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Old Oct 10th, 2010, 01:48 AM   1
Nicole.
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TTC for 5 Years. Questions and Advice Please.


Hello. I'm new here. I came across this forum while searching infertility issues.

Anyway, I was diagnosed with PCOS when I was 20 after experiencing fertility issues. I had been suffering from weight issues from age 18 until the time I was diagnosed and put on metformin, I had gained about 150 pounds. My OBGYN flat out told me that any women that weighs over 200 pounds could never conceive even with treatment. They refused me medication and told me to do a home ovulation test. I was not ovulating so they told me I could never become pregnant. I stopped going to them because I wasn't going to take no for an answer.

My husband and I started going to a fertility specialist about two years ago. The doctor put me on 100mg of Clomid and an injectable shot along with my 2000mg of Metformin. We tried 4 IUIs which were all unsuccessful eventhough the blood tests showed that I had ovulated. We soon found out that my husband had a really low sperm count. The doctor said that there would be amost a 0% chance of conceiving using my husband's sperm.

After a lot of consideration (about 5 months) we opted for a donor that we both agreed on. I tried my first IUI with the donor and I did not produce any mature eggs. I thought this may have been because the pharmacy was temporarily out of metformin and I missed about a week of it. By my next cycle I had produced mature eggs and the IUI was successful. I had a miscarriage at 1 month. The doctor told me he thought it was genetic and he didn't think there was anymore chance of it happening again. We did a third cycle of the donor which did not work.

We have decided to take some time off, it has been about 6 months since my miscarriage, and 5 months since the last time we tried to conceive. I needed some time to rest, I felt very stressed out over the circumstances asd at the same time I felt very angry at myself because I felt like the miscarriage was my fault (maybe if I had done something different)

So anyway I feel ready to try again and I would like to hear opinions from others who have been in similar situations. My doctor suggested that we continue with the IUI since they now have proof that I can conceive using that method. They said the next step would be IVF. The main problem for us is that we have to pay out of pocket for everything. Another thing that has been worrying me is that I am very overweight. I am 5'5" and weigh 270. I have tried so hard to lose weight but it just won't happen; I have not gained anymore weight since I was put on metformin.

After trying to find out information about other women being obese and having a successful pregnancy I am scared to death. For every one positive thing I read there seemed to be hundreds about how obese women will have complications and they will most likely have a miscarriage or still born. I came across an artical that was supposed to be from a doctor stating that an obese woman with PCOS has a 300% chance of miscarriage and that obese women should not get pregnant because it only hurts the mom and the baby and no good can come out of it. I don't see how all of this could possibly be true.

If you have had any similar experiences or advice for me, please help me. What was your pregnancy experience? I heard that you are only supposed to have about 6 IUIs, could having more help or just hurt in my case? Because of my weight should I stop trying to conceive and look into adoption or do I honestly have a chance of a successful pregnancy? My doctor said that it would eventually work but my grandmother keeps insisting the doctor will tell me anything for the money. Also, I sought therapy after my miscarriage and that doctor suggested I increase my folic acid, so in total I would be taking a prenatal vitamin, Iron pill (I'm anemic) and then a 1mg folic acid pill in addition to the fertility medication. Is the added vitamins a good idea?

Thank you so much for taking the time to read this, I know its quite long. Also I am looking forward to hearing about any experiences or advice you could offer. Again, Thanks!



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Old Oct 10th, 2010, 03:35 AM   2
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Hello. I'm new here. I came across this forum while searching infertility issues.

Anyway, I was diagnosed with PCOS when I was 20 after experiencing fertility issues. I had been suffering from weight issues from age 18 until the time I was diagnosed and put on metformin, I had gained about 150 pounds. My OBGYN flat out told me that any women that weighs over 200 pounds could never conceive even with treatment. They refused me medication and told me to do a home ovulation test. I was not ovulating so they told me I could never become pregnant. I stopped going to them because I wasn't going to take no for an answer.

My husband and I started going to a fertility specialist about two years ago. The doctor put me on 100mg of Clomid and an injectable shot along with my 2000mg of Metformin. We tried 4 IUIs which were all unsuccessful eventhough the blood tests showed that I had ovulated. We soon found out that my husband had a really low sperm count. The doctor said that there would be amost a 0% chance of conceiving using my husband's sperm.

After a lot of consideration (about 5 months) we opted for a donor that we both agreed on. I tried my first IUI with the donor and I did not produce any mature eggs. I thought this may have been because the pharmacy was temporarily out of metformin and I missed about a week of it. By my next cycle I had produced mature eggs and the IUI was successful. I had a miscarriage at 1 month. The doctor told me he thought it was genetic and he didn't think there was anymore chance of it happening again. We did a third cycle of the donor which did not work.

We have decided to take some time off, it has been about 6 months since my miscarriage, and 5 months since the last time we tried to conceive. I needed some time to rest, I felt very stressed out over the circumstances asd at the same time I felt very angry at myself because I felt like the miscarriage was my fault (maybe if I had done something different)

So anyway I feel ready to try again and I would like to hear opinions from others who have been in similar situations. My doctor suggested that we continue with the IUI since they now have proof that I can conceive using that method. They said the next step would be IVF. The main problem for us is that we have to pay out of pocket for everything. Another thing that has been worrying me is that I am very overweight. I am 5'5" and weigh 270. I have tried so hard to lose weight but it just won't happen; I have not gained anymore weight since I was put on metformin.

