Viagra for Stage Fright / Performance Anxiety - Advice? - Page 2

Viking15 · Jul 21st, 2011, 07:48 AM

Hi
My DH is struggling with performance as well. I have been looking into using maca root as he has tried Viagra before and hated it. He has mentioned trying it again recently, but I'm not sure if it will just cause resentment. I'm fairly sure I will give maca root a try. I wish I could give it to him without him knowing.

Raymo · Jul 21st, 2011, 13:55 PM

hey Viking15 - thanks for posting - what is maca root? sounds intriguing...

jenn2010 · Jul 21st, 2011, 20:17 PM

wow I just posted a thread about this! we are going through the same thing right now. I've been doing fertility treatments for 9 months and finally had a good follicle to get the trigger shot. But knowing my dh cant do it everyday I was hoping just this once maybe!! we bd the last night which was the day of the shot and couldnt today. He tried but it just couldnt happen.. long story short he got upset I got upset and it did not go good. I'm hoping tomorrow we will still have time to catch the egg. But I dont know. we are trying viagra next time for sure if I dont get my bfp. I just hope maybe it was enought. ttc really brings out the emotions!

jenn2010 · Jul 21st, 2011, 20:18 PM

I'd also like to add that even though its not "hard" he can make himself ejaculate. so the condom story interested me.. so maybe we can try that. can you get condoms without spermicide? and where do you get syringes?

Viking15 · Jul 21st, 2011, 20:32 PM

You used to be able to get condoms without spermicide.
Maca root. Hm. I don't really understand it. I know it is a root from Peru. It is touted as nature's viagra. We haven't tried it yet. I can't think of how to approach the subject without hurting his feelings.

I know you have to take boatloads of it if you go the capsule route. Some people say the powder is better, but to get the gelatinized otherwise it might cause a stomach ache.

ellie27 · Jul 22nd, 2011, 02:18 AM

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Originally Posted by jenn2010

I'd also like to add that even though its not "hard" he can make himself ejaculate. so the condom story interested me.. so maybe we can try that. can you get condoms without spermicide? and where do you get syringes?

Hi, if that is the only problem that you and OH are having, I think this is your best odds!

OH does it into a non-spermicidal condom, you get them everywhere.

And we got some simple plastic 10ml syringes from an online pharmacy - think it was about £3 for 20 of them.

There is no dangers in doing this at all!!!! Chances of pregnancy are just the same as having sex.

This is our 3rd pregnancy in 2.5 years using this method (we already have an 18 month daughter)

If you need any other help, message me!

Raymo · Jul 22nd, 2011, 03:56 AM

I have told my husband about the forum suggestions and we are going to try viagra next month (picked it up today!) and I also think we might try the syringe route although nervous that it might feel a bit "clinical". Jenn2010 - I think you should just let him know that you went online and saw this thread, and that lots of other men suffer from this, it is very common, and hopefully that will open up the discussion. Also, we were successful for some months BD in the mornings making use of the morning wood, so maybe you could suggest this?

I feel sorry for the guys - at least we talk about it, there is a bit of taboo for men on this subject and they are hardly going to mull it over with their buddies over a pint.

jenn2010 · Jul 25th, 2011, 15:55 PM

when I told him about the syringe method he was relieved. He doesnt enjoy dissapointing me so this will def help!! but hopefully we wont have to do it next month

i was also thinking about using soft cups - have him ejaculate in one and then insert it in me and keep in for awhile. but i've never used soft cups before and don't really know if there awkward or not

Raymo · Aug 22nd, 2011, 12:36 PM

Just an update - We used viagra last month - just half a pill for each BD, did it on my usual peak day and the day after with the viagra, and every other day without the pills. What was amazing was just the lack of any stress or issues whatsoever on those important dates - it was such a relief. It really is a wonder drug. The OH went a bit flushed in the face but apart from that, I wouldn't have known any different, except for the fact that we had absolutely NO problems. Unfortunately my fertility monitor did not show a peak this month so I just went by my normal ov dates. Definitely going to use again if necessary, and I do think mentally that it is more comforting for the man to know that you can take a pill to fix it.

Next step for us is the dreaded sperm analysis results.

