiting for him to start to do a chore, then rubbing his back and kisses and.... you know. We have to move to the bedroom as things get more heated.

It sounds like maybe your sex life is kinda dead in general? Try initiating sex once a week regardless of whether you're in your fw. It will help boost your confidence when its really baby making time! And your hubby will be less suspicious, if you never initiate it doesn't matter what you say he'll know it's because you're in your fw
Thank you. Yes just recently it has been dead. We're both young and he doesn't have ED or any troubles in that area. He just recently told me that I only want sex when I'm fertile. Last time I heard(well before now) he tells me to let him know when to "stick it in". I took it and ran with it and I think I went too far :/
We've argued about that and he says to just tell him when I want it and only one time. I'm having a very hard time convincing him that I want sex for more reasons than just to make babies. I told him I wanted sex last night and he asked why. So I told him I was turned on. So he says that it wasn't true that I'm only saying that because it's my fertile week. I told him it wasn't and that I wanted sex because I love him. Sigh.....I'm worthless
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Old Mar 18th, 2017, 18:47 PM   12
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You're not worthless, don't say that!!! Truth is that women are kinda programmed through hormones to be super horny during the fertile window. There's nothing shameful about it. But your man is not experiencing the same hormonal flux. He wants sexual contact about the same amount all month. You need to see all sex with him as baby making sex in a way -- sure you might not be in your fw, this might not be the bd that gets you pregnant, but it is what will get you the fw bd later on. Consistent sexual contact will make your man happier and more open to fw sex. You don't have to "go all the way" if you have a hard time getting into it when your hormones aren't ripe, and in fact he might even appreciate a bj/hj more because the focus is all on him and his pleasure and you're doing all the work and he can be 100% sure it has nothing to do with making babies! Your little secret is that it is indeed all about making a new baby.. I'm rambling, do you understand? It's not hopeless!



 
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Old Mar 18th, 2017, 19:47 PM   13
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You're not worthless, don't say that!!! Truth is that women are kinda programmed through hormones to be super horny during the fertile window. There's nothing shameful about it. But your man is not experiencing the same hormonal flux. He wants sexual contact about the same amount all month. You need to see all sex with him as baby making sex in a way -- sure you might not be in your fw, this might not be the bd that gets you pregnant, but it is what will get you the fw bd later on. Consistent sexual contact will make your man happier and more open to fw sex. You don't have to "go all the way" if you have a hard time getting into it when your hormones aren't ripe, and in fact he might even appreciate a bj/hj more because the focus is all on him and his pleasure and you're doing all the work and he can be 100% sure it has nothing to do with making babies! Your little secret is that it is indeed all about making a new baby.. I'm rambling, do you understand? It's not hopeless!

I completely understand. Thank you so much for listening. We just recently got into an argument about this and he just wants me to stop badgering him. I don't mean to badger him. We talked a little about it this morning and he just wants me to tell him when I want it and nothing more. I am gonna try and initiate it a lot more often. I pray I can get him interested again without him getting suspicious.We are gonna do a quick little get a way next weekend and I am sure we will pack a toy or 2



 
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Old Mar 19th, 2017, 01:26 AM   14
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You absolutely aren't worthless.

In your position, I would definitely take on board what Wrapunzel has said.

I think, for me, I'd probably give him a chance to be a little selfish too, and reignite things with a few ways that definitely couldn't make babies (No, not that!! think more fun for him only) so that he could see I was into fooling around because I want him, not because I want a baby. It'll lower his suspicions and his reluctance, then obviously you can start to have baby making sex again but he won't know if you are or aren't.

Good luck lovely, sex is bloody tricky in relationships sometimes.



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Old Mar 19th, 2017, 01:27 AM   15
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And then I read properly and see I'm repeating what Wrapunzel said.

Great minds or something



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