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Old Jan 9th, 2018, 09:50 AM   1
keepfaith17
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How do you stay sane and hopeful during months of TTC?


So I'm pretty down in the dumps today since AF decided to make her arrival this morning and counts me out for last month. It seems like every single person around me is pregnant or making their announcements of pregnancy to the point i'm staying off of facebook so that i dont see it any more because while i am extremely happy for them deep down im a little jealous.
Our daughter is almost 4 and has been asking for a sister/brother now for months.She is too young for us to explain mommy and daddy are trying or we've asked the stork to bring us one so for her to keep saying it out of the blue surprises me when she doesn't have any idea that we are really really trying, but just havent been able to make it happen.

How do you all keep your self out of the "dumps/blues" or ways to keep your mind busy to not think of it as much? January will be our 5th month of trying.



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Old Jan 9th, 2018, 13:36 PM   2
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I honestly just try to keep as busy as possible so I don't have time to think about it, but I'm in a similar situation - this is cycle #5, AF is due Friday and I'm pretty sure I'm out, and I'm going stir-crazy. But over the holiday season, I did a lot better because I just didn't have time to think. I was cooking, doing bazaars and vendor events, wrapping gifts, watching Christmas movies, spending a lot of time with family, and generally just staying offline a lot.

The more time I spend online, the more I seem to start getting a little nutty. Too many pregnancy sites to visit!



 
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Old Jan 9th, 2018, 13:39 PM   3
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Keepfaith17 that really sucks. I am back to cycle day 1 as well. It's really tough because in the first part of the month you do everything you can to maximize your odds of getting pregnant. Temping, tracking CM, tracking CP, taking OPKs, doing the BD like insane bunnies, taking supplements, researching every little thing...then in the 2nd part of the month you wait and wait and hope. Then at the end you get a big fat nothing to show for it except for extra stress and disappointment. I am only heading into my third cycle so I can't imagine how tough this must be for you, especially with your little one. I am TTC my 1st which has its own challenges because, of course, I'm wondering if I can even get pregnant and feeling heartsick for my own babies.

I'd love to hear from others on how they cope.

As for me, I'm definitely feeling defeated today. I am just letting myself feel it for a little then eventually I'll be ready to start over. AF is usually feel sorry for myself time TBH lol By the time it's over, I'll be ready to get back on the train



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Old Jan 9th, 2018, 14:03 PM   4
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Keepfaith17 that really sucks. I am back to cycle day 1 as well. It's really tough because in the first part of the month you do everything you can to maximize your odds of getting pregnant. Temping, tracking CM, tracking CP, taking OPKs, doing the BD like insane bunnies, taking supplements, researching every little thing...then in the 2nd part of the month you wait and wait and hope. Then at the end you get a big fat nothing to show for it except for extra stress and disappointment. I am only heading into my third cycle so I can't imagine how tough this must be for you, especially with your little one. I am TTC my 1st which has its own challenges because, of course, I'm wondering if I can even get pregnant and feeling heartsick for my own babies.

I'd love to hear from others on how they cope.

As for me, I'm definitely feeling defeated today. I am just letting myself feel it for a little then eventually I'll be ready to start over. AF is usually feel sorry for myself time TBH lol By the time it's over, I'll be ready to get back on the train
By this afternoon ive already talked myself into the whole "you got this", "the next month it will work", " it was only the 4th month of trying", etc . i'm not the type to stay in the dumps for long but the disappointment sometimes hit hard. I am newer to this site, but all of the women i have come across seem down to earth and laid back to i felt comfy enough to let my emotions show a little

it stinks were both back to day 1 today but i'm happy i have a cycle buddy!



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