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Old Mar 21st, 2012, 17:14 PM   1
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My poor DH


I feel so bad for my DH. We got IUI #1 done yesterday though I got my surge on Sunday night so I'm not sure if I had already ovulated when the IUI was done. This is his first month of really paying attention to me and what is going on because in the previous months I would just tell him when I ovulated so we could DTD and tell him when AF showed, that's it. He got sick yesterday and today I feel like someone just came and stole all of my energy. I keep telling him I think I'm getting sick because I feel no energy and he keeps saying "Oh that's a good sign." I keep trying to tell him that even if I did get pregnant this month, it is too early to tell. He studies Ayurveda and that tells him that you can get symptoms right after ovulation - even 1DPO so he keep insisting that this is a good sign. I can tell that when AF shows this month, he is going to be completely crushed. I go through this every month so I know not to get my hopes up, but he doesn't. He is just so excited thinking this is going to be our month. I feel so bad for him.

Does anyone else have a DH/OH that is like this? Should I keep telling him that it's too early or should I just let him continue thinking that this is a good sign and I might be pregnant?



 
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Old Mar 21st, 2012, 18:06 PM   2
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Yes. I told my DH last night that my nipple itches really bad. He said, "Oh is that a sign of pregnancy!?" I said, "I don't know, but it wouldn't matter seeing that I am only on CD9 and haven't even ovulated yet!"

Poor DH's. I don't think they truly understand. I mean, how can they when it is OUR bodies making all of the symptoms, etc. They can only go off of what we tell them.

Please don't get discouraged about your IUI. It is WAY too early to tell if you are out or not. I know how it is to be upset month after month. But this is something new that you tried this month! So stay positive!



 
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Old Mar 21st, 2012, 18:08 PM   3
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Also, let him think what he wants. Maybe him being excited and positive is his way of dealing with infertility. I wish my DH was still excited. It has only been 9 months and now he just keeps telling everybody how we are trying to have a baby but it isn't easy, and we are going to have to get help, etc. That made me sad.



 
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Old Mar 21st, 2012, 18:26 PM   4
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He keeps telling me to stop being so negative. Lol. I am trying but it is just so hard because I'm the one who deals with the majority of the disappointment every month. In previous months, I would say "Oh my BBs really hurt this month." and Dh would say "Your BBs hurt every month. You aren't pregnant." So this is something completely new that I'm dealing with. I'm trying to be positive about the IUI. It's hard to change a mindset though. I did catch myself thinking earlier that "Oh we DTD on Saturday so that is 20 million sperm and Sunday is another 20 and Tuesday was 4.5 etc. I definitely have a chance." Lol.

You're probably right about DH dealing with it that way. The thing is, he has 2 kids and has had a total of 6 BFP in his life so he said that he is very confident that despite his low sperm count, this IUI will make me pregnant. I'll let him keep his hope!

That thing about your DH is funny. Guys just truly don't understand which is good because I think if they knew everything, they would just go crazy!

Thank you for your answer. It made me feel better. It's good if one of us has a lot of hope! And who knows, I might become pregnant! I hope so!



 
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Old Mar 21st, 2012, 19:02 PM   5
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I used to be REALLY negative. When I got blood tests, etc. I would just assume they would be bad. Now I hope the tests are good. It is definitely super hard to be positive. My DH would say the same thing. To stop being so negative. Now it seems like the roles have reversed because now I am being positive and he is negative! I hope it wasn't me rubbing off on him!

Good luck. Let me know the results of the IUI when you find out!!!



 
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Old Mar 22nd, 2012, 07:33 AM   6
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I used to be very positive and my DH would be negative saying oh you're not pregnant. The roles have reversed, just like in your case, but I'm working on it.

I'll definitely let you know whether it worked or not! Thank you.



 
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Old Mar 22nd, 2012, 07:47 AM   7
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My DH is why I am so obsessed with this forum!! He wants another baby so badly and talks about it all the time. We could be sitting at a BBQ with friends and he will mention things like, "well i'm looking forward to growing my football team once the wife gets pregnant." or other silly little things that he doesnt think I catch....it has been crushing.

I'm praying that this is your month for that BFP )



 
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