Reply
 
LinkBack Thread Tools Search this Thread
Old Dec 1st, 2017, 22:11 PM   1
Angel022605
Trying to conceive (TTC)
Chat Happy BnB Member
 
 
Join Date: May 2014
Location: Tn
Posts: 1,146

Depressed(long post)


Just a lot of emotions. I'm don't know how to explain. Any time I see a baby anything I just wanna breakdown and cry until I can't cry no more. DH has low sperm count and motility. We are seeing a fertility specialist and the Dr has him on Clomid hoping to improve his overall count. Getting him to BE during the fertile period is an emotional rollercoaster in itself because he's so depressed knowing that he's the reason we're not preg. He'll gladly do any other form of sex but too depressed to BD and blames himself for us not getting preg. I try my best to encourage him in every way I can. I try being sexy and flirtatious and it draws him to sex but pushes him away from "finishing" where he needs to "finish". He feels less pressured to BD outside of my fertile time. He knows my body well enough like I do and can tell me when I'm fertile based on what CD I'm on. I'm sorry for rambling on a long post but I don't know who else to talk to. Please don't read and run. If you don't know what to say just comment with the word "hi" or "hello" and that lets me know someone here is listening with an open ear. God bless you girls.



 
Status: Offline
 
Old Dec 1st, 2017, 22:33 PM   2
ladyoflocksle
Trying to conceive (TTC)
Active BnB Member
 
Join Date: Nov 2014
Posts: 87
Hi Angel,

I am so sorry that you are depressed over this. I totally get it. I am older and so is my DH and we are struggling with infertility. He is the same as your as DH, he has low sperm count and motility and also knows my cycle just as well as I do. It is frustrating when he won't BD with me during my fertile time as well.

We were able to get pg in Jan 2014 but I mc in Feb at 6 weeks. It is so hard to see other ladies around me having babies and I am still without one. I really struggle with the thought that it won't ever happen for me.

I will be praying for you and your DH that you are able to get pg and hold a sweet little baby in your arms. I have known a few people whose DH's used Clomid and they were able to have a baby. I pray that is the case for you!

I know this probably doesn't help a whole lot. But I didn't want to just read and run. I just wanted to let you know that you aren't alone in this



 
Status: Offline
 
Old Dec 2nd, 2017, 02:35 AM   3
Star7
Trying to conceive (TTC)
Active BnB Member
 
Join Date: Oct 2017
Posts: 76
Praying for you. 💖



Status: Offline
 
Old Dec 2nd, 2017, 03:12 AM   4
vickyandchick
Mum (Mom)
Chat Happy BnB Member
 
 
Join Date: Jan 2014
Location: London, UK
Posts: 1,291
I'm so sorry, that sounds really tough for both of you.
Hopefully the clomid combined with seeing the fertility doctor will help



 
Status: Offline
 
Old Dec 2nd, 2017, 03:25 AM   5
xarlenex
Mum (Mom)
BnB Addict
 
 
Join Date: Dec 2007
Location: Bonny Scotland :)
Posts: 3,831


I hope with help of the specialist yous will be holding a precious bundle soon xx



 
Status: Offline
 
Old Dec 2nd, 2017, 08:03 AM   6
kwalton172
Trying to conceive (TTC)
Active BnB Member
 
Join Date: Oct 2017
Posts: 64
Praying for you ❤



Status: Offline
 
Old Dec 2nd, 2017, 11:58 AM   7
Angel022605
Trying to conceive (TTC)
Chat Happy BnB Member
 
 
Join Date: May 2014
Location: Tn
Posts: 1,146
Quote:
Originally Posted by ladyoflocksle View Post
Hi Angel,

I am so sorry that you are depressed over this. I totally get it. I am older and so is my DH and we are struggling with infertility. He is the same as your as DH, he has low sperm count and motility and also knows my cycle just as well as I do. It is frustrating when he won't BD with me during my fertile time as well.

We were able to get pg in Jan 2014 but I mc in Feb at 6 weeks. It is so hard to see other ladies around me having babies and I am still without one. I really struggle with the thought that it won't ever happen for me.

I will be praying for you and your DH that you are able to get pg and hold a sweet little baby in your arms. I have known a few people whose DH's used Clomid and they were able to have a baby. I pray that is the case for you!

I know this probably doesn't help a whole lot. But I didn't want to just read and run. I just wanted to let you know that you aren't alone in this
Thank you so much for responding. That truly means a lot. I too am praying in tears. Thanks again for responding.



 
Status: Offline
 
Old Dec 2nd, 2017, 12:51 PM   8
Babybum35
Trying to conceive (TTC)
Active BnB Member
 
Join Date: Oct 2017
Posts: 80
Angel that's hard. It's something a lot of men struggle with just like a woman would if diagnosed with pcos. There are times my husband avoids good days to bd just because he hates the idea of timing sex and he's figured out that if I'm initiating it's on. I think it's good he's willing to get help but does he think you resent or blame him? It has to be so frustrating to see him sad he can't give you what you want. I'm sorry you are going through this



Status: Offline
 
Old Dec 2nd, 2017, 13:53 PM   9
Angel022605
Trying to conceive (TTC)
Chat Happy BnB Member
 
 
Join Date: May 2014
Location: Tn
Posts: 1,146
Thank you ladies for your responses. It really means a lot. It's really good to hear that you are praying for me. I love the encouraging words. Support is much needed. DH and I pray that we don't have to do IVF. As a single person income, car payment, and other amounting bills, we're afraid to say there's no way on Earth afford it. So please girls keep coming with encouraging words and prayers. I'm in tears all the time and can't focus on working or life. Feel like my head is in a fog or a bad dream. DH is so depressed too. I try my best to keep encouraging him but sometimes I'm the one who needs the encouraging. Having a baby is all I think about to the point it consumes my life. I'm sorry for this sad comment but I'm hanging on by a thread and at the end of the road. Sigh. :/



 
Status: Offline
 
Old Dec 2nd, 2017, 13:57 PM   10
Angel022605
Trying to conceive (TTC)
Chat Happy BnB Member
 
 
Join Date: May 2014
Location: Tn
Posts: 1,146
Quote:
Originally Posted by Babybum35 View Post
Angel that's hard. It's something a lot of men struggle with just like a woman would if diagnosed with pcos. There are times my husband avoids good days to bd just because he hates the idea of timing sex and he's figured out that if I'm initiating it's on. I think it's good he's willing to get help but does he think you resent or blame him? It has to be so frustrating to see him sad he can't give you what you want. I'm sorry you are going through this
No I don't think that he thinks I resent or blame him. I've told home before I don't blame him, I don't resent him, never ever will I resent or blame him. He knows this. Thanks for responding.



 
Status: Offline
 

SEO by vBSEO