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Old Sep 15th, 2011, 20:43 PM   1
monkeypooh
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please tell me how you do it?


When your heart hurts so much you can't even breathe. When everything is against you. When it is just all consuming sadness and pain and disappointment, how do you get through the day? How do you go to work and face your friends/ co-workers as the reality of what you may never have rips you apart. How do you get through another day with your sanity intact? When you are in constant pain and the doctors don't help you. I really need someone to tell me how to keep going because I feel like I can't make it through another day feeling this way.



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Old Sep 15th, 2011, 21:06 PM   2
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For me personally, I just have to think about my husband and how much he loves me, how he would do anything for me. I've had MANY moments where I just feel like giving everything up and just saying "fuck it all!" (I have battled severe depression for years anyways, and now dealing w/TTC is killing me!) I have to think about the people that love me and support me in everything I do and are always there for me. I try to focus on the positive things that I have in my life.

That is how I move forward and keep going. Look at all the positives and try to be thankful for them. Then I try to give myself a little pep talk about how eventually it will happen for me (I know it's hard to say).

Keep your head up sweetie! There's really no one fix all solution for everything, and you just need to find what works for you.



 
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Old Sep 16th, 2011, 00:46 AM   3
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I felt like that after almost 2 yrs ttc my LO. I just had to think of what i had and think that 1 day our baby would be ready to come to us and he did and is so full of life and fun and as much love as you would need and want i would go throw it all agane if it got my a baby like my 2 sons (i realy hope i dont have to)



 
Old Sep 16th, 2011, 01:05 AM   4
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What get's me through is definitely my hubby. Were both in this together and when I feel so down that I feel like I just wanna craw in a hole and never come out I remember why we got married. Just him holding me until I'm done crying helps in so many ways. Good luck hun and baby dust!



 
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Old Sep 16th, 2011, 01:27 AM   5
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for me, when things seem to be too much to cope with i remember that there are people out there fighting for their lives and to be thankful that im healthy.



 
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Old Sep 16th, 2011, 01:53 AM   6
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ticking.clock says it nicely. Sometimes though there's just no thought out there which can help especially if you are long term TTC when it feels like you'll go grey over getting a bfp. One thing from personal experience I've found is to get a time consuming hobby or activity going in your life - you need to give your brain a rest from the heartache plus a hobby will make your cycle whizz by. You'll find it's that little bit easier at work cause you'll be telling everyone about the hobby and that should hopefully distract you there. Even if you struggle at keeping a hobby going just try it at least. Try something new in your life too.

Hope you're ok moneypooh!



 
Old Sep 16th, 2011, 01:59 AM   7
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believe me, i lost my first son back in 1994 and then had a further 5 MC before i gave birth to my daughter

you just have to have faith hun xx



 
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Old Sep 16th, 2011, 04:59 AM   8
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I really appreciate the comments. I try so hard to not to feel so badly and I probobly wouldnt if I didnt have so much pain all the time as a constant reminder. I wish the doctors would hurry up and figure out how to help me. I keep wanting to do things like hobbies or vacations but I cant even stand up for more than 10 minutes without pain



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Old Sep 16th, 2011, 05:24 AM   9
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Big hugs!



 
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Old Sep 16th, 2011, 05:32 AM   10
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Honestly, I do it because I have to. I had depression when I was a teenager (I know what teenage girl doesn't) and it runs in my family. It's creeping up again, especially after the mc, it was a slap in the face and it was so much easier when I thought I just couldn't get pregnant. I have thought for days to just wrap my car around a tree somewhere and I would love to but just can't let myself do it. I have that little voice telling me if you do that, that definitely takes your chance away from having a baby. Also my husband. He keeps me going. All I have to do is look at his gorgeous face and I fall in love all over again. Also helps that I can hear his voice at work (he works in radio).

Like I said, I keep going because I have to. Life hasn't been easy for me and every once and while I get a little glimmer of hope and light. I try to hold onto it and enjoy it as much as I can while its there. Someday soon I'll get it again.

Good luck.



 
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