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Old Sep 26th, 2008, 10:04 AM   1
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How long is too long TTC?


I am interested to know what people think is too long for ttc?
I went to my docs today (for something unrelated to TTC) and mentioned that we had been TTC for 14 months (this is the second time i have mentioned it and been brushed off). Anyway, doc said, look, i am sure you've looked it all up on the internet etc, but i promise you faithfully, 18 months is the normal amount of time it takes to conceive. Please don't even worry about it until you have crossed that threshold.
In a way it made me feel better. I've been holding off going to the docs about TTC as i don't want to go too early - i think that's why there are such long waiting lists for IVF etc - people telling little white lies to get on the referral ladder a bit quicker as they are panicking. Anyway, i just wondered what other people had been told by their docs? Is 18 months REALLY the average amount of time it takes?
I keep thinking people around me seem to get pregnant at the mere sight of some spermies! On the other hand though i hear a lot of people talking about how it took them X years to conceive, so maybe my doc is right?



 
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Old Sep 26th, 2008, 10:34 AM   2
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I think the general view is, relatively speaking, that the longer you try the more likely you are to pg- duh! I know..barring any fertility problems, obviously.

I suspect it also has a lot to do with age. I know some sources say ttc over 6 months when over 35 is the time to go to doc. Personally i think thats a bit early, but having said that any lenght of time is enough to a) make you wonder b) drive you over the egde with all the waiting, waiting, waiting..yes, you can tell i know, lol!

As i already conceived, albeit being over 35 (at 37) i was told to come back nearly year after my mc (it was in feb so im going back in Jan '09) My OH was offered a SA any time he wants..and we're gonna start there, soon.

I personally would say..a year is reasonable to wait..but if i was you i would demand some tests as at 18 months you have no idea if anything is holding you back. And there are a few things they can do at your GP's w/o sending you off for expensive and invasive investigations.

Thats what i think anyway..

Good luck, hun!!



 
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Old Sep 26th, 2008, 10:41 AM   3
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Well I went to docs about a chest infection. She said the antibiotics could affect my contraceptive and when I told her I hadn't been on it since Dec as we were ttc, she said don't leave it too long to come in for tests at your age (I'm 31) by the time you have tests done and if any intervention is required your age becomes an issue. She told me that most average couples concieve within 6months when they are really trying and having sex 2-3x's every week (we had a couple of months which were null and void due to illness) so to come back in a couple of months.

Have you considered seeing another doctor for their view?

Good luck...x.



 
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Old Sep 26th, 2008, 10:43 AM   4
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Thanks Omi!
Interesting you say that about your OH being offered an SA at any time as that's kinda how the conversation came about - i mentioned my DH wanting to go in for a SA and was told they wouldn't see him until we've been trying 18 months (I'm 30 and he's 32 by the way).
I've got a bit if a busy patch coming up, so planning to give it another cycle or 2 at the most and then go for an official TTC appointment with my GP! I know i'll get my own way and won't get fobbed off - i wouldn't argue with me anyway !!!!!
I think i've been pretty good holding off this long!



 
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Old Sep 26th, 2008, 10:45 AM   5
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Well I went to docs about a chest infection. She said the antibiotics could affect my contraceptive and when I told her I hadn't been on it since Dec as we were ttc, she said don't leave it too long to come in for tests at your age (I'm 31) by the time you have tests done and if any intervention is required your age becomes an issue. She told me that most average couples concieve within 6months when they are really trying and having sex 2-3x's every week (we had a couple of months which were null and void due to illness) so to come back in a couple of months.

Have you considered seeing another doctor for their view?

Good luck...x.
Yeah, have been considering changing doctors before we start the whole "medical route" as my GP just doesn't seem that bothered at all. I don't think being 30 is old at all, BUT, yes, i do gather from google that being over 30 makes intervention more of an issue. (Damn it- when did i get this old??!).

V Interesting how different doctors all have such different views isnt it?



