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Old Jun 27th, 2018, 14:20 PM   21
noodles13
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I am so happy i found this thread
There is such stigma around big families
Pisses me off!!
I have 2 dd & 1 ds
Tcc #4 secretly though because the shit is gonna hit the fan but i have reached a point in life where i have seen first hand you get one life and you need to live it the best way you see fit

Dd1 - 11
dd2 - 7
Ds - 4
Tcc#4
I am 33 and dh is 35



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Old Jun 27th, 2018, 14:24 PM   22
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Welcome Noodle, glad I am not the only one doing this secretively. Only a select few know because I don't want any judgement. I am more afraid of the judgement from my DH side of the family. It shouldn't matter but I also worry when my DH's ex wife finds out as I am sure she will fill his kids heads with crap. It's sad that people can't be happy for the decisions you make in life. If you can support your children then what does it matter how many you have?



 
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Old Jun 27th, 2018, 14:49 PM   23
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I know what you mean
For so many years i let people dictate to me and im sure I'm a massive disappointment anyway so i dont care what they think anymore ��
Me and my oh have sat down and put together a plan for what we want to achieve in the next couple of years because since the start of 2017 we have had terrible times loosing a very young family member to an overdose and i just had this sort of light bulb moment where i thought......
So what i have a big family it doesn't make me a bad person i dont ask anyone to have my kids i dont rely on anyone to provide for them so whos business is it?
I feel if i dont live the life i want i will get to 70 and regret it



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Old Jun 27th, 2018, 16:40 PM   24
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Thats exactly how I feel. I am only 30 and my DH will be 42. When him and I first started dating, even before I knew he was the one, my stipulation was if I wanted to have another baby that he was open to that. Being he already had 3 girls himself and myself 2, I needed to make sure he was on board. Now that we are TTC I think some days hes more on board than I which makes me really happy. He has been such an amazing dad to my girls (neither of their dads are really in the picture anymore), so they need that!



 
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Old Jun 27th, 2018, 17:18 PM   25
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100% im glad you found such a great guy
I always think there are so many worse things i could of been than a mum so... people are gonna have to suck it up and either butt out or accept my choices



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Old Jun 27th, 2018, 17:22 PM   26
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What a great thread!
We have four living children and one angel, stillborn last August. We have 3 DS 1 DD and our angel is also a DD. We are TTC again now...in the TWW



 
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Old Jun 27th, 2018, 17:31 PM   27
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Iím so sorry for your loss elmum. All the best with TTC



 
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Old Jun 27th, 2018, 17:32 PM   28
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Well looks like people will have to accept us as becoming a family of 8 (as long as my little bean stays put)

Noodle- I hear you about way worse things. My dad was so mad at me when I told him I was pregnant at 16. I get it, I do but he knew the people I was hanging out and they were all going down a dark path. I believe my daughter saved my life.

Elmum- sorry for your loss, hopefully your TTC time is quick especially with you being in the TWW! Baby dust your way



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Old Jun 28th, 2018, 10:52 AM   29
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What a great thread!
We have four living children and one angel, stillborn last August. We have 3 DS 1 DD and our angel is also a DD. We are TTC again now...in the TWW
I'm in the TWW too! 8DPO... I don't care what they say, this is the WORST PART! HAHA



 
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Old Jun 28th, 2018, 10:58 AM   30
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Thats exactly how I feel. I am only 30 and my DH will be 42. When him and I first started dating, even before I knew he was the one, my stipulation was if I wanted to have another baby that he was open to that. Being he already had 3 girls himself and myself 2, I needed to make sure he was on board. Now that we are TTC I think some days hes more on board than I which makes me really happy. He has been such an amazing dad to my girls (neither of their dads are really in the picture anymore), so they need that!
This is sooo similar to me. My husband (8 years older) has 3 kiddos from before me, and we have 2 together, trying for another! When I told my sister about TTC again, she looked at me like I had just. lost. my. mind. But our kids seriously love each other SO MUCH, and our oldest (boy) just beams from ear to ear when he thinks about how much of a privilege it is to be the oldest of 5 (soon to be 6) siblings.



 
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