After trying to find out information about other women being obese and having a successful pregnancy I am scared to death. For every one positive thing I read there seemed to be hundreds about how obese women will have complications and they will most likely have a miscarriage or still born. I came across an artical that was supposed to be from a doctor stating that an obese woman with PCOS has a 300% chance of miscarriage and that obese women should not get pregnant because it only hurts the mom and the baby and no good can come out of it. I don't see how all of this could possibly be true.

If you have had any similar experiences or advice for me, please help me. What was your pregnancy experience? I heard that you are only supposed to have about 6 IUIs, could having more help or just hurt in my case? Because of my weight should I stop trying to conceive and look into adoption or do I honestly have a chance of a successful pregnancy? My doctor said that it would eventually work but my grandmother keeps insisting the doctor will tell me anything for the money. Also, I sought therapy after my miscarriage and that doctor suggested I increase my folic acid, so in total I would be taking a prenatal vitamin, Iron pill (I'm anemic) and then a 1mg folic acid pill in addition to the fertility medication. Is the added vitamins a good idea?

Thank you so much for taking the time to read this, I know its quite long. Also I am looking forward to hearing about any experiences or advice you could offer. Again, Thanks!
im so sorry hunny!and for a dr to say that if you weigh over 200lbs youll never have a baby...i cant belive that a dr. could be so rude and stupid..
dont give up because if its ment to be it will be! and i know several women who weigh 200lb or more who have many many children!maybe see a different dr too and see what they could do for you!



 
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Old Oct 10th, 2010, 05:27 AM   3
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I didn't want to read and run, I've never been on any fertility treatment, I don't conceive well, but I feel at my age I wont push mother nature.

So I can't offer advice on that side.

Due to your weight, which is approx 19st in the UK. That's not an unreasonable weight to fall pregnant, I know lassies weigh more than that can carry full term beautiful babies.

Problem is, they have to inform you of all the facts, and yes, being overweight and trying to carry a baby isn't recommended, but then alot of things aren't.

It's entirely your choice whether you want to continue, or you could perhaps look into some liquid diets, this helped me lose 3 stone (42 lbs). Or ask your doctor to refer you to dietician.

I wish you the best of luck and I hope you have a bouncing baby soon, through whichever route you take. x



 
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Old Oct 10th, 2010, 06:22 AM   4
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I know exactly what you are going through with regards to the weight issues. I'm 250lbs, and I myself have done research into obese pregnancies, and the internet is full of horror stories. I got into the mindset of thinking that I'm obviously terribly awfully unhealthy and should get baby-making out of my mind.
But, over time I've come to realise that the internet will lead us to believe that us larger ladies shouldn't do ANYTHING in life because clearly we'll have heart attacks and most likely die lol.
The medical professions vary with regards to their information about obesity and fertility, but to tell you that no woman over 200lbs will ever conceive... that is so untrue that the doctor in question should have their license removed for being medically misinformed and completely inept.

In truth, big women have been having babies forever, just like small women, medium women, and all the other women in between. My build is exactly like that of my aunty - she has two boys. My great gran was built the same too - now, I think she had eight children. I went to school with a very large girl who has five children. And for each of these stories I could give you ten more incidents of big women, well over 200lbs, I know personally who have children.
I'm not denying that some of us don't have our weight-related fertility issues, but I'm a firm believer that anything is possible.

Have you looked into taking herbal supplements such as Agnus Castus? It's not for everyone, but it's worth doing a bit of research into the world of alternative supplements to see if there is anything that might support you.

Don't give up on hope. But don't get yourself stressed out either. Good luck!!



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Old Oct 10th, 2010, 07:01 AM   5
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Every woman has eggs that contain X chromosomes. If the sperm that fertilizes one of these eggs contains another X chromosome, the result will be a baby girl. However, if the sperm that fertilizes the egg contains a Y chromosome, the woman will give birth to a baby boy. When a man ejaculates, between 200 and 400 million sperm are released into the woman’s vagina. However, only one sperm is needed to fertilize an egg. All theories about how to get pregnant faster are based on the belief that couples can create an environment that gives an advantage to the sperm. If you want to get pregnant fast,you’d better make your vaginal environment as sperm-friendly as possible.

While knowing when you ovulate is the key to getting pregnant, it is also extremely important to make sure you take care of yourself.

Eating healthy, regularly exercising, and keeping your stress level low will help you as well.Too much caffeine can reduce your ability to absorb iron and increase your risk for stillbirth.Avoid coffee, tea, and colas or switch to decaf to increase your chances of getting pregnant.

Also, take your vitamins, especially your B vitamins, which are good for the baby and can help reduce the chances of them from suffering from neural tube defects.

Having regular sex, 3-4 times weekly, will increase your chances of hitting a fertile time period and for many couples, this is all they need to do. Increasing sexual intercourse to at least once daily during the 2-3 days before you ovulate will also increase your chances of becoming pregnant.

It is important to quit smoking, drinking, or useing any other kinds of drugs before trying to conceive.



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