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Old Dec 10th, 2012, 07:57 AM   31
Maze
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I am so sorry for everyone's loss. It's a difficult thing that no one should have to go through, and yet so many of us do.

I lost just under two weeks ago and have been committed to trying right away ever since. This is my second confirmed pregnancy to end in miscarriage (I have had others when I was younger that were not confirmed by a doctor prior to bleeding.) After my first one, by the second cycle I had conceived my daughter. I found it really helped me, to have a child growing happily in my belly on my original due date. It also makes it easier knowing that if my first miscarriage had gone to term my daughter wouldn't exist. It gives the first one a bit of a purpose to me, like the daughter I do have was simply fated to be and I couldn't imagine a world without her.

Would very much like that to be the case again.

Though a part of my heart will always belong to my angels.

I hope we all get our rainbow babies soon.



 
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Old Dec 10th, 2012, 08:35 AM   32
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Hey Maze

That's a lovely way to think of your daughter, I'm a big believer in fate which is one of the reasons I want to get my rainbow baby before my due date too.



 
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Old Dec 10th, 2012, 12:21 PM   33
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I am so sorry for everyone's loss. It's a difficult thing that no one should have to go through, and yet so many of us do.

I lost just under two weeks ago and have been committed to trying right away ever since. This is my second confirmed pregnancy to end in miscarriage (I have had others when I was younger that were not confirmed by a doctor prior to bleeding.) After my first one, by the second cycle I had conceived my daughter. I found it really helped me, to have a child growing happily in my belly on my original due date. It also makes it easier knowing that if my first miscarriage had gone to term my daughter wouldn't exist. It gives the first one a bit of a purpose to me, like the daughter I do have was simply fated to be and I couldn't imagine a world without her.

Would very much like that to be the case again.

Though a part of my heart will always belong to my angels.

I hope we all get our rainbow babies soon.
I feel the same way about the sense of purpose to the first loss when you get pregnant again before your expected due date. Every time I get overwhelmed by longings for my first angel I remember that I could not have my son if I had kept her. I sort of feel the same about my son's twin. It was a troubled pregnancy start to end and I think my body would never have supported both babies. One had to go if the other had any chance of surviving. At least, that's how I choose to see it.

I'm sorry for all of your losses.



 
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Old Dec 10th, 2012, 13:02 PM   34
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I am glad that I'm not alone in feeling that way, I worry sometimes that it could be misunderstood, like I am looking to replace my losses or something. It truly is an emotional roller coaster... TTCing after a loss seems full of hope, doubt, excitement, fear, guilt and eventual happiness. It takes a strong person! That's for sure.

We're all very strong women indeed.



 
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Old Dec 10th, 2012, 17:43 PM   35
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How is everyone?

I still feel like I'm miles away from O and even further from that rainbow, but as I always say, I'm a day closer than I was yesterday, that goes for all of us!

I started OPKs again today even though it's probably ridiculously early. The ones I'm using are different to any I've used before and the control line seems really faint. Will keep going with them and see if I decide they're ok or not, will probably end up buying more but it's hard to find the same ones again when I get my ICs on eBay! Can't make any sense of my temps still so need to try OPKs to boost my chances of catching this next egg!



 
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Old Dec 10th, 2012, 19:48 PM   36
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Hi again everyone! AF arrived today, two days later than expected, which pushed my projected O date to Christmas. With any luck, I can make the long drive out of town to where OH will be in time to catch the eggy. That would be the best present I could possibly ask for. This is my first AF since the loss, so I am not surprised that it was later than expected. I went out today and got my OPKs and we will be trying Preseed and Softcups this cycle in the hopes of increasing our chances of catching fast. This is our third cycle TTC. OH is very impatient and the chemical made me just as impatient as he is. Wishing all of you lots of luck!!




 
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Old Dec 11th, 2012, 13:44 PM   37
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I just entered into my target window of potential fertility. (11-16th) So I am BDing every other day... and literally right before I go to sleep so I don't have to move all night. I know there is no real proof that it helps but... it worked last month, we got pregnant right away. So here is hoping that it works out! I am going to keep BDing after the calculator projected date because I suspect I am a late ovulator. (I have been BDing for a few days now too.) I bought OPKs but I apparently didn't purchase enough to really accurately predict ovulation. Which kinda sucks. I might have to buy some more before I run out.... Just as I wrote that I got a ridiculously sharp pain in my right side. Weird.


Anyway, fingers crossed my efforts will turn out.


What kind of methods do you guys use? Do you guys stay in bed after BD, or elevate? Or just continue on with you day/night? Do you think it makes a difference?



 
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Old Dec 11th, 2012, 15:25 PM   38
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We normally BD before bed. I guess that's just how we do things. lol I try to wait a couple minutes before going to the bathroom afterwards but otherwise I don't do anything too special. I have no idea if the different tricks work or not. I think I tried them when TTC my first angel but I never conceived those cycles. All three of my pregnancies were conceived on months I thought I was 'out' for sure due to timing issues, etc.

We try to BD every other day during my fertile window though sometimes we throw a couple extra efforts in between if the mood is right.



 
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Back to the TTC game! Had a D&C on November 1. AF has been for the past 5 days, and was really light but is slowing down and now we get to start trying again.



 
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Old Dec 11th, 2012, 19:00 PM   40
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Maze - I also try stay in bed afterwards and not sure if it makes any difference but makes me feel better about it! Worked last time so I don't want to start gettin straight up just in case!

Megan - good luck



 
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