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Old Feb 9th, 2010, 11:06 AM   1
sebby
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My boyfriend is impotent and I desperately want a baby


Hi there

My boyfriend has no probs getting an erection but when he goes inside me he seems to loose it a bit and it keeps slipping out.

We want to have a baby but how? He is also has a very slight bent but I am sure its not Peyronnie's disease.

Has anyone got any advice on what to do? is there anyone out there who has fallen pregnant with a situation like this?

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Old Feb 9th, 2010, 11:23 AM   2
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have you tried horny goat weed



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Old Feb 9th, 2010, 11:27 AM   3
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no


no but will try it how does it work? is you other half impotent?



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Old Feb 9th, 2010, 11:28 AM   4
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Well you only need sperm, can he ejaculate on his own? if so you could turkey baste it!
On a more serious note he cant ignore his impotence as it is often a sign of more serious health problems. has he ever seen a doctor about it?



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Old Feb 9th, 2010, 11:30 AM   5
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no but will try it how does it work? is you other half impotent?
no but i have heard about it on here - i would look into it before trying it



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Old Feb 17th, 2010, 06:57 AM   6
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Hi Sebby were in the same situation as you we have had the problem for 6 years, been trying since My husband and I wed in June 09, he has always suffered from a form of ED but as I loved him so much and it wasnt all the time I tried not to worry about it.
Since our wedding my husband has only ejaculated twice, he can get an erection but cannot maintain it, sometimes he trys to penetrate me when he isnt even hard.
I came off the pill in October and since then we have not had proper penetrative sex. We started councelling 5 weeks ago, but still no improvement. I feel so ill and upset with it all. To make matters worse my sister in law has just announced that she is 12 weeks pregnant. I feel like everyone around me is pregnant colleagues at work friends family etc. I have no one to talk to other than husband and the counsillor. We live in North West can anyone offer any advise on specialists that we could visit, he wont consider hypnotherapy but we need to do something. I feel so ill and miserable, I just dont know what to do. My only wish is that we looked into this years ago rather than letting the problem persist and now when we really would love a baby we have all this to deal with. What should I do?
We have booked ourselves in at a private clinic for a MOT test near us to make sure everything is in working order
FEMALE TESTS
Anti-Mullerian Hormone (provides a good estimate of the number of eggs in the ovary)
Urine sample for Chlamydia
Rubella (checking immunity against German measles)
Transvaginal ultrasound scan of your womb and ovaries.
MALE TESTS
Semen analysis
Urine sample for Chlamydia
I dont think anything will be wrong with me but going along for re-assurance and as support for husband. Not sure how he will produce his sample. The last time he ejaculated was a few days in to our honeymoon in August 09, nothing since. Over the weekend we tried having not penetrative sex. I do feel sorry for him as he has such a high sex drive too and constantly wants sex. I tried the suggestion from the Dr at the clinic where he wouldnt penetrate me, anyway still had no luck. It was so dissapointing. My periods are regular and I am now ovulating and he cant ejaculate, so dissappointing. He is going to boots on Thursday to meet with a lady Dr have a chat and check up and they will give him viagra. Im hoping that will work but it seems to be more of a mental thing so not sure if a pill will help. We have counselling once a week and have done since the beginning of Jan 2010. Im not sure what else can be done, we so desperately want a baby but even before we were trying for a baby he had this problem he has had this ever since i have known him and only got worse as years got on. Not stopped crying in weeks. No one to talk to about it. His sister is pregnant and has been excitedly telling me all about scan which just makes me feel worse. Im only 24 this isnt supposed to be happening, im fit and healthy and doing everything right, what more can i do?
Have any of you ladies on here struggling to conceive due to the male side and not the female? Pls help feel so down



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Old Feb 22nd, 2010, 02:55 AM   7
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I am in a similar boat. My DH and I married last October, we haven't used BC since August either. My poor DH, his sex drive is low low low and he rarely finishes when we do have sex. It is really frustrating. We went over two months with no sex at all after we got married. Partly because of his usual issues and partly because he was sick. It was horrible. I started to feel so unwanted. I finally spoke up and then he felt awful. I try not to pressure him, it doesn't help. But sex is almost never his idea. We both really want children. He has spoken to a doctor and had blood work done. Nothing of note. He has been this way for years and years, long before I came along.
We recently started taking Maca, which is supposedly great for the sex drive. Hopefully we will see some improvement. Good luck to anyone going through this!



