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Old Nov 11th, 2014, 17:17 PM   11
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Thanks tcinks. Hi Sil. Hugs to both of you.

The procedure wasn't so bad, I had a cystoctomy in February. That was way worse.

Emotionally I am up and down, as I'm sure you can relate. Physically, I'm cramping and I'm still bleeding, but I'm hoping by December I'll be good to go.

Yes.. 12 weeks, you must have thought you were in the clear. I can't even imagine. Mine was a missed miscarriage.. so until the ultrasound I thought things were going real strong since I was miserable with MS and all sorts of symptoms.

How often are you both testing your HGC? I'm just going to wait for my AF.. I hope it doesn't take longer than 4 weeks. When they confirmed the miscarriage a few days before the D&C it was at 56,000. I've read that having a D&C helps the process move faster.

I am hoping for my AF for Dec 5-6th.

Sil.. I hope the next 2 weeks goes fast for you!



 
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Old Nov 11th, 2014, 17:48 PM   12
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I'm testing ever other day or.every three days. I was at 86,000 and last I checked it was 113 last week, so I assume it's less by now. I do not want to wait for AF to start trying. I just want to be pregnant again, and have a healthy baby. My doctor says there's no reason to wait and I don't intend to. Although I heard the the procedure it might be a good idea to wait since there .ight be some scarring or something. I'm not sure.

Was this your first pregnancy? How is your significant other handling it?



 
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Old Nov 11th, 2014, 18:30 PM   13
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I'm actually waiting for timing reasons not for health/medical reasons. I want to have my baby after August if possible. Don't ask. So .. if the timing was right.. I would be seducing my hubs right now!

This was my first. I'm 33.

My hubs is doing well. He's a doter. So at first he was just a little clingy.. but since.. I think he's been better. I think because it's so physical it will last for a long while after.

How about yours?



 
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Old Nov 11th, 2014, 18:37 PM   14
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My husband has been very helpful and supportive in taking care of me physically and emotionally. He took it pretty hard, especially after finding out it was a boy. But he's strong and is doing well, especially since he's been back at work with other things to focus on. I'm not working right now which gives me lots of time to dwell and obsess. :/ So I try to keep busy. I think I'm past the worst if it, but there have been so many days of ups and downs, physically and emotionally. I'm not really having ant pain anymore which is good, just ready for the bleed to stop!!!



 
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Old Nov 11th, 2014, 18:44 PM   15
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Hi ladies! I would love to join you guys. I had a missed miscarriage at a little over 10 weeks - I was measuring 8 weeks 3 days. It was pure shock as I (like you zayain) was experiencing plenty of pregnancy symptoms and thought everything was on track. I went in for a regular appointment and had an ultrasound where there was no heartbeat. Just a sweet, little baby floating around. I had a D&C that afternoon as I needed to emotionally heal as quickly as possible. I remember waking up crying from the procedure because I knew at that point everything was over. Two days after the procedure I spiked a really high fever, had chills and body aches. Back to the doctor I went where they admitted me to the hospital for a few days. I had blot clots, internal bleeding, and an infection. A D&C is supposed to be a quick procedure but it all ended up being about a week long process. I just got my period today (much earlier than I expected) and my doctor gave me the go ahead to try after this cycle. So we will go back to using the clearblue fertility monitor to track when I O and we will go from there. The best Christmas gift would be to get pregnant again, but even if I do I know I won't be as excited as I should. I will live the entire pregnancy in fear.

I am glad you ladies have told your stories. I am sorry this has happened to any of us. I always said I wouldn't wish this type of thing on my worst enemy. We can only grow stronger from something like this and know that there is a plan for us! I had a miscarriage prior to this and now have a DS. I wonder what I would do without that little guy and know he wouldn't be here if things didn't unfold as they originally did. Keep the faith and hope ladies!



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Old Nov 11th, 2014, 18:54 PM   16
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Hi KTJ! Thanks for sharing your story.

