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Old Jul 19th, 2011, 18:50 PM   11
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My sister really wanted a girl, so when she found out she was having a boy she was really upset, she wouldn't even name him!! But it all changed when he was born! His now 4 years old and the cutest, sweetest little man ever! And I know she wouldn't trade him for all the girl's in the world!!



 
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Old Jul 19th, 2011, 18:51 PM   12
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I didnt find out with my first, but deep down i so wanted a girl, i was rubbing my belly talking to her and calling her name, I did give birth to a girl & i changed her name 2 weeks before lol! My OH has a son, so either would be nice, although again deep down i want a boy hehe! And yes i will be finding out, when we get preggers.x



 
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Old Jul 19th, 2011, 18:53 PM   13
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Honestly, when I was pregnant with Alexandra in the early stages, I told myself (and everyone else) "Oh I'll be happy either way." In all truth, though, I would have been a little taken aback if the 20 week scan had shown a boy. Like others have said, and like you've experienced yourself, the moment that baby is in your arms, you will be too happy to care if there's a willy there or no!



 
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Old Jul 19th, 2011, 18:54 PM   14
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My sister really wanted a girl, so when she found out she was having a boy she was really upset, she wouldn't even name him!!
I have heard of one extreme case where a woman couldn't even hold her baby after he was born. She has terrible depression associated with her gender disappointment.



 
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Old Jul 19th, 2011, 19:07 PM   15
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I think I would find out the gender of at least my first baby, but not to try to get over the disappointment or anything.


I want to be able to have time to look for good deals on baby items, but don't want to buy something that is obviously girly if I know it's a boy, or something SUPER masculine if I know it's a girl.



 
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Old Jul 19th, 2011, 19:16 PM   16
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We have a DS and I too have been taking girl clothes from my cousin in hopes that #2 or #3 will be a girl. I don't think you're crazy at all. Because if you are, that means I am too.



 
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Old Jul 19th, 2011, 21:03 PM   17
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My sister really wanted a girl, so when she found out she was having a boy she was really upset, she wouldn't even name him!!
I have heard of one extreme case where a woman couldn't even hold her baby after he was born. She has terrible depression associated with her gender disappointment.
I almost wonder if the depression is more the underlying factor here. Like the depression caused the gender disappointment more than the gender disappointment caused the depression. If that makes sense?



 
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Old Jul 19th, 2011, 21:12 PM   18
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I almost wonder if the depression is more the underlying factor here. Like the depression caused the gender disappointment more than the gender disappointment caused the depression. If that makes sense?
That is entirely possible. It was a full case study that included the woman's own account as well. She already had 1 or 2 sons and talked about how she dreamed of having a daughter her whole life (since childhood). She got pregnant with twins and they were told it was a boy and girl. She went out and bought all girl stuff. Later at another scan she was told it was actually a boy and a boy.

I do believe she had severe gender disappointment and probably also experienced post partum depression as well. It was a really sad story to think she couldn't even look at or hold her baby for months....

I read it many years ago in a psychology journal I believe



 
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Old Jul 19th, 2011, 22:36 PM   19
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I almost wonder if the depression is more the underlying factor here. Like the depression caused the gender disappointment more than the gender disappointment caused the depression. If that makes sense?
That is entirely possible. It was a full case study that included the woman's own account as well. She already had 1 or 2 sons and talked about how she dreamed of having a daughter her whole life (since childhood). She got pregnant with twins and they were told it was a boy and girl. She went out and bought all girl stuff. Later at another scan she was told it was actually a boy and a boy.

I do believe she had severe gender disappointment and probably also experienced post partum depression as well. It was a really sad story to think she couldn't even look at or hold her baby for months....

I read it many years ago in a psychology journal I believe
Oh wow. Either way, it's really unfortunate.



 
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Old Jul 20th, 2011, 04:38 AM   20
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When my mom had my sister, there was another lady recovering in the same room (after the babies were born). She asked my mom if she'd had a boy, because if she had she wanted to trade because she had her 3rd girl and wasn't happy about it! My mom was like, (1) No, I had a girl, (2) You should be happy with whatever gender God blessed you with! He knows what you need even if you don't see it right now!



 
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