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Old Nov 15th, 2014, 22:19 PM   41
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Kdmalk, thanks for sharing your story! I'm so sorry for your loss.

I think a reason some doctors say to wait after having a d&c is so the uterine lining has time to rebuild. In some cases the procedure could scratch it/leave it damaged. Doesn't happen with everyone, but I think it's just a precaution. But it is a good idea to talk with your, maybe you'll get the go-ahead!
I didn't have one, mine was natural. My doc says I can try again as soon as my hcg is zero...which seems to be taking forever! Over four weeks now. Hoping not too much longer, DH and I are anxious to try again.

I too was hoping to have my cute little bump during the holidays. I would have been 17 weeks and probably finding out the gender right about now.

It's so tough to go through but my husband and family and friends have all been supportive. And the ladies on this site have been great, it's nice to have encouragement from others who are going through the same thing.



 
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Old Nov 15th, 2014, 23:01 PM   42
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I think we will probably just go ahead and wait. I've been putting some research into sperm quality... I literally cannot believe I had to say that just now. lol. He works looong hours and most days is either gone when I wake up or comes home after I am asleep, or occasionally both. That makes it extremely hard to dtd. I would embarrass myself if I said how long we went without sex before we decided to ttc (hint: it can't be measured in months). I keep telling him it isn't his fault, but part of me will always wonder if perhaps the fact that his sperm was just hanging out in there for so long meant that whatever did come out wasn't completely okay and caused the baby to have some sort of genetic issue. It takes a few months to completely replace sperm and start over. I have made him commit to regular bd'ing in the meantime (even if it is at 3am!) to make sure we are going to have good sperm when we start trying again. What an embarrassing story! lol. But hey, if you can't say it to strangers on the internet, when can you say it?



 
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Old Nov 15th, 2014, 23:47 PM   43
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Haha! No need to be embarrassed here!

While I don't have that problem, I can understand and know other women who do. It can be really hard to make time for it when work schedules are so hectic! I'm glad you got your DH to agree to more regular DTD .



 
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Old Nov 16th, 2014, 07:12 AM   44
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Thanks for sharing, Kdmalk. Sorry for your loss. You had a mothers instinct when you felt something was wrong! Still makes it just as hard. I'm interested in what your doc says about TTC again. I had a D&C and my doc said not to get pregnant before you had your first AF; otherwise , the risk for miscarriage again is much higher. They used to say wait 2-3 cycles before trying, but that was just for dating purposes because the ultrasound didn't exist then (so this is old school thinking). Then he said some OB 's have you wait longer just to ensure emotionally you're ok. But overall, once you have that first AF you're 'safe' to try again. Getting your AF means your uterine wall was rebuilt well enough to conceive, otherwise you wouldn't of had a period. So that was the advice I got from 2 of my OBs. Interested in what yours says because I'm sure it'll be different!



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Old Nov 16th, 2014, 15:06 PM   45
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Hi ladies. Can I join you all? I've just read though all of your heart breaking stories and I am so sorry for all of your losses! It truly is the worst feeling!

I lost my little baby at 13 weeks to patau syndrome on 5th November. This was my first, much wanted child and I am deveatated! I can't quite believe it's happened still!!! I had a d&c on Friday 7th and am still bleeding, so really wishing that to finish before trying again as soon as possible. I just desperately miss the feeling of being pregnant and want it again ASAP!!

Because of babies condition, we have had lots of tests and are going for bloods ourselves tomorrow just to check there is nothing genetic! Very scary!!!

I'm just praying now I have been through the worst of it and everything will be good from here! Sorry for the long post.
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Old Nov 16th, 2014, 16:00 PM   46
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kdmalk - Ha. No such thing as TMI on this board! One thing I worry about is getting to obsessed with ttcing which then causes infertility. I hope you look at it as a way of getting closer to each other rather than JUST for conception. It makes me sad you don't have that time to spend with him.

KTJ - Yes.. these tests are already driving me a little batty. Because I have so many I decided to do another one the next day and it almost looked like it got darker! Next one I'm waiting to do next Friday. That should have a little more of a noticeable difference... maybe? Who knows.

Hanrh - I am so sorry for your loss. You and I had a D&C on the same day. I was only 10 weeks, so I'm sure with every week more it just gets harder and harder. I feel the same way that you do. Being pregnant was pretty miserable but I miss the feeling of creating something special with my DH. It will be interesting to see how our HCG levels compare. Do you know where

AFM - I have my follow up appointment 11/25. I got genetic testing on the baby so we'll see what the cause was. I'm not sure how I will feel about that. Did any of you get genetic testing?

I am also making a pledge to get back to being healthy and strong. On Wednesday I'm starting back into my workout routine and doing cycling and barre. I look forward to getting my endorphins up and regaining some muscle. I lost a ton of weight and I'm so weak, I'm looking forward to it!



 
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Old Nov 16th, 2014, 16:19 PM   47
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Hanrh, I hole your testing going well! Let us know.

zaycain, I'm trying to get back into my workout routine. It's so hard with it being sooo cold, I just want to stay inside in bed all day! Haha. But I'm sure it'll help with healing my body as well. And eating better... I used to make green smoothies for breakfast all the time and just eat a lot better than I have been recently. Hopefully I can stick to it again. I may need you to help keep me accountable!



 
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Old Nov 16th, 2014, 20:27 PM   48
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Hah. It's hard to get motivated. It seems that this may help get my mind off of everything. I think I got prego the first time cause u wasn't expecting anything. Now I fear will be obsessive!



 
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Old Nov 17th, 2014, 04:13 AM   49
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Zaycain - oh wow that will be interesting to compare. I'm not sure about my levels. My doc hasn't actually mentioned checking them?! I did a hpt yesterday and it was a light positive. How about you? I also have had genetic testing which I'm terrified about. So scared that it will be something that will prevent us trying again! It's lovely to hear you are feeling strong enough to get back to being healthy. Do you do anything in particular to stay healthy whilst ttc?

Tcinks - we will have to stick together with this healthy eating. I used to have a smoothie for breakfast everyday so would like to get back into that routine again.



 
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Old Nov 17th, 2014, 09:55 AM   50
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Hanrh - I was working out a lot and doing the cycling and barre 4-5 a week. I'm going to try to do the same thing.

I took a hpt on Friday and Sat. It was slightly lighter than the control line. No difference between the two. So I am holding off till Friday to test again.

Trying not to become obsessive!



 
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