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Old Sep 14th, 2010, 09:14 AM   11
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Oh hun... I also think you need to pray for a bfn... I hope things work out. Hopefully af will arrive early so you don't have long to worry. Hang in there sweetie..



 
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Old Sep 14th, 2010, 09:30 AM   12
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if there was absolutely nothing there when you checked did your friend..... erm..... finish the job? just a thought.
also just wondering if a trip to family planning can help, i know you only have 72 hours after dtd for the morning after pill but im just wondering if it is someting to do with the egg, and if you only ov 2-3 days ago perhaps there is still time to stop anything happening, i can see how this must be stressing you out and i think getting a bfp is just going to make it so much worse for you



 
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Old Sep 14th, 2010, 09:41 AM   13
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yh thats what i mean i dont no if he finished, he wont speak to me now as im bk with oh, he wants to be with me and my son. i was thinking about morning after pill but i have only just fixed periods and luteal phase after 5 years of struggling i had depo and that stopped periods for 2yrs and when they came bk i had 40 day cycles and 11days luteal phase, its only just fixed itself so last think i want is to mess chance of concieving for another 2years! i dont think i am preg, i really dont think he finished, it was really fumbly and uncomfy and felt so wrong. if i am, whoever dad is is not a prob both great guys, im just trying to get all info ready if i do get bfp, iv been cramping since ov and burning sensation, if boobs hurt thats when i wud shit it x thanks for advice,really need all options and opinions x



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Old Sep 14th, 2010, 09:49 AM   14
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Sorry for your situation. Just remember not to use gender as a way to tell who the father is. If going by that theory I should have conceived a boy, but nope! And I only had ON O day so no it doesn't have to be 5 days before. Hope everything works out for you.



 
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Old Sep 14th, 2010, 10:01 AM   15
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Hmmm I think its more likley that it would be your OH child rather then the one nighter but you never know...

Just wait and hope..

If it is a BFP, could you poss get a dna test done after and not tell your OH ? I know thats wrong but just trying to think of ideas so you wont get in trouble as like you sed it was a mistake



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Old Sep 14th, 2010, 10:06 AM   16
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Boobs can hurt after ovulation.

As for post-coital contraception, the morning after pill can be taken up to 72 hours but not many people know the copper coil can be inserted up to 5 days after dtd as another method. Im not sure if you're around that time frame anymore.

Sperms can live in the uterus etc for up to 7 days post ejaculation. Its rare of course, but can happen. So all you can do is hang on and pray for a BFN.

If it is a BFP, then you must tell your OH and your BF too. Its a nightmare situation but not telling would be just...incomprehensibly wrong.

If it is a BFN, I would seriously take a sit down with yourself and try to have a think about what you want. TTCing in an unstable relationship can only add more pressure if it is a difficult TTC road. It may be time to take a step back and either work on your relationship for a bit or consider the alternative of being alone/being with your BF.

I really hope it is a BFN for you and you can move on with your life after this, Try not to beat yourself up too much. Mistakes happen, its how you handle the aftermath that counts.

Please let us know how you get on and good luck.



 
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Old Sep 14th, 2010, 10:07 AM   17
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Hmmm I think its more likley that it would be your OH child rather then the one nighter but you never know...

Just wait and hope..

If it is a BFP, could you poss get a dna test done after and not tell your OH ? I know thats wrong but just trying to think of ideas so you wont get in trouble as like you sed it was a mistake
That, unfortunately, is illegal to do a DNA test without the test subject's consent. Sorry!



 
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Old Sep 14th, 2010, 10:12 AM   18
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how bout if bf done dna if its between the two guys...



 
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Old Sep 14th, 2010, 10:15 AM   19
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how bout if bf done dna if its between the two guys...
That would be more likely to happen yes, Im not sure if say if the OP had a baby and the OH was registered as the father if he would have to give parental consent for his child to have a test done on it if that makes sense? I guess its worth a shot though!



 
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Old Sep 14th, 2010, 10:18 AM   20
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i could maybe do dna on my bf and child if i was preg and not tell oh unless the outcome is bestfriend, are relationship was fine until he got job in jan working all over place hes hardly ever home and we usually miss ovulation as hes to far away, this was are one month in ages where he was home during ov, im prob not preg its to early to tell, all i keep thinking is just my luck!! feel so stupid, i dont no y i jumped in bed with bf so soon after oh dumped me for the week! hes away again now for week, when shall i do preg test! wish i was charting bbt at least that would help! is there any other way of telling this early! i cant rem with my ds and with mmc, in nov i had mc and found out 6 days before! arura thanks for babyssgender info, x this advice is really helping thanks



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