Step-Parents TTC? - Page 2

Jules2488 · Nov 11th, 2010, 12:51 PM

I love my stepdaughter as if she were my own. Me and DH have been fighting in court together to keep her in joint custody for a year now. When i see her all i see is this beautiful little girl who deserves everything and i would do anything to make that happen. I'vealready sacraficed so much and it doesnt feel like a sacrafice at all, but just something i have to do because i love her. My own child wouldnt change that one bit. I would love her just as much as my own child. Because despite the fact she isnt mine, she is DH's and i love every part of him, daughter included. I think you'll be just fine. You new baby will of course need more attention but that doesnt mean you love one more than the other. A family is a family. And im sure you've bonded with the children enough to love them selflessly.

AngTTC · Nov 11th, 2010, 14:24 PM

It is great to read these storie, I have a 9 year old stepson who has lived with us for 4 years and has been part of my life since he was 2. I love him so much, we have a really special bond that he doesn't even have with his biological mother. I haven't carried a child (but I hope to soon, he can't wait for a brother or sister) but I can't see that affecting the bond I have already developed with the one I have.

Amber_Lynn822 · Nov 11th, 2010, 15:46 PM

Thanks guys for letting me see both angles =) I do believe there is nothing like a bond a mother and child have, but there is something so special and unique about a step-child too...

Braven05 · Nov 11th, 2010, 16:19 PM

Very much agreed...I hope I didn't come across as saying you can't love a step-child as much. As someone said before, they are apart of the love of my life and I love them deeply. BUT I would not be happy if I can't conceive to say, oh well I have the two girls, I don't need anything else. Because I want to feel what its like to have a pregnancy and to give birth and to raise a child. The girls didn't come into my life until they were 5 and 7 and there is SO much I missed that couldn't be replaced. It might be a little different if they had been in my life since they were babies...but they haven't...and I won't EVER make them feel I don't love them as much or the same as my own child, but internally I won't be completely happy until I have my own to add to our already happy family. If I could, I'd adopt the girls and have them living with us full time but unfortunately that is not an option.

Nov 11th, 2010, 12:51 PM	#11
Jules2488 Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: New York Posts: 178	I love my stepdaughter as if she were my own. Me and DH have been fighting in court together to keep her in joint custody for a year now. When i see her all i see is this beautiful little girl who deserves everything and i would do anything to make that happen. I'vealready sacraficed so much and it doesnt feel like a sacrafice at all, but just something i have to do because i love her. My own child wouldnt change that one bit. I would love her just as much as my own child. Because despite the fact she isnt mine, she is DH's and i love every part of him, daughter included. I think you'll be just fine. You new baby will of course need more attention but that doesnt mean you love one more than the other. A family is a family. And im sure you've bonded with the children enough to love them selflessly.

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Nov 11th, 2010, 14:24 PM	#12
AngTTC Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2010 Posts: 42	It is great to read these storie, I have a 9 year old stepson who has lived with us for 4 years and has been part of my life since he was 2. I love him so much, we have a really special bond that he doesn't even have with his biological mother. I haven't carried a child (but I hope to soon, he can't wait for a brother or sister) but I can't see that affecting the bond I have already developed with the one I have.

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Nov 11th, 2010, 15:46 PM	#13
Amber_Lynn822 Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2010 Location: Colorado, USA Posts: 435	Thanks guys for letting me see both angles =) I do believe there is nothing like a bond a mother and child have, but there is something so special and unique about a step-child too...

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Nov 11th, 2010, 16:19 PM	#14
Braven05 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: Upstate NY Posts: 5,268	Very much agreed...I hope I didn't come across as saying you can't love a step-child as much. As someone said before, they are apart of the love of my life and I love them deeply. BUT I would not be happy if I can't conceive to say, oh well I have the two girls, I don't need anything else. Because I want to feel what its like to have a pregnancy and to give birth and to raise a child. The girls didn't come into my life until they were 5 and 7 and there is SO much I missed that couldn't be replaced. It might be a little different if they had been in my life since they were babies...but they haven't...and I won't EVER make them feel I don't love them as much or the same as my own child, but internally I won't be completely happy until I have my own to add to our already happy family. If I could, I'd adopt the girls and have them living with us full time but unfortunately that is not an option.

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