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Old Feb 22nd, 2010, 07:27 AM   8
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I am in a similar boat. My DH and I married last October, we haven't used BC since August either. My poor DH, his sex drive is low low low and he rarely finishes when we do have sex. It is really frustrating. We went over two months with no sex at all after we got married. Partly because of his usual issues and partly because he was sick. It was horrible. I started to feel so unwanted. I finally spoke up and then he felt awful. I try not to pressure him, it doesn't help. But sex is almost never his idea. We both really want children. He has spoken to a doctor and had blood work done. Nothing of note. He has been this way for years and years, long before I came along.
We recently started taking Maca, which is supposedly great for the sex drive. Hopefully we will see some improvement. Good luck to anyone going through this!
Hun is there a possibility he could be a closet gay?



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Old Feb 23rd, 2010, 14:58 PM   9
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LOL!!! Definitely not gay. It seems to be a blood flow issue. He has issues with constantly cold hands and feet too. Plus the more stress, the less action. The maca is definitely working though. I would highly recommend for anyone who has a similar problem.



 
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Old Feb 23rd, 2010, 15:12 PM   10
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Hi Sebby were in the same situation as you we have had the problem for 6 years, been trying since My husband and I wed in June 09, he has always suffered from a form of ED but as I loved him so much and it wasnt all the time I tried not to worry about it.
Since our wedding my husband has only ejaculated twice, he can get an erection but cannot maintain it, sometimes he trys to penetrate me when he isnt even hard.
I came off the pill in October and since then we have not had proper penetrative sex. We started councelling 5 weeks ago, but still no improvement. I feel so ill and upset with it all. To make matters worse my sister in law has just announced that she is 12 weeks pregnant. I feel like everyone around me is pregnant colleagues at work friends family etc. I have no one to talk to other than husband and the counsillor. We live in North West can anyone offer any advise on specialists that we could visit, he wont consider hypnotherapy but we need to do something. I feel so ill and miserable, I just dont know what to do. My only wish is that we looked into this years ago rather than letting the problem persist and now when we really would love a baby we have all this to deal with. What should I do?
We have booked ourselves in at a private clinic for a MOT test near us to make sure everything is in working order
FEMALE TESTS
Anti-Mullerian Hormone (provides a good estimate of the number of eggs in the ovary)
Urine sample for Chlamydia
Rubella (checking immunity against German measles)
Transvaginal ultrasound scan of your womb and ovaries.
MALE TESTS
Semen analysis
Urine sample for Chlamydia
I dont think anything will be wrong with me but going along for re-assurance and as support for husband. Not sure how he will produce his sample. The last time he ejaculated was a few days in to our honeymoon in August 09, nothing since. Over the weekend we tried having not penetrative sex. I do feel sorry for him as he has such a high sex drive too and constantly wants sex. I tried the suggestion from the Dr at the clinic where he wouldnt penetrate me, anyway still had no luck. It was so dissapointing. My periods are regular and I am now ovulating and he cant ejaculate, so dissappointing. He is going to boots on Thursday to meet with a lady Dr have a chat and check up and they will give him viagra. Im hoping that will work but it seems to be more of a mental thing so not sure if a pill will help. We have counselling once a week and have done since the beginning of Jan 2010. Im not sure what else can be done, we so desperately want a baby but even before we were trying for a baby he had this problem he has had this ever since i have known him and only got worse as years got on. Not stopped crying in weeks. No one to talk to about it. His sister is pregnant and has been excitedly telling me all about scan which just makes me feel worse. Im only 24 this isnt supposed to be happening, im fit and healthy and doing everything right, what more can i do?
Have any of you ladies on here struggling to conceive due to the male side and not the female? Pls help feel so down
I really wish I could help but I don't know what to suggest. Just wanted to give a bit of support...
As much as I want to say "don't get down about it", I know it won't make the slightest bit of difference and I can only imagine what you must be going through. Just don't give up hope- what's meant to be will be
If you ever fancy a chat, add me & best of luck to everyone else... xx



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