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Old Dec 29th, 2015, 12:24 PM   1
tcinks
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Looking for a buddy who logs in a lot :)


Does that sound needy?

I just want to meet some ladies who are on a similar journey and give/receive support. I have lots of close friends and sisters who are pregnant or have young babies...and have no idea what I'm going through or how to relate. Mostly no one talks about it

I've lost two babies, the first at 13 weeks and the second at 21. It has been almost 6 months since that most recent loss and I am still not pregnant yet. (well I'm in the tww, trying to stay hopeful). My first babies were conceived the first month actively trying.

It's so hard to be surrounded by so many women having absolutely no trouble conceiving/no experience with loss. I'd love to make some friends on here who are know what I'm going through.

I'm Terrissa, 26, live in the US. DH and I have been married for 3 years and always wanted a houseful of children (I come from a family of 6, so at least that many or maybe more!). We never dreamed it would be this hard to grow our family. Sometimes I just need to vent...or talk about my little ones.

Anyone out there want to buddy up??



 
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Old Dec 30th, 2015, 08:05 AM   2
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I will be your buddy. I log on every day. I'm a bit of an addict. lol A little bit about myself.

I am 37. Hubby and I have been married for nearly 5 years. I was diagnosed with PCOS at 18 and always knew I would have fertility issues. (but I do wish we knew more about the syndrome back then because no one told me how to keep it under control)

So we started going to the doctor a year before we got married. I was diagnosed with a different issue (potentially cancerous) that took 3 years to get rid of. I did 2 rounds of clomid but that made me gain a lot of weight (I am already obese so this added a wrinkle). So I had to lose the weight I had gained. That was in 2014. i got a new doc in 2015 and this year we got to actively try when I got put on Letrozole.

First cycle didn't work as the meds weren't at the right dose. Second cycle worked to make me ovulate but no bfp. 3rd cycle worked and we got our BFP in August. Unfortunately that ended in a mc at 5 weeks 5 days.

We finally got to try again one cycle ago. That didn't get us our bfp. Now i am in the TWW for this current cycle. symptoms look promising but I am only cautiously optimistic.

I totally understand the lack of sympathy. My sister had multiple miscarriages but even she is close lipped and just gave me the "at least you know you can get pregnant" retort. I have found great solice in this forum. It's been nice to talk to many different women who have gone through similar experiences as I have.

Oh and I am from British Columbia Canada.



 
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Old Dec 30th, 2015, 09:45 AM   3
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Hi Aayla! Wow what a journey. I can't imagine what it must have been like struggling so long to get pregnant and then having a miscarriage. I'msorry for what you're going through.

I'm only on cycle 5 since my loss and it already feels like an eternity. Who knew having a baby could be this hard? Not me. :/ And wow about your sister...you would think she would be more sympathetic since she went through it. People just have a hard time talking about difficult things...

I'm on 9dpo and tested this morning with a frer I know It's still early but I'm not very optimistic. I don't understand my body anymore. Ugh.

What day are you on? When will you test?



 
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Old Dec 30th, 2015, 11:21 AM   4
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I am 26 years old I have been married for 5 years we have an almost 4 year old son. My husband and I really want another sibling for our son we got Pregnant in June of this year and we lost the baby in August. I got pregnant with both my son and our angel within the first month of trying. Now after my D&C my cycles have changed so much I am slowly loosing hope that we will get pregnant again we have been trying since Oct of this year and have yet to have a BFP yet.



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Old Dec 30th, 2015, 11:34 AM   5
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Sorry for your loss Jasmine I think waiting for that bfp after a loss always feels like forever! Don't give up.



 
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Old Dec 30th, 2015, 14:03 PM   6
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My plan is to just relax I know temps and OPKs are for other people but the stress of it all wears me out



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Old Dec 30th, 2015, 14:51 PM   7
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I agree. I've tried temping and couldn't keep it up. If I'm not pregnant this cycle I might try opks, we'll see. What CD are you on ?



 
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Old Dec 30th, 2015, 14:52 PM   8
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Hey Ladies, need another buddy? I try to log in daily, usually the weekends are tough, but I still try.

Well I'm Melissa... had an ectopic about 2 yrs ago, still not pg again... My love and I are going on 16 yrs together, 7 yrs married in Jan. (<-- HS sweethearts, lol) Well we only got blessed the one time and it was the ectpoic. Treatment for that was a lil tough and resulted in the lose of my right tube, but other than that, healthy and all is well..

I am on 8 dpo today and will test tomorrow am (I know super early) before my annual well woman exam at 10am... *sigh* we'll see. I feel out already but only God knows til AF shows her ugly face.... We do plan on talking to doc tomorrow about checking hormone levels and maybe getting some help in TTC. 16 yrs not preventing and only one pregnancy, seems a lil off to me.. BUT we WILL get answers and SOON!!!

Prayers going up for all of us to get our s & Lots and lots of to all you ladies!



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Old Dec 30th, 2015, 15:14 PM   9
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Hi Melissa Wow that's a long journey to only have one bfp. Sorry for your loss. Hoping this is your month! Do you track your cycles at all or just bd and hope for the best?



 
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Old Dec 30th, 2015, 15:36 PM   10
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tcinks - Thanx girl and I am so sorry for your losses as well. It's so heart breaking when you want it more than anything! I have a tight nit group of GFs all of which have at least one or more kids, no losses and can conceive just thinking about babies (guurrrr ) and I just felt like they couldn't/didn't relate so I put my brave face on and cried and healed with my love. But I def feel it would have been a lot easier had I thought to join a forum with other women feeling the same things. So I am glad you are here so WE can relate and vent as much as we want without judgement and also give our poor OHs a break from hearing it.. lol

I have always been pretty regular. They gave me three rounds of Methotrexate to treat the ectopic (which obviously didn't work since I ended up in surgery anyways) and had my cycles all out of wack. I went to an acupuncturist for a few months and she really helped me get my cycles regulated again. Acupuncturist actually made me download a tracker so we could see my progress and if we needed switch things up at all. So that tells me, my O window and cycle lengths... I have not begun temping yet, but will next cycle if this on is a bust. Also going to ask doc for some insight, advise and help tomorrow. *Fingers Crossed*

Oh and we BD A LOT... still so into each other which amazes me every day, but I still say my thanks and pray it never changes :0)



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