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Old Nov 11th, 2010, 12:51 PM   #11
Jules2488
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I love my stepdaughter as if she were my own. Me and DH have been fighting in court together to keep her in joint custody for a year now. When i see her all i see is this beautiful little girl who deserves everything and i would do anything to make that happen. I'vealready sacraficed so much and it doesnt feel like a sacrafice at all, but just something i have to do because i love her. My own child wouldnt change that one bit. I would love her just as much as my own child. Because despite the fact she isnt mine, she is DH's and i love every part of him, daughter included. I think you'll be just fine. You new baby will of course need more attention but that doesnt mean you love one more than the other. A family is a family. And im sure you've bonded with the children enough to love them selflessly.


 
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Old Nov 11th, 2010, 14:24 PM   #12
AngTTC
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It is great to read these storie, I have a 9 year old stepson who has lived with us for 4 years and has been part of my life since he was 2. I love him so much, we have a really special bond that he doesn't even have with his biological mother. I haven't carried a child (but I hope to soon, he can't wait for a brother or sister) but I can't see that affecting the bond I have already developed with the one I have.


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Old Nov 11th, 2010, 15:46 PM   #13
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Thanks guys for letting me see both angles =) I do believe there is nothing like a bond a mother and child have, but there is something so special and unique about a step-child too...


 
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Old Nov 11th, 2010, 16:19 PM   #14
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Very much agreed...I hope I didn't come across as saying you can't love a step-child as much. As someone said before, they are apart of the love of my life and I love them deeply. BUT I would not be happy if I can't conceive to say, oh well I have the two girls, I don't need anything else. Because I want to feel what its like to have a pregnancy and to give birth and to raise a child. The girls didn't come into my life until they were 5 and 7 and there is SO much I missed that couldn't be replaced. It might be a little different if they had been in my life since they were babies...but they haven't...and I won't EVER make them feel I don't love them as much or the same as my own child, but internally I won't be completely happy until I have my own to add to our already happy family. If I could, I'd adopt the girls and have them living with us full time but unfortunately that is not an option.


 
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