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Old Mar 9th, 2011, 14:22 PM   1
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I saw a new doc and had a HCG Beta test done. :Bitching:


I'm 20 dpo and no sign of AF.

So yesterday I went to my local health clinic and was assigned to a new doctor. Who was around my age, perhaps a year or two older.

Anyhoo you could tell she was fresh out of Uni because she was bubbly and wanted to get to know you and everything about you. Where as the one that I wanted to see she was busy with someone else and she takes things seriously.

It started of normal, I told her that I was five days missing my period, she did a urine test and as usual . So then she asked did I have a boyfriend and I said "Yes and we have been together six years and he is the second guy I have slept with in my life."

When I told her that we were not planning a pregnancy, she goes in a "shock" state and says "Oh so it would be unplanned."

I said to her either way I don't mind if it's positive or negative.

Then she started talking about contraception. Asking if I used any and I said "Anal and withdrawal" then she gave the "You know sperm can be in pre-cum."

After that she started to get serious and said "Let's talk about contraceptions." Now guys if she was a tupperware consultant and conception was the tupperware she would get a lot of sales. As she started to push the idea that I should go on contraception.

Telling me about Depo, the pill, the coil ( "Though we recommend it for women that have had children" ), the microchip one. I felt pushed so I said I would try the pill (if AF doesn't show up in time I'll just take it to get my cycle regular before ditching them). Hey she even printed off a factsheet on what the pill was about.

(All I could think of was "I learnt about contraception from those teen mags" I'm not in highschool.)

Then to add a bit of insult she wanted me to get a test for HIV, Hep A and B, STDs. Even though I expressed to her repeatedly that I have been with my OH for 6 years.

"Just incase you might have chlamydia." Uh yeah lady he doesn't sleep around because I sleep with him most nights.

Then she examined me and said "I think your periods will come this afternoon or tonght."

They haven't come at all.

ARGH what a weird consultation.

At least OH and I talked and he said he isn't phased if I get pregnant, to him it would be a "great and wanted surprise." He also felt a bit insulted when I told him how the doc was pressuring me to get on contraception. Especially when I told him about the "microchip" and he was like "What she is expecting you to have kids when you are 32, WTF."

Anyhoo had the blood work done, which wasn't that bad. Now waiting for Tuesday to get the results.



 
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Old Mar 9th, 2011, 15:03 PM   2
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What's wrong with having kids when you are 32? I've been with my DH since we were both 19 and we started ttc when I was 30 - got pregnant at 32. I don't get what you are implying there huni???

Why would you get annoyed that the doc is offering you advice? What did you want her to say? I was also offered STD tests by my GP after being with my DH for 11 years - I didn't get offended - that's her job.



 
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Old Mar 9th, 2011, 15:13 PM   3
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I have to say I think she was being quite thorough. Ok maybe she went on a but about the contraception but other than that I think offering those tests was just her job. I have been offered them and I have been with DH for 9 years. We both got tested even though we were faithful but we had been with other people before each other.

Anyway we didn't have stds but I had BV that I had passed onto him and we got it treated. It is better knowing these things as any infection down there can cause problems up higher if untreated.

Also I don't get the kids at 32 thing either- isn't that normal?



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Old Mar 9th, 2011, 15:37 PM   4
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I think that everyone is different and it is their choice as to when they want to have children. I personally would choose in a perfect world to be finished having children by the time I am 30, but this isn't a perfect world and I will go as long as I have to have mine. That being said there are many people I know that if they don't have them by the time they are 30 aren't going to try for kids because they don't want to have teenagers when they are in their late 40s, early 50s. It's a lifestyle choice and to each their own.

The doctor was just doing her job, though. Unless you flat out told her you weren't interested and she just kept on pushing it, then I would have gotten offended. Maybe I missed that in your post.



 
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Old Mar 9th, 2011, 16:42 PM   5
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The 32 age thing sorry if I offended, my OH just turned 37 and I think he would like the idea to have a child before his 40.

Yeah she was helpful but I did say to her that we have always used the method of withdrawal and anal in six years and not even come close to being pregnant. And happy to go either way, just thought it was a bit weird being told what contraception is out there. Sorry if I sounded so bitchy just a bit of a shock at the consultation and bubbliness, never had doctor who was so happy lol.

I wouldn't mind going back to her, just needed to get it out there.



 
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Old Mar 9th, 2011, 17:08 PM   6
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The last time I saw my doctor, she pushed the pill on me hard, to the point where I told her I didn't want it and she called a script in anyways. Of course I never picked it up, but still, it pissed me off. I've heard too many bad things about birth control to EVER take it again. The reason it upset me so much, was I told her I was 20, married, and our approximate income, and that I was going to start trying for a child soon. She told me it was an ignorant decision, and that I was too young, and our income wasn't high enough to provide a good life for a child.

In my opinion, doctors don't always know what's best.



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Old Mar 9th, 2011, 17:46 PM   7
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Foreveryoung. Doctors are humans too and they study for almost a decade to get to their profession. Perhaps she was worried that you are rushing in lol. Some docs will say somethings and then the patient proves them wrong!

Hey I had one gyno (I had sweating of the vagina TMI I know) I was refered to by my old town doctor who was lecturing me about anal sex and saying how dangerous it was and it should only be between two homosexual men and not a male/female relationship.

Even though it has been proved not to be dangerous if done correctly and a lot of women mags talk about.

As I said the doc was actually pretty nice and I'm seeing her in two weeks if AF doesn't show up.



 
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Old Mar 28th, 2011, 07:27 AM   8
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Update!

I got AF on the 18th. I wasn't thrilled that she came on that date, it kind of ruined the night that OH and I had.

Then a few days later my new doctor called. She really wanted to see me so I made an appointment for the following day. Which left me staying up with worry on what news she had for me.

I get into the office, tests all fine. No pregnancy. Yet she turned serious and asked what contraception I would like to take. Going through the choices again with me.

Now I didn't tell her I want to go on any contraception. I said I was happy if I did fall pregnant or if I didn't. What will be will be.

Yet she thrust this notion on me that I need to go on contraception. I got a prescription for the pill and she printed off more fact sheets on the pill. I don't want to take it.

And then she wants to see me again in eight weeks. Really!

This doctor is super weird, I have no idea why she wants me to go on any contraception and I don't recall what gave her the idea that I want to.

Just feel fraustrated.



 
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