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Old Mar 2nd, 2014, 18:22 PM   1
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6 months + since mc and no luck getting pregnant... Come join me in the wait!!


Hi ladies,

I miscarried September 12th 2013 and so far not even a sniff of a bfp I need some positive ladies to wait with me and help keep me moving forward. This is my second cycle with soy isoflavones and I know it is helping. It cut my cycle from a regular 33 day cycle to a 29 day cycle but last month was hard to get prime time bding in.

Please come keep me company!!



 
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Old Mar 3rd, 2014, 02:28 AM   2
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Hey Amanda I am in other thread with you but in exactly the same boat as miscarried at end of sept 2013 and still no bfp

Fingers crossed we will get one soon although unlikely for me this coming month as hubby away in usa for business for 12 days from the 8th



 
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Old Mar 3rd, 2014, 07:16 AM   3
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Hi Smiler, I don't think I'll be hanging out as much in the other thread anymore. Although I am elated for the ladies who have gone onto have successful pregnancies so far it just makes me feel worse about my own situation. I know this might make me sound like an awful person but I am sick and tired of being happy for EVERYONE else. I want my own rainbow now and everywhere I look everyone and their dog is pregnant. I wanted my children close in age and the gap is nearing 3 years and I am just so upset. Every month that passes I get more and more hopeless.

I have opks coming and I am on my second cycle using FF and soy isoflavones. I just hope I can make it happen this month. I can't keep taking this disappointment every month



 
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Old Mar 3rd, 2014, 07:19 AM   4
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I want to wish both you ladies best of luck!

Do you know when you are ovulating? Maybe with the shorter cycle you are ovulating very early? I have a 26 day cycle and before miscarriage I was ovulating 9/10/11! After miscarriage I bumped up to a 29 day cycle, ovulation CD16. I use the Clear Blue Fertility Monitor and was able to pick up on it....

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Old Mar 4th, 2014, 02:52 AM   5
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HI Amanda

You don't sound like a horrible person at all. I have not been on that thread as much recently either for exactly the same reason.

I feel exactly like you in lots of ways. I would have liked my children close in age too but even f I fell pregnant now my two would be 4 years apart. Not entirely down to miscarriage though. I always wanted two children but hubby never realy wanted any so when we had Imogen I accepted that sje would be my only child and I felt blessed by her as she is a rainbow baby. However deep down I have always hoped for number 2. Then in September I fell pregnant on the pill but miscarried again. The only silver lining was that in the 3 weeks we knew I was pregnant hubby changed hie mind about number 2 and is totally on board with ttc.

I am starting to get stressed now as took me 5 months to fall pregnant woth Imogen after first miscarriage so I sort of had that as my timescale in my head but it has not happened this time and I am 34 now so time is not on my side either.

Worst of all is simon(hubby is away in my predicted ovulation window this month so that wil be another month woth no bfp. My friend has leant me a clearblue monitor but I cannot afford the strips til I get paid and will have missed the window to start testing.

Guess I can order them ready for next month as would probably be a waste this month anyway.

Hope we bth get out bfps soon as the waiting and wondering is awful. IAm always here if you need a chat and as difficult as I am finding it at the moment I am proof that you can get your rainbow baby if you are patient.

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Old Mar 4th, 2014, 06:58 AM   6
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Thank you Smiler! I am so glad to have someone who understands almost exactly how I am feeling. I have felt very alone with all of this until now. Positivity will get us through!

My husband wants baby number 2 but always had an excuse for not baby dancing when I tell him the time is right. We had a serious discussion and he has agreed to pull out the stops this month and really try with both of our might. If we aren't successful this month I will be going to the doctor to discuss options and possibly start clomid or something. We started bd today on cd8 as to cover any possibility if O happens at an earlier time like the soy is supposed to help with. Oh well here's to a fast month with good results!



 
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Old Mar 4th, 2014, 07:30 AM   7
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Do you think it would be worth me taking soy? What does it do? I am hoping ot get apt with my dr too as I have been trying for 6 months now and I am 34.

As far as bd is concerned think it has been me that has been the problem this time. Although I am desperate for this baby I don't seem to have the sex drive I used to so feel like I am forcing myself sonetimes.

I had a few sessions of therapy after the miscarriage and my therapist thinks it might be that although I really want a baby I am probably also afraid of another miscarriage and therefore it could be hindering my sex drive.

I think she is probably right as when I had the first miscarriage, although I was devastated, I put it down to one of those things as you hear of lots of people who have one miscarriage. But this second one has hit me a lot harder. I think ,ainly because it was a lot harder to grieve with a toddler around but also it just hadn't crossed my mind that I would miscarry again and now I am even more petrified of it happening again. AS much as I am desperate for another baby I am not sure how many miscarriages I can cope with.

Hoepfully it wont come to that as we are stopping at number two and hopefully when I eventually fall pregnant this time it will lead to a healthy baby but it doesn't stop me worrying
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Old Mar 4th, 2014, 09:28 AM   8
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Soy Isoflavones are essentially natures clomid. It is taken just like clomid as well. You take up to but not exceeding 200mg for 5 days between cd1 and cd9. For example I took soy cd3-cd7 last month and it shortened my cycle from a regular 33 day cycle to a 29 day cycle it helps to bring forward your ovulation date, as well as help those who are not ovulating on their own to start ovulating naturally and regularly.

This month I took soy from cd2-cd6. There are different benefits as to which cycle days you take the soy iso. The earlier in your cycle that you take soy the more follicles are released for fertilization. The later you take soy (up to the last day being cd9) the ovaries will produce only one follicle but a large and healthy one at that.

Sometimes I feel like I am grasping at straws but then I read soy reviews online and there were so many bfps in the first 3 cycles of using it I thought wth and jumped on the bandwagon. Haha



 
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Old Mar 4th, 2014, 09:50 AM   9
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Thanks Amanda. MAy do a bit of googling ready for next month xxx



 
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Old Mar 4th, 2014, 22:20 PM   10
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Absolutely no problem hun, anything to help out a friend. Hoping we both get our sticky bfps soon. I have never prayed for anything with such persistence before. Hoping my prayers are at least heard...



 
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