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Old Dec 30th, 2017, 10:28 AM   1
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TTC with Anxiety


Hi All,

I'm currently TTC No2, after 6 months of officially WTT but much longer trying to make the decision whether to extend our family.

I have anxiety that can be quite bad at times so have worried about how I will cope with the increased demands of having another child, whether I will end up snappier with DD, struggling emotionally, impact on my marriage etc. I'd kept waiting, for a time to come when I felt totally sure it was the right time/right thing to do, but have realised I'm never going to be 100% sure so with some provisional plans about how we could manage things we have finally decided to go for it! So I'm excited, but still a little nervous too!

I suppose I was just wondering if there is anybody else here trying with anxiety? Or any similar experiences?

Sending baby dust to you all!



 
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Old Dec 30th, 2017, 12:29 PM   2
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I had anxiety about ttc my second (8 weeks pregnant now). Thankfully we got pregnant quickly so I couldn't overthink it too much. I know I would never feel 100% ready but I'm so excited for the baby!



 
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Old Dec 30th, 2017, 15:54 PM   3
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That sounds a lot like me! I have pretty nasty anxiety, and TTC always ramps it up a bit. Couple that with concerns over how a second child will affect my marriage, my relationship with DS, etc., and yup... my nerves are shot!



 
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I had anxiety about ttc my second (8 weeks pregnant now). Thankfully we got pregnant quickly so I couldn't overthink it too much. I know I would never feel 100% ready but I'm so excited for the baby!
Congratulations!! Wishing you a very happy and healthy pregnancy! I'm going to try my best not to overthink things while we're trying - every time I start worrying about anything I wonder if it means we should wait to try, but if I delay much longer we'll never do it!


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That sounds a lot like me! I have pretty nasty anxiety, and TTC always ramps it up a bit. Couple that with concerns over how a second child will affect my marriage, my relationship with DS, etc., and yup... my nerves are shot!
Thanks for replying Dill - I'm sorry to hear you're having to deal with anxiety too, although it is nice to know I'm not alone in having some nerves! DH and I know we have love to give another child and in most ways are in a good position to ttc... I just hope I can stay focused on that rather than concerns about my own ability to cope and how it will all pan out. Otherwise I may drive myself a little crazy!



 
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Old Jan 5th, 2018, 15:05 PM   5
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Hello i have terrible anxiety and my OH finally got on board to TCC #4 last night and I am already horrendously worrying about what it will be like if I do get a bfp and how people will react and the awful things they will say
How people will judge us for having no4
I am less worried about the actual hard graft that goes into having a newborn and the money and everything practical than I am about having to tell my parents and my family it is on my mind constantly
Bloody anxiety its a pain in the bum!
I am in amitriptyline so i may have to look into weather or not i will have to stop those etc
Are you on any medication at all? Xx



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Old Jan 5th, 2018, 16:15 PM   6
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Hello i have terrible anxiety and my OH finally got on board to TCC #4 last night and I am already horrendously worrying about what it will be like if I do get a bfp and how people will react and the awful things they will say
How people will judge us for having no4
I am less worried about the actual hard graft that goes into having a newborn and the money and everything practical than I am about having to tell my parents and my family it is on my mind constantly
Bloody anxiety its a pain in the bum!
I am in amitriptyline so i may have to look into weather or not i will have to stop those etc
Are you on any medication at all? Xx
Hi Crazylady, congratulations on starting towards TTC!
I totally get how it can be exciting and can cause anxiety at the same time. What makes you think that people will react badly to the news? I would say that it will be something amazing to add to your little family and not to worry about what people think but I know it's not that easy! I took beta blockers a while ago to control panic but reacted badly to them so have been managing to handle things through yoga, meditation etc for the last couple of years. I definitely think it would be worth checking with your Dr how to best to deal with the meds. Sending you lots of luck and babydust, let me know how you're getting on!



 
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Old Jan 5th, 2018, 16:59 PM   7
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My family has always been quite controlling I have a huge fanily but they all like to dictate how i should live and my choices I make even though I am 32 and a mother of 3 ... Sounds silly but when it's all you've ever known you sort of loose the ability to think for yourself in a way I am co ditioned to abide by their rules. Hard to explain without sounding like a moron
I think I have reached a point where I will snap one day and say just leave me alone I never ever ask anyone to baby sit. I could understand if they were having my kids alot and felt I was being selfish but I don't understand why they are so negative about me having children I've had all sorts of nasty comments said to me when I told them I was pregnant before.
If I could switch anxiety off how wonderful would that be.
I am excited bit darent show it lol I don't have an affectionate relationship with my parents and I've never been able to show emotion infront of them but with my own kids and in my own home we shower each other with love bevause I was determined not to let it carry on to another generation ������
I lost my cousin in April he was only 23 we are an extremely close family but more of a jokey laughing sort of lot so it hit us all really hard I thought to myself
His life was cut so short he never got to have a family or do all the things we can still do. I want another baby so that's what I am going to do!!
I can't wait to see everyone's BFP exciting times ahead ❤❤❤
P.s sorry I ramble on lol



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Old Jan 6th, 2018, 11:13 AM   8
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Ahh, that's such a shame that you've had negative comments in the past - no wonder you're worried about it! I'm really sorry to hear about your cousin too. i think you're right and that if you know no 4 is the right thing for you then you should go for it and not worry about what other people say. I know that's hard when it's your family but hopefully you manage to push the thoughts out of your head some of the time and enjoy your TTC journey! It sounds like you have a lovely little family with your OH and 3 DC! Sending you lots of babydust! When are you going to see about the meds/start trying?



 
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Old Jan 6th, 2018, 11:17 AM   9
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I only take 10mg a day so i will get an appointment to speak to the Dr but from what I've read online there have been people TCC taking 150mg a day so im not panicking myself too much
We literally decided to go for #4 2 nights ago haha and actually OH is really excited so it makes me feel more at ease
How are you feeling atm? I wonder if the slump afyer Xmas makes us anxious guys feel worse as my best friend who suffers terribly is feeling on edge more than usual at the moment too xx



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Old Jan 9th, 2018, 14:11 PM   10
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That's good! My DH is really calm about having another LO too so definitely calms me down when I start worrying! I'm feeling good about it at the moment though - really happy that we're trying again. I think it'll be worrying about actually getting pregnant instead where are you in your cycle at the moment?



 
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