I'm so glad I found this site. I never knew anyone close to me who had a miscarriage and had no idea how common it was. I never expected it and was so devastated. It really helps to have other women who have gone through it and can be an encouragement. And it gives me hope when I hear of other healthy babies after a miscarriage.

I'm so ready to be a mom! It's so hard to see other women around me with their healthy children. Or even worse, hearing news stories of parents abusing/neglecting their babies. I just don't understand! There are so many people who would love to love those babies!!
Sorry for that little rant, just saw yet another news stories about a six week old ending up in the hospital because of abuse. It's so sad.



 
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Old Nov 11th, 2014, 19:01 PM   17
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Hi KTJ! Thanks for sharing your story.

I'm so glad I found this site. I never knew anyone close to me who had a miscarriage and had no idea how common it was. I never expected it and was so devastated. It really helps to have other women who have gone through it and can be an encouragement. And it gives me hope when I hear of other healthy babies after a miscarriage.

I'm so ready to be a mom! It's so hard to see other women around me with their healthy children. Or even worse, hearing news stories of parents abusing/neglecting their babies. I just don't understand! There are so many people who would love to love those babies!!
Sorry for that little rant, just saw yet another news stories about a six week old ending up in the hospital because of abuse. It's so sad.
Yes I just don't understand why this stuff isn't talked about more. It's like there's a "secret club" for miscarriages and you don't know who's in it until you tell someone. I am a big believer that every life should be celebrated, no matter how small, so I found it hard to talk about things knowing it's not as accepted in society.

And totally with you about kids being treated bad. I don't understand those people and why we're in the boat we're in. I guess it's not for us to understand.



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Old Nov 11th, 2014, 19:07 PM   18
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Hi KTJ!

Glad we have a little group going. I'm sorry to hear about your infection.

Missed miscarriages are just cruel. I was miserable with ms for three weeks.. all the while it stopped growing.

I'm hoping I'll be in the clear soon and get my period sooner rather than later. Right now I'm focusing on eating better and getting back into my workout routine for a healthy pregnancy.

Let's hope we all get BFP's before the end of the year!!



 
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Old Nov 12th, 2014, 05:27 AM   19
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I'm excited to have 2 new ladies joining!

tcinks, how are you hanging in there? It is so hard waiting for the line to turn negative. Your numbers jump down so fast at first and then it seems to slow down so much at the end. If it gives you some hope, once my test finally went negative, I ovulated only 3 days later so hopefully the same will happen for you!

zaycain, welcome! Thank you for sharing your story. I'm sorry for your loss. For me, my doctor tested my HCG twice (once when the bleeding began, and once 2 days later) and the numbers went from 1,900 to 400 in the 2 day period. After that things slowed down a lot. Since it dropped so fast the first two days, I assumed I would be back to 0 in just a few days. I took home pregnancy tests to confirm my numbers were dropping, and they didn't go back down to 0 for about 2 and a half to three weeks. Hang in there. It is still so fresh in my memory the stage that you are going through. I lost my little one less than a month ago (October 21). Please feel free to vent/chat all you want about it.

KTJ, thank you for sharing your story as well. That sounds like such a scary time. I am glad that you are physically healing from the infection and seem to be on the path to recovery. I know exactly what you mean about living the pregnancy in fear. I am in my first two week wait since my loss, and half of me is thrilled to be trying again while the other half is terrified to even take a pregnancy test. It plays with your emotions to hope for a positive test for so long, lose your baby, pray for a negative test so you can try again, and then switch back to looking for that positive line. I hope you and I (and everyone in this group!) gets their rainbow babies soon.



 
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Old Nov 12th, 2014, 09:40 AM   20
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Ugh.. waking up is the worst part. I feel so empty and there is still such a void. Bleeding is almost done, so that's promising when it comes to levels yes?

tcinks - did they say there is a correlation with bleeding ends and levels? Are you still spotting?

Sil - What date are you testing on?



 
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