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Old Nov 20th, 2011, 13:50 PM   1
Roxie21
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No Thank Yous To:


No Thank You to:
1) Facebook ultrasound posts (yes I am jelous and want what you have and somehow feel more deserving - not the person I want to be but where I am at right now)
2)Friends and family telling me "it will happen when it's right" ( guess what I've determined the right time is right now! )
3) people saying "your stressing over this to much... Let it happen naturally" (well geez I never thought of that... Let me just turn that stress right off and next time when you stress about something I will share the same jovial revalation with you)
4) I think I might have a symptom and share excitedly - friends and family respond with either saying "no you wouldn't feel that this early" or simply "no your just hoping you are... Your just imaging it" (well geez I didn't know you were the expert on baby making And are psychic... I guess instead of taking a pregnancy test I can just ask you)
5) Lastly to the Witched Witch... I can't wait to sing "ding dong the witch is dead!"



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Old Nov 20th, 2011, 13:59 PM   2
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agreeeeeeed! sod them all, come here and chat we'll make sure you feel better cos your boobs ache ever so slightly lol xxx



 
Old Nov 20th, 2011, 14:19 PM   3
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well said. i'm sure a lot of us can relate. i tend to avoid facebook anymore, it just seems to depress me. seems everyoneeeeee is pregnant! its extra heartbreaking when it's an "accident".

good luck & lots of baby dust!



 
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Old Nov 20th, 2011, 14:29 PM   4
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Ha! Thanks... That exactly what I need! I thought this process was going to be magical... But wanting it so badly has made the experience stressful and ugly! I am only two months in and feel like a lunatic... I feel like a such a wimp!



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Old Nov 20th, 2011, 14:38 PM   5
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i have been so broody today. i guess its cos i know this time ive ovulated on time...well i think i have! just waiting for the three temp rises. i put some fake temps into my chart to see and it will crosshair me for today - which is yayyyyy lol.



 
Old Nov 20th, 2011, 14:42 PM   6
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Ha! Thanks... That exactly what I need! I thought this process was going to be magical... But wanting it so badly has made the experience stressful and ugly! I am only two months in and feel like a lunatic... I feel like a such a wimp!


i read somewhere that when you feel like the magic is taken out of the process just always remember it takes double the love and commitment to walk the journey to fertility than it does to concieve easily.

i have felt like a nut job since the get go, so i can def. relate to you there. personally it hasn't gotten easier to deal with disappoinment month after month. for some i suppose it does, i think you have to sort of learn to numb yourself? something i dont think i'll ever be able to do.. who knows though. i'm always up for talking if you ever need anything!



 
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Old Nov 20th, 2011, 14:52 PM   7
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Seriously... Most of my friends have gotten pregnant on accident... so they don't see what the big deal is... They think I am taking this too seriously. I felt like an idiot thinking i was pregnant last month.... I had all kinds of signs... And period didn't show up for five days (which is unusall) then i was gushing.... Period lasted 11 days! I don't know if that was a miscarriage or stress or caused by me being mental... But i certainly do know that I don't need my loved ones treating it like it's no big deal... It's a big deal to me! I know they have good intentions... They don't like seeing me stressed and upset. But that's where I am right now... So they just need to deal... And when I feel like I have had enough of the crazy making... I will decide to take the chill road to baby making! But as of right now I have babies coming out of my ears. My best friend is preggo, my husbands best bro had a Baby and I work with pregnant teens .... Babies are poping up everywhere around me! Torture! I am sure you guys have experienced the effect of seeing pregnancy everywhere you look because you want it so bad! Thanks for letting me vent! No one understands it unless they have gone through this



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Old Nov 20th, 2011, 15:04 PM   8
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anytime! it seems even when people want to help by saying the right things it is always the wrong thing. my mom is a good one for that, love her dearly, but, she can't understand like someone who has gone through it..



 
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Old Nov 20th, 2011, 15:58 PM   9
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The second part of your #1 is actually kind of hurtful "yes I am jelous and want what you have and somehow feel more deserving" not only to me but im sure other people.I've had to deal with a lot of jealous family members on both sides and it hurts your heart extremely bad that someone could have to kind of feeling towards you and your unborn child.My sister literally screamed at me and my fiancee over it.My fiancee's sister in law posted on Facebook how "F'n p'd off she was and blah blah blah" and his sister cried and also ranted.Don't get me wrong I used to think the same thing as you when I was TTC but once you are on the other side of it you realize how horrible it really is to be jealous over it.I don't disagree with everything you said.I stressed nonstop when we were TTC and I was symptom spotting all the time.Don't let those people bother you.Its your life and I know TTC is hard on your emotions.I wish you the best and hope you get your BFP soon!



 
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Old Nov 20th, 2011, 16:49 PM   10
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Darlin.... I know I am I being a bitter brat =o) I am an only child who simply doesn't know how to hear the word "no" and doesn't know how to wait for what she wants. The truth is I can feel the ugly head of entitlement rising up in me because I seem to think I deserve it because... A) I've been a good girl & B) Ive got my ducks in a row ( quack quack ). But the reality is that life is not fair and I don't deserve it more then anyone else. In fact there are people who have been waiting far longer then me who probably deserve it more. But alas I am human... And want what I want... And preferably now(with a bow on it and oh could you make it a girl )! I promise you I am not sending out bad baby vibes to the unborn... In fact I am one of their biggest fans! And I know it doesn't feel good to have peoples jealousy get in the way of your joy. But if you don't let it out it festers and burst out like it seems your family members did. Jealousy is a normal emotion and I feel the quicker you acknowledge it the quicker you can move on. I am capable of feeling happy for my best friend and jealous. I acknowledged it to her in all its ugliness... We laughed about how silly I am being and how hard it is for me and moved on! She knows she doesn't need to fix it... It's my stuff and it's not malicious towards her or anyone. Once I decide to get over myself... Jealousy will subside... But until then I am a grump and am not ashamed of it. I am sorry you had that experience with your family... All I can say is that it's their stuff ... That they need to deal with! Nothing you can do about and nothing you can fix They took stuff out on you.., that doesn't belong to you! You can just tell them I am sorry you feel that way and find others that can revel in the baby joy with you now. I am sure once I am knocked up i will soon forget what it feels like to be on the other side and I will want scream it from the mountain tops! Humans! We are just ridiculous... Emotional... Demanding creatures! Well at least I am!



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