Thanks for all the help ladies x

ellie27 · Aug 22nd, 2011, 12:59 PM

Well done!

It certainly sounds like it is a step in the right direction for you and hopefully this will boost your chances of conceiving soon!!

Good luck!

Jul 21st, 2011, 07:48 AM	#11
Viking15 AutoSignup (SAAB) BnB Addict Join Date: May 2011 Location: Tampa, Florida Posts: 3,433	Hi My DH is struggling with performance as well. I have been looking into using maca root as he has tried Viagra before and hated it. He has mentioned trying it again recently, but I'm not sure if it will just cause resentment. I'm fairly sure I will give maca root a try. I wish I could give it to him without him knowing.

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Jul 21st, 2011, 13:55 PM	#12
Raymo Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2011 Posts: 11	hey Viking15 - thanks for posting - what is maca root? sounds intriguing...

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Jul 21st, 2011, 20:17 PM	#13
jenn2010 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2010 Posts: 191	wow I just posted a thread about this! we are going through the same thing right now. I've been doing fertility treatments for 9 months and finally had a good follicle to get the trigger shot. But knowing my dh cant do it everyday I was hoping just this once maybe!! we bd the last night which was the day of the shot and couldnt today. He tried but it just couldnt happen.. long story short he got upset I got upset and it did not go good. I'm hoping tomorrow we will still have time to catch the egg. But I dont know. we are trying viagra next time for sure if I dont get my bfp. I just hope maybe it was enought. ttc really brings out the emotions!

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jenn2010 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2010 Posts: 191	I'd also like to add that even though its not "hard" he can make himself ejaculate. so the condom story interested me.. so maybe we can try that. can you get condoms without spermicide? and where do you get syringes?

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Jul 21st, 2011, 20:32 PM	#15
Viking15 AutoSignup (SAAB) BnB Addict Join Date: May 2011 Location: Tampa, Florida Posts: 3,433	You used to be able to get condoms without spermicide. Maca root. Hm. I don't really understand it. I know it is a root from Peru. It is touted as nature's viagra. We haven't tried it yet. I can't think of how to approach the subject without hurting his feelings. I know you have to take boatloads of it if you go the capsule route. Some people say the powder is better, but to get the gelatinized otherwise it might cause a stomach ache.

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Jul 22nd, 2011, 03:56 AM	#17
Raymo Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2011 Posts: 11	I have told my husband about the forum suggestions and we are going to try viagra next month (picked it up today!) and I also think we might try the syringe route although nervous that it might feel a bit "clinical". Jenn2010 - I think you should just let him know that you went online and saw this thread, and that lots of other men suffer from this, it is very common, and hopefully that will open up the discussion. Also, we were successful for some months BD in the mornings making use of the morning wood, so maybe you could suggest this? I feel sorry for the guys - at least we talk about it, there is a bit of taboo for men on this subject and they are hardly going to mull it over with their buddies over a pint.

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Jul 25th, 2011, 15:55 PM	#18
jenn2010 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2010 Posts: 191	when I told him about the syringe method he was relieved. He doesnt enjoy dissapointing me so this will def help!! but hopefully we wont have to do it next month i was also thinking about using soft cups - have him ejaculate in one and then insert it in me and keep in for awhile. but i've never used soft cups before and don't really know if there awkward or not

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Aug 22nd, 2011, 12:36 PM	#19
Raymo Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2011 Posts: 11	Just an update - We used viagra last month - just half a pill for each BD, did it on my usual peak day and the day after with the viagra, and every other day without the pills. What was amazing was just the lack of any stress or issues whatsoever on those important dates - it was such a relief. It really is a wonder drug. The OH went a bit flushed in the face but apart from that, I wouldn't have known any different, except for the fact that we had absolutely NO problems. Unfortunately my fertility monitor did not show a peak this month so I just went by my normal ov dates. Definitely going to use again if necessary, and I do think mentally that it is more comforting for the man to know that you can take a pill to fix it. Next step for us is the dreaded sperm analysis results. Thanks for all the help ladies x

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Aug 22nd, 2011, 12:59 PM	#20
ellie27 Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: uk Posts: 10,560	Well done! It certainly sounds like it is a step in the right direction for you and hopefully this will boost your chances of conceiving soon!! Good luck!

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