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Old Jul 9th, 2018, 21:01 PM   1
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I canít believe Iím back here.


So, my daughter is 3 years old. And I’ve been adamant that I never wanted to have another child. One is enough, it’s hard, I feel trapped, I feel like it’s impossible to do anything or have an ounce of freedom, and I didn’t want to start over.
I’ve been talking with my Dr about actually putting clamps on my tubes. I’m only 27 with one child, so that’s a hard sell, but I had him almost on board. Then I was discussing it with my DH, and suddenly we’re TTC.
We thought that if we had another baby, we would never regret that child but we might regret not having more than one. But if we’re going to start over, I want to do it now rather than later. I don’t want to get to a point where I finally have some freedom back with dd and THEN start over. So we’ve decided to give it a year. If we have one, we have one. If dd turns 4 and we’re not pregnant, then we’ll call it not meant to be and get my tubes tied. I don’t want to have a baby after 30. I want to be finished raising my kids while I’m still relatively young.

So here we are, and actually now that the decision is made, I’m a little excited about it!!



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Old Jul 10th, 2018, 01:51 AM   2
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Welcome back! All the best!



 
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Old Jul 10th, 2018, 05:04 AM   3
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Welcome back! All the best!
Thank you!!



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Old Jul 10th, 2018, 05:50 AM   4
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Excellent plan, good luck!



 
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Old Jul 10th, 2018, 05:55 AM   5
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Excellent plan, good luck!
Thank you!! It helps to hear that from someone unbiased. It feels like messy logic, but itís better than just ďI donít know.Ē Besides, nothing about having kids is logical anyway.



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Old Jul 10th, 2018, 06:45 AM   6
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I promise you that it gets easier. You will have more free time then you think and 18 years goes super fast. I feel like I had my two kids yesterday and they are close in age (9 and 7). It all has gone so fast! So fast! I had the same thoughts as you. That I didn't want to have any more kids (I always knew I wanted 2) but I also didn't have the most supportive partner for my kids and I did everything on my own and still have up until a lil bit ago when I got with the man I was meant to be with and he started helping taking over some of the work. He has no children so I am attempting (After much consideration) to have one for him. I am 31.. I HAD My kids around age 21 for the same exact thought as you that I would be able to do what ever I want by 40 but I have a feeling that isn't exactly how it works. Those kids will still need me and by that point I will still want to be around them as much as possible too. Good luck with everything and sorry about the long post! HAHA!



 
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Old Jul 10th, 2018, 07:25 AM   7
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babyplease01,

Welcome! I would tend to agree with HopingforNumber3. I myself have two children ages 11.5 and 10 as of yesterday lol. I am turning 31 on the 28th of this month and Ever since my youngest was born I was certain that I was fine with two and i did not plan on wanting anymore children. Fast forward to today 10 years later, and I am now in a wonderful relationship with an amazing man, getting ready to marry, and the subject of kids is no longer off limits. If anything, I find the desire for another child strong. I didn't see myself hoping for a 3rd but here I am. I had no issues with my first two as I was under 21 by the time they were both born, but here I am at 30 and it seems like I am having trouble this go round. I tend to beat myself up now saying I shouldn't have waited so long to start trying, especially since he and I have now been together for almost 7 years, thinking maybe if I wasn't so indecisive it would have happened sooner. I remind myself every day that good things come to those who wait. I can't wait to hear more on your journey to #2



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Old Jul 10th, 2018, 07:43 AM   8
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I promise you that it gets easier. You will have more free time then you think and 18 years goes super fast. I feel like I had my two kids yesterday and they are close in age (9 and 7). It all has gone so fast! So fast! I had the same thoughts as you. That I didn't want to have any more kids (I always knew I wanted 2) but I also didn't have the most supportive partner for my kids and I did everything on my own and still have up until a lil bit ago when I got with the man I was meant to be with and he started helping taking over some of the work. He has no children so I am attempting (After much consideration) to have one for him. I am 31.. I HAD My kids around age 21 for the same exact thought as you that I would be able to do what ever I want by 40 but I have a feeling that isn't exactly how it works. Those kids will still need me and by that point I will still want to be around them as much as possible too. Good luck with everything and sorry about the long post! HAHA!
No, thank you for sharing!!! I know my kids will always need me, but being an adult child to my mom I see how itís easier to enjoy experiences WITH them when theyíre older. And you can be alone too and not have to worry about them because theyíre self-sufficient.



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Old Jul 10th, 2018, 07:44 AM   9
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Welcome! I would tend to agree with HopingforNumber3. I myself have two children ages 11.5 and 10 as of yesterday lol. I am turning 31 on the 28th of this month and Ever since my youngest was born I was certain that I was fine with two and i did not plan on wanting anymore children. Fast forward to today 10 years later, and I am now in a wonderful relationship with an amazing man, getting ready to marry, and the subject of kids is no longer off limits. If anything, I find the desire for another child strong. I didn't see myself hoping for a 3rd but here I am. I had no issues with my first two as I was under 21 by the time they were both born, but here I am at 30 and it seems like I am having trouble this go round. I tend to beat myself up now saying I shouldn't have waited so long to start trying, especially since he and I have now been together for almost 7 years, thinking maybe if I wasn't so indecisive it would have happened sooner. I remind myself every day that good things come to those who wait. I can't wait to hear more on your journey to #2
Awww, best of luck to you. Isnít it funny how we can be SO against the idea, only to suddenly be so hopeful??? Fate is so fickle that way.



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Welcome! I would tend to agree with HopingforNumber3. I myself have two children ages 11.5 and 10 as of yesterday lol. I am turning 31 on the 28th of this month and Ever since my youngest was born I was certain that I was fine with two and i did not plan on wanting anymore children. Fast forward to today 10 years later, and I am now in a wonderful relationship with an amazing man, getting ready to marry, and the subject of kids is no longer off limits. If anything, I find the desire for another child strong. I didn't see myself hoping for a 3rd but here I am. I had no issues with my first two as I was under 21 by the time they were both born, but here I am at 30 and it seems like I am having trouble this go round. I tend to beat myself up now saying I shouldn't have waited so long to start trying, especially since he and I have now been together for almost 7 years, thinking maybe if I wasn't so indecisive it would have happened sooner. I remind myself every day that good things come to those who wait. I can't wait to hear more on your journey to #2
Awww, best of luck to you. Isn’t it funny how we can be SO against the idea, only to suddenly be so hopeful??? Fate is so fickle that way.
It's quite funny! I never thought I would want anymore, but now that I am trying, the idea of negative hpts is heartbreaking. I was young when my children were conceived, and both were unexpected surprises lol. now at 30 years old I find myself having a strong desire for a child with my so. I find myself wanting to experience the whole pregnancy, childbirth, and child rearing stage at this point in my life beacause I feel like I will be able to appreciate it more since I've grown and matured from that 19 year old girl delivering her first baby. It also doesn't help when my 10 year old begs constantly for a baby sis/bro, and I am the only parent able to provide her with that lol. Their father had a vasectomy after having a 3rd with the kids stepmother. I also noticed on another post that you are 8dpo today! I am 7 dpo myself. We seem to be cycle buddies!!



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