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Old Mar 28th, 2011, 04:07 AM   41
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I think this post is totally unfair and prejudice lagainst every 14/15/16 year old girl who has ever had a baby whether it is planned or not. Im 24 now and I had my daughter when I was just a week over 17 so yeah that would have meant I was the dreaded 16 years old. Yeah i will be the first to admit that I didnt have much money but do you know what my daughter never went without. I would have gone hungry if it meant I could have given her anything. I was with her dad for 5 years before I ACCIDENTLY got pregnant. We split when she was one and do you know what. I went to university and now nearly 7 years on im a qualified nurse and I am currently trying for my second. I know its a free country and you can have your own opinion and this is mine!!!! I am first to hold my hand up and say that there are many girls out there who plan to get preg at 14/15 so they can have the benefits and house that the council willingly give out. BUT there are other girls out there who do fall pregnant accidently and make something of there lives and yeah so what if they are 14/15/16. Its the ones who dont you should be slagging off!!!!!
Exactly my point-you are living proof that not every teen mum is a terrible one!! Its very judgemental to say that they are all the same-everybody is different regardless of age etc and should be treated as individuals not as a group and labelled as "teen mums". Its pretty unfair to presume that someone is a bad parent by their age.



 
Old Mar 28th, 2011, 04:28 AM   42
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Hi I'm new here but if I'm honest I think this post is rediculous you don't know anything about what some teenage mums go through so who on earth are you to judge I had my son at 15 & my parents hardly ever babysit. me & my fiancÚ both went to college & he got a job straight after & we moved out at 16 years old. I'd also like to add he had meningitis at 6 months old & is now left with quite a few disabilitys but is lucky to be alive at all so if I was such a dumb immature child how is it that I managed 2 save his life when everyone else was willing to call it an allergic reaction & send him home where docters said if I'd have given up & left he would have died!! I suppose I don't deserve him over you who is older & been ttc for a while though hey??.. I didn't plan my pregnancy & yes I did fall quick but so what so do quite a few older mothers who go out having one night stands & get pregnant but I don't see you writing nasty things like this about them... I realy don't think your being very fair at all my life was horrible (and that's putting it lightly) before I had my little boy he has made my life so much better & definatly worth living. We now have a beautiful 1 year old little girl aswell & would like another one (I'm now 21) I can understand your frustration because with my daughter it took me a year and a half of ttc before I got pg with her but please think before you write offensive posts like this not every teenage mum is the same just like most older mums aren't either it realy has nothing to do with age & is not fair to get angry about how fast people concieve everybodys different I'm afraid that's life!!



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Old Mar 28th, 2011, 04:30 AM   43
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Some very good points ladies.

Also, most of us live in free countries and have a right to free speech. But this is a privately owned forum, so if enough people get upset and hurt by something you say, your thread may well go bye bye.

And don't be surprised if after you post something that you know will hurt people, the people in the same situation you are deriding decide to avoid your threads in future and you lose some valuable support. Is it really worth it for the sake of having a rant?

It's not just this thread, there are many like it and I understand that people get frustrated. But really, just because you are legally able to vent off and cast judgements about a section of society doesn't mean that you should.



 
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Old Mar 28th, 2011, 04:31 AM   44
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Tasha I totaly agree with your post thank god somebody understands



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Old Mar 28th, 2011, 04:37 AM   45
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I find this thread a tad offensive - my mum was pregnant with me when she was 17!

She was a married woman, not a little girl, and was the best mum ever and still is...

My grandma also was pregnant with my mum at 17, married just before she turned 18. I'm the first woman in the direct line not to have had my first baby by 18.



 
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Old Mar 28th, 2011, 04:37 AM   46
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Camlet, welcome to the forum. Sorry a rant is the first thread you come across. It is usually not like this, I know many many women's opinions of teen mum's/mom's have changed from being on this forum, because they see the women being fab mummy's and trying to change the stereotype. I am so sorry about your little boy, my oldest had menigititus at 6 week old, one of the scariest times of my life.

I was a teen Mum too, I had my first 17 days before my 19th birthday, I look a lot younger (even now people think I look 16/17 and I am pregnant with my 5th ), so I see/hear the judgement regularly.



 
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Old Mar 28th, 2011, 04:46 AM   47
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Thanks tasha poor thing meningitis is one off the scariest things in the world isn't it I couldn't amagine having to go through it even younger then my little boy did it must have been horrible!! Dw about it I'm used to it & normaly ignore it but I just have never come across such a rude & offensive comment before & it just makes my blood boil how judjmental some people can be sometimes glad to see there are some nice understanding people out there though



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Old Mar 28th, 2011, 04:50 AM   48
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This thread is disgusting



 
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Old Mar 28th, 2011, 04:53 AM   49
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Thanks tasha poor thing meningitis is one off the scariest things in the world isn't it I couldn't amagine having to go through it even younger then my little boy did it must have been horrible!! Dw about it I'm used to it & normaly ignore it but I just have never come across such a rude & offensive comment before & it just makes my blood boil how judjmental some people can be sometimes glad to see there are some nice understanding people out there though
I want to say welcome too lovie. Don't worry, the vast majority of people on here are very understanding and not judgemental. I think that unfortunately a lot of people who object to nasty posts decide to not post to avoid a fight so it looks as though everybody agrees - but as we can see on here, they certainly don't.



 
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Old Mar 28th, 2011, 05:00 AM   50
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Thank you kates84 aswell I noticed a few people disagree to but I can totaly see what you mean glad there are some decent people on here



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