 
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Old Sep 26th, 2008, 11:20 AM   6
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hey, who you calling old?? LOL.. Naw, i agree Coffee. You should definitely be seen. I think my doc is being very sensible about it all saying that as we got pg we're obviously not infertile.. however, a SA is very easy and inexpensive and he saw no problem having it done. You never know... If you ov in time and are regular like clockwork there is no reason not to see your OH, if you know what i mean? I guess thats where my doc comes from anyway.. also, my oh is on medication so the doc suggested we might wanna see if it has had any impact on the sperm.

I personally think you should be very commended on being so patient...but id think its time for the big guns now.. get seen to..if nothing else you might find out everything is ok, or get things rolling if they're not.

Im quite worried myself about the waiting times in my area...but hope springs eteral as they say so i have hope!!

Hugs, Omi xxx



 
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Old Sep 26th, 2008, 11:51 AM   7
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Hi - I'm a newbie and this is my very first post - hope you don't mind me butting in. When I went to the docs to have my coil removed so that I could start TTC she told me that it could take up to 18 months but if we had no joy after 8 months to go to see her. Not sure whether this is standard advice or whether it's because I'm quite old (groan). I'm 35 in November.



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Old Sep 26th, 2008, 13:11 PM   8
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You lot should worry....I'm freakin ancient in comparison. Let s put it this way, if I don't conceive this month, I will be in my 40's when I have my child!

Being serious for a moment through...it really winds me up how dismissive some doctors are of conception problems. I've posted this before, but for the life of me can't find where so I will post it again.

This is the link to the NHS official guidelines that a GP SHOULD follow when refering a couple for fertility investigations. It clearly states 12 months in normal circumstances and sooner, eg 6 months for those likely to have issue with conceiving, for example, couples over the age of 35.

http://cks.library.nhs.uk/infertilit...investigations

If mine played silly bu*gers, I'd have no hesitation in putting it in front of her! I pay my national insurance and taxes (rather a lot over the years) and I damn well expect a bit of help back when I need it...not when some power crazy 20-something GP who fell pregnant just by batting her eyelashes at a fella, decides when to refer me!

Sorry...I'll calm down!



 
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Old Sep 26th, 2008, 13:53 PM   9
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My doctor told me that 85% of couples TTC will get pregnant within 1 year, and 95% within 18 months.

So, having not conceived within a year, DH and I are definitely in the minority.

Hopefully it'll happen before we hit the 18 month mark, but I'm still glad that we've been referred for further tests.

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Old Sep 27th, 2008, 05:05 AM   10
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You lot should worry....I'm freakin ancient in comparison. Let s put it this way, if I don't conceive this month, I will be in my 40's when I have my child!

Being serious for a moment through...it really winds me up how dismissive some doctors are of conception problems. I've posted this before, but for the life of me can't find where so I will post it again.

This is the link to the NHS official guidelines that a GP SHOULD follow when refering a couple for fertility investigations. It clearly states 12 months in normal circumstances and sooner, eg 6 months for those likely to have issue with conceiving, for example, couples over the age of 35.

http://cks.library.nhs.uk/infertilit...investigations

If mine played silly bu*gers, I'd have no hesitation in putting it in front of her! I pay my national insurance and taxes (rather a lot over the years) and I damn well expect a bit of help back when I need it...not when some power crazy 20-something GP who fell pregnant just by batting her eyelashes at a fella, decides when to refer me!

Sorry...I'll calm down!
Thanks Lyns for posting that..

Having read the guidelines, i can see the reason i was told to wait as i DID get pg so im not considered infertile, as my lovely doc told us. However, there might be issues with OH's sperm due to medication he's on, so im pretty certain once we go back we will be referred.

Im like you btw Lyns..if i dont pg If i dont pg by July next year i will be 40 when i have my baby...yikes! LOL..oh, well..it is what it is!

I definitely urge anyone who has not gotten pg within 18 months (in fact even if i was younger i would go at the 1 year mark) to demand tests or change GP's. I think we all have a right to know whats going, if anything!

Good luck, ladies!!



 
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