For me it was about everything falling into the right place. I'm 27 now and have wanted a child since around around 22, but choose to wait for my life to be right so my baby would have the best start in life, if that makes sense. Anyway, I have been with my husband for five years by the time the baby is born, plus we would have just had our first wedding anniversary, we own our house, and DH is earning a fair amount of money, so that me being a stay at home mum won't be to painful. We have a fantastic support base and a really strong relationship so I just felt not only ready, but like I could this! Obv it's not perfect, I could do with a bigger car, and a bigger house (currently two bed flat) but as right as I could wait for! I still get moments of argh, this is scary though! Every time I think of our baby I just want him/her in my arms already, with so much love to give!
First time round, the first feelings of wanting to have a child started when I was 34, and steadily built from there. I was always a bit scared though, but my ttc obsession took over and made me feel desperate by the time we conceived (age 36). I always felt that I wanted a CHILD though, not a baby, and sure enough the first year was pretty intense for me. I'm loving it now though as JJ gets older.
Now that I'm ttc number 2, it has taken me nearly 2 years to feel ready again. I guess I don't have a 'romantic' outlook on it now, my eyes are wide open. Again, I don't want a 'baby', but I'd like to complete our family and provide a sibling for JJ. I know the first year or so will be tough, but that doesn't fill me with dread any more because I know it comes to an end
Hope I haven't scared anyone, I absolutely love having a child, am ttc another and wouldn't change a thing xx
I felt the desire for children since I was a teenager but I wanted to be married first. I really got babies on the brain when I got married at 23, as I've always known I wanted a big family, and I've always wanted to start kind of early. But DH was in the military and went on his secondn deployment shortly after we got married. I didn't want to try until I knew for sure he would be present for my pregnancy, the birth, and all of our child's major milestones, not to mention the little league games and school plays and whatnot. I knew I was ready when he got home from Iraq and was too close to being discharged to be deployed again. Our son is a year old now.
A few months ago we had a condom slippage accident... then AF was several days late, and I got a HPT just to be safe... before I took it I was worried, but when it came up negative, I found myself rather disappointed. I realized I had sort of hoped it would be positive. I thought about how much joy my son brings me, and I have a nephew around the age that my son would be when I gave birth if I had gotten pregnant/get my BFP soon, who is great wiith babies for such a small child... I felt like by the time my son hit that age, I would be able to handle a newborn in addition. Before the condom slippage I hadn't been sure when I would want another child, I thought maybe when my son was a few years old. Before then I hadn't felt even the slighttest urge for another yet, as my son is a very hyper handful. But it really got me thinking and searching myself and I realized I'm ready to start trying for another. I talked to hubby about it,and initially he wanted to wait at least 6mo until our lease is up at our apartment and we moved to a better neighborhood, but 5min of talking was all it took to convince him its a good time to start trying for our second.
I have wanted to be a mom for as long as I can remember after being blessed with my 4 girls I thought I was done having kids I was content with it at the time and decided to have my tubes tied. then about a year went by and I started having alot of baby dreams , dreams of my giving birth to a baby and it felt so real I would wake up sad that it was not happening then. I also had dreams of positive pregnancy tests. and every time I would put it out of my mind they would increase. I finally took it as a sign that its meant for me to have another and got my tubes untied , and now were trying for my fifth and my new husbands first. been 3 years of trying now so I hope it happens.
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