I want to apologise in advance, I know there have been loads of posts like this and I hate whinging but I have to vent it as I have nowhere else to turn.
But I really am sick and tired of TTC. Why wont it happen for us? Why can some people get pregnant without barely trying and yet we have to go through this torture????
A colleague of mine confided in me today that she is a couple of weeks pregnant and just needs someone that she can talk to each day as she is anxious. I swear I am happy for her and she doesnt know we have been TTC for months, so its not about her.
I really dont think I can go on with this heartache. I definately wont be able to keep sane anyway. It was tough enough but now I have to endure 8 hours a day at work, the one place I could switch off. I know its life and I have to get on with it. But seriously, this can't be happening.
I think I just needed a good cry. Sorry for waffling. I think my own hormones are all over the place, I'm waiting for af to come for almost 2 weeks now, think ive had a dud month. ps I am not pregnant.
Sending you lots of hugs. I know exactly how you feel. I had a really bad couple of days this week, when I seemed to be crying non stop about TTC. Couldn't concentrate at work, and ended up going home for an hour just to cry some more!!
I think I've pulled myself together now, and have decided not to try so hard. My DH is really struggling with BD being all about timing and it's really have a bad effect on him. So I've decided to try and chill a bit, and go with the flow for the next couple of months. As everytime I predicted OV, I was getting really upset that I couldn't get DH to BD.
Got a friend coming round in a bit for some wine, chocolate and a natter, so I'm sure she'll get me back on track.
You whinge as much as you like. It helps me to get it all out and not bottle it up.
Sending you lots of baby dust.
My best friend just gave birth to a beautiful baby girl yesterday. We talked and hung out all through her pregnancy, but it was a little hard. We started TTC our first before she started trying for her #2.
Now Im just gathering PMA off these wonderful ladies here! Try and have fun with it. Its not all about babymaking. Its self discovery (boy have I ever discovered!) and bonding with your OH.
Dont get me wrong, we all have our days. Yesterday was mine! With my friend giving birth and Dh and I arguing it was a doozy! But each day is a new day and try to make it a joy! Today I started using Softcups for the first time and its so exciting. Dont be afraid to try new things!
Ohh honey, rant all you like. This is one place where you can pour out your feelings and know that there are people who understand EXACTLY what you are going through, and are ready to give you a hug any time (and that includes me).
I had a meltdown 2 days ago, poured it out on BnB and felt soooo much better after all the kind replies. Best part is, I have overcome the sadness (for now at least - ok well till I hear another pregnancy announcement).
I highly recommend getting a horribly high calorie sundae ! Nothing like chocolate to make you feel better
Oh and every time i feel frustrated with TTC, I go on the site i recommended (999reasonstolaugh) and it truly makes me smile.
Thank you all so much girls. I reallllly appreciate all your kind words, except I can't see my screen now with tears.
I am going to take ALLLL of your advice.
Bluebell - wine and chocolate sure does sound good, only one friend of mine knows we are TTC but she got pregnant on the pill and she is such a good friend but she doesnt really know how hard we have been trying or quite understand. My hubby is excellent but he doesnt get the hormonal tears or aches for it. He just freaks out when I cry so i try not to too much. LOL
WHITBIT I am definately taking your advice about having fun with my OH, TTC has taken up so much of my life (all of it) I definately need to bring it back to US. Also I have tried everything new each month - will try anything at this stage
KEYA thanks for the hugs, much needed. Usually I am the positive one so I am probably due a meltdown about now. Will definately get a chocolate sunday or in fact a big fudge cake even.
Pinkbow - thanks hon, ya it is heartbreaking when you cant have what you want stamp my feet, lol
I really think I need to give up and then it might happen, we have literally tried everything, you name it we have done it. Sometimes I think maybe we are trying too hard.
I definately think I will try to take a step back from TTC, not so much pressure, when your watching dates and cm and peeing on stoooopid sticks how can you not put yourself under pressure. At least I have my wonderful husband who puts up with so much from me. DTD on command etc etc. I need to 'RELAX' - haha that dreaded word. But look TRYING hasnt worked, so maybe not trying might work.
Well my wine and chocolate evening didn't quite go to plan, as my friend announced she's pregnant, so couldn't drink anyway! Think I managed to look pleased for her (and I really am, but boy it was a blow to hear). Especially when she told me they only started TTC in December and she fell in February. This is her 2nd, with her first she fell in the first month of trying! We're going on holiday in August with her and her family, so she'll be 6 months pregnant and I had been so hoping it was going to be me with a bean on board. Oh well, on the upside, there's still loads of chocolate left from last night which I think I will start making my way through this morning!!
I am 23 years old and have been trying for freakin 5 months. Every month I've convinced that I'm feeling pregnancy symptoms. There are 11 female coworkers on my floor 6!! Of them are pregnant!!!! How is that even possible and most of these chicks but one weren't trying!! I'm young n generally healthy, what's so great about their freakin eggs... Ugh... So bitter right now since I got a big old BFN this morning. I'd prefer to just blame dh for his weak sperm. The thing is I still feel sick. Tear. I can't do this anymore .
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