I pop a softcup in immediately after sex while still laying down so as not to loose any sperm. I usually need a pee right after as well, so I usually lay down for about 15 mins then get up and pee (like I said - softcup in so I don't loose the spermies).
If it's afternoon I would then I go make a cuppa and sit wit my legs up on the sofa and not move for a good hour at least. Softcup stays in for at least 6 hours.
If it's a night time when we have sex, same again with the softcup straight after sex, then lay still for 10 mins, bathroom then back to bed for 8 hours.
Should I not be moving for an hour or so after?? Will sitting up but with legs up watching tv affect my chances??
Moving around afterward
Many women worry that because semen often runs back out of the vagina after sex, there won't be enough sperm left inside to fertilize the egg. Amazingly, sperm are already in the cervix moments after ejaculation. No evidence has been found to show that lying with legs or hips raised after sex improves fertility.
I love this thread! This is exactly the sort of daft thing I think about but would probably never ask!
I've read too that it the leaking out is normal (and is mostly only semen not sperm) and that raising hips etc isn't necessary but I have seen that lying still for just 15 mins or so is recommended, so i've been trying to do that. Used to get up straight way to go to the bathroom but seem to be getting used to the habit of staying in bed together for a wee while afterward now - don't think my OH has noticed that anything is different!
If it's at night I try to just lie still and fall asleep but as a result usually wake up in the middle of the night and go to the bathroom.
Haven't tried softcups, can't quite visualise what they are like (and I am scared of the unknown!), yet, anyway! I am a little confused though - can you go to the bathroom with the soft cup in?
I'm sure if you keep the soft cup in for ages you don't need to worry so much about lying still etc?
Despite the over-thinking and the forced lying still i'm trying to keep to simple for now. Hoping if people have had babies for thousands of years without trying too hard we may get lucky. Only 2nd month though - and i already know everything month that goes by without BFP will lead to more over-thinking and effort!
he he well as you can see I'm full of daft questions and not afraid to ask
yeah you can go to the toilet etc you can even have sex with softcups in! (although when your ttc this obviously doesnt matter lol!) They're meant for periods but they hold the semen next to the cervix for longer avoiding leakage.
Just convenience for me really what with needing to get up after to put washing on etc.
I know what you mean about overthinking, I'm on 2dpo and have promised myself I won't symptom spot this month (or at least as much as last month!)
I normally lay down for 30 mins or so. Sperm swim at the rate of 1-4mm per min, which would mean that after 30 mins even the slowest sperm have swam 3cm, which should be enough to get through the cervix.
I don't think it's just the ones with poor motility that fall out when you stand up. I think the effects of gravity means that the semen can drip out faster then healthy sperm swim.
Personally, I think it's one of those 'worth a try' things, and if nothing else, an excuse to make hubby go make a cuppa
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