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Old Sep 2nd, 2017, 05:02 AM   1
Sammy1
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Sorry if TMI but anyone else struggle to initiate BD????


So today and tmrw are the important days in my fertile window! Hubby is on board with ttc#2, but just wants to BD whenever suits.... doesn't want it to feel forced and he really doesn't get the whole fertile window thing. We are under a lot of stress at the moment with building work so trying to convince him to dtd is tricky, but all signs including opk points to today and tmrw as the days!! We are also child free today and tmrw! But I am so worried I am going to miss my window this month as he is so stressed whenever I try initiate it doesn't happen! So far have only dtd twice this month, one of which was in fertile window but 5 days before ovulation so chances are slim!!! Anyone else in similar situation or just me! Guess I am just looking for a place to vent as don't want to have to wait a whole month more for another chance...



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Old Sep 2nd, 2017, 05:57 AM   2
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Generally hubby is always up for it (irritatingly so sometimes! Lol!!) but he can have a problem finishing sometimes when under pressure, even though he says he's enjoying the journey!
Can you not tell him you need to do it, maybe wear something nice but not obvious, ask him if he wants to do something nice while the kids are away? Or go all out, throw on some insane underwear and just jump him?



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Old Sep 2nd, 2017, 06:13 AM   3
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My oh doesn't know when my fertile time is, we are quite active anyways but I initiate it more during my fertile time. It was becoming to much about ttc and too much pressure.



 
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Old Sep 2nd, 2017, 14:55 PM   4
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Grrr so cross. My peak day and he has fallen asleep!! Really grumpy and I couldn't convince him. Now have to wait a whole month more! Daughter back tmrw so no chance Then!



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Old Sep 2nd, 2017, 15:03 PM   5
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Stick some porn on the telly and turn it up so the sound wakes him! And sit there next to him watching it until he wants to join in!

Seriously though, can you have an open and honest and calm chat with him about everything - no pressure or accusations but another day talk to him about how your feeling and why things are imprtbanr (and perhaps the birds and the bees!). I did this with hubby about his performance issue and we came up with some solutions together, and we're really open about our fears and concerns, and it's improved our sex life a lot.



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Old Sep 2nd, 2017, 15:11 PM   6
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We had a chat and I said there are certain dates that I need to dtd to get pregnant- he said he understands but when he is tired and stressed he just doesn't want to, and doesn't see an issue in it being another month to wait. He can't see the rush when I am literally driving myself crazy in the tww each month!
We dtd on weds and peak on opk was today. Hoping weds was close enough but not holding my breath! Guess I will try again tmrw but it is rubbish to be pushed away cos he is too tired! X



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Old Sep 2nd, 2017, 15:21 PM   7
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That would really hurt my feelings - I think it knocks your confidence.
You should be okay tomorrow - maybe try and jump on in the morning so he can't say he's too tired! Lol! Generally after you get a peak it's 24 - 48 hours after that when you run out of time I think. Maybe wind him up during the night a bit, if I cuddle up to my husband in the night he normally gets turned on in his sleep then we'll do it first thing when we wake (sorry if tmi)!
Good luck (and make sure you enjoy it too!!)



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