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Old Dec 3rd, 2017, 12:02 PM   11
Angel022605
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Thank you so much for responding. Please continue to keep sending me encouraging words and prayers.



 
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Old Dec 3rd, 2017, 14:31 PM   12
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I'm so sorry to hear that you are both struggling!

Is it possible to avoid having him know what CD you are on? Or perhaps setting a schedule (1x every other day, or every 3 days, etc.) that is consistent all month long so that it becomes more of a routine and less pressure on him to BD during your fertile period?



 
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Old Dec 3rd, 2017, 14:38 PM   13
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I'm so sorry Angel. Since he feels pressure to finish during the fertile window, have you considered possibly having him 'service' himself and then you do self insemination? I wonder if that might take some of the pressure off?



 
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Old Dec 3rd, 2017, 14:52 PM   14
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I'm so sorry to hear that you are both struggling!

Is it possible to avoid having him know what CD you are on? Or perhaps setting a schedule (1x every other day, or every 3 days, etc.) that is consistent all month long so that it becomes more of a routine and less pressure on him to BD during your fertile period?
Well it's hard not for him to know because he now knows my cycles forwards and backwards like I do. He is not fond of a schedule because he feels like he is in "timing" mode and would much rather be spontaneous. The only reason I tell him when I'm on CD 1 is so he knows not to BD during that time as it is a big turn off unless he wants oral. I'm sorry
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Old Dec 3rd, 2017, 15:02 PM   15
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I'm so sorry Angel. Since he feels pressure to finish during the fertile window, have you considered possibly having him 'service' himself and then you do self insemination? I wonder if that might take some of the pressure off?
I think the only way to take the pressure off is of his SA came back a lot higher than what it did come back. He says he feels pressured because he knows it's his low count and feels its his fault for us not getting preg. I have never and will never blame him or be mad at him for that. I tell him that all the time. I can mention doing self insemination but I'm also afraid he'll think I'm just after his sperm for baby making purposes only when in reality I could use some form of sex because I've had a bad day at work and need to relax and some form of sex helps me do that. Sigh :/
Thank you for responding. I'm sorry if I'm so neg. Just how I feel.
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Old Dec 3rd, 2017, 15:51 PM   16
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At this point, it sounds like he would benefit from some counseling so that he can work through these feelings of inadequacy.



 
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Old Dec 3rd, 2017, 16:04 PM   17
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I don't really have anything else to add. I just wanted you to know that I am thinking about you and your DH I totally understand all of the emotions you are feeling because I am there, too It has been 6 years since my DH and I first started ttc and it is sooo depressing and frustrating to not have that little baby that I long for!



 
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Old Dec 3rd, 2017, 23:03 PM   18
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Thanks everyone for their kind words, encouragement, thoughts and prayers. Please continue to reply. These comments are really making my day. Much appreciation to all who have responded. Even if you don't know what to say still a simple "hi" will do. Saying something simple like "you're in my thoughts/prayers" is always encouraging and uplifting. If you have to read and run I understand. Again thanks everyone. I don't know how to repay all the kind words. I would love to hear more if I can. Love y'all.



 
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Old Dec 3rd, 2017, 23:05 PM   19
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I don't really have anything else to add. I just wanted you to know that I am thinking about you and your DH I totally understand all of the emotions you are feeling because I am there, too It has been 6 years since my DH and I first started ttc and it is sooo depressing and frustrating to not have that little baby that I long for!
Thanks for replying. Much love and encouragement to you and DH.



 
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