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Old Jun 22nd, 2010, 10:34 AM   1
wannabeprego
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How did you know you were finally ready to start TTC??


Hi Ladies,

What were your feelings, things that happened or changed that let you know you were ready to take the step to TTC????



 
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Old Jun 22nd, 2010, 10:35 AM   2
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my husband kept bugging me and starting renovating the nursery without telling me. never thought about ttc until then, but he is much older than me and he can't wait to have kids.



 
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Old Jun 22nd, 2010, 10:39 AM   3
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I have a 14 year old and laways said I'd never have any more. I had ds whyen I was 17 and me and his dad split when he was 1 and a half. I was a sinlge mom for 8 years. Then I met oh 6 years ago, he's a few years younger than me so had never really thought about kids and was still quite immature when we met. We took it slowly oh did LOTS of growing up and we had begun to casually mention it here and there.
I got ill and b/c I'd been on antibiotics I thought I was pregnant. I took a test and it was bfn.
We were both very disappointed and surprised to be so disappointed! But then I just stopped my bcp and here we are! can't wait for our BFP!



 
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Old Jun 22nd, 2010, 10:50 AM   4
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Thats a good question!

I wish like many on here i could answer by saying "Ive always wanted to be a mummy". But id be lying!.
Infact ive always said i didnt want one!, im not into other peoples children, never been one to coo at them and have no maternal instinct what soever!.

My husband has always wanted one and for a long time i battled against it (and the more people said "when are you going to have one" the more i rebelled!!!!). My husband has never forced it on me however, but i knew deep down this is what he wanted. With all his friends having kids i was starting to feel really fed up with myself for not wanting them, it was also starting to cause depression!.Over a period of about 2 years ive been trying to change my mindset, and the way i think about the whole thing, ive also spoken to alot of the girls on here who also thought the way i did, and quite rightly say "just because you dont love other peoples babies doesnt mean you wont love your own!", which is true. I had a terrible mother and i know i wouldnt want to behave the same way with my child!.

So in otherwords, theres no maternal clock with me, just a long process of thinking it over, talking it through and thinking some more before we came to the decision!!!



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Old Jun 22nd, 2010, 11:03 AM   5
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Errrrm, to be honest when i had DS i so wasn't ready!
I had never been the mummy type. In fact i didn't see myself having kids, at least within the next 10-15 years(i was about 18 at the time)
Then i met DH when i was 18/turning 19.
He is my first and only love. Within 5-6 months we started talking about kids. Well, actually i did! (Meaning in a few years tho). But he took it to mean right away and kept going on about it. We moved in together after 9 months, i came of bcp(thinking it'll take ages to get preg). Lol, i was wrong. Within that first month i was preg. So, another 9 months later DS was born(i was 20 then). Here we are 5 1/2 years down the line with number 2(DD) and ttc a 3rd. I know DH wanted them closer together as he is 6 years older then me and 'doesn't want to be an old Dad'. But nature is making us both wait for this one!



 
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Old Jun 22nd, 2010, 11:05 AM   6
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the more time i spent with my awesome step daughter, the more i wanted a baby of my own!



 
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Old Jun 22nd, 2010, 11:13 AM   7
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Ive known i want to have kids my whole life really from being a teenage i wanted a baby but know i would be stupid to do it when i was 13 lol, My little brother was born when i was 8 and i loved helping my mum with him feeding him burping him, i didnt want to go to school because i loved looking after him so much lol

so anyway i went on the BC Pill when i was 15 because i didnt want to get pregnant by any old person, i met my now DF when i was 17, after beeing together for a while he said he wanted kids on the future so and decided i would come of the BC pill when i was 18 because we had just got our own place and we both working well paid jobs.

And here we are now 20 and still TTC! :/



 
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Old Jun 22nd, 2010, 11:20 AM   8
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always wanted kiddies always been the family type not career or future minded just family minded!!

met oh last year and fell head over heels and havent stopped then we had only been together a few months when we decide ttc which looking back seems silly as we hadnt been together long but i know its the right decision and here we are a year later still no baby and a mc which was gutting but made us even more determined to get our baby!

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Old Jun 22nd, 2010, 11:29 AM   9
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I've always wanted children and so has dh, we were married 2 years ago and wanted to enjoy married life for a bit first. DH was reluctant when i wanted to come off bcp in Nov 09 but i said it was to 'sort my body out' before trying to tcc properly. We were happy ntnp for a while but every month it doesn't happen it makes you want it more. DH is now as upset as me every time af arrives! it just feels right so i know we're ready x



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Old Jun 22nd, 2010, 11:32 AM   10
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For me there were several things that happened over the years that let me know that I was ready to start TTC.

-I just started to feel like something was missing in me and DH's life and wanted us to finally have a family of our own together.

-DH and I have a dog that we got as a puppy, and she is so spoiled and has become like our child, LOL!!! I also see the way DH is with her, he spoils her and plays with her like a child almost. I never thought i would be one of those people buying outfits for my dog, and spoiling her so much, but now I understand when you are married with no child in the house, well your pet becomes like your child. I also see how DH is with our dog and just know he will be a great father. (yes I know this sounds silly, but i think it is true)

-I am in my early 30's, and the older I get the faster it seems time is going bye. I started to feel like my biological clock was ticking away as I began to approach 30 and started to obsess over having a child more and more over the years.

-I started to feel envious of all of my childhood friends having babies, posting pics of their kids on Facebook. This was a big sign as well. Most of the kids i went to highschool with have several kids at this point or are having babies/expecting. Every time I turn around someone is pregnant or just having a baby!!

-I felt like i had achieved all of my goals that I wanted to reach before having a baby, completing my bachelors degree, owing a home, getting financial stability with good jobs.



 
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