ND: I too hear that is a big advantage of the d&c. After cytotec, I had to actually deal with seeing my little baby in the folds of toilet paper when I wiped, and then the umbilical cord the next morning. For me, it was actually peaceful and brought on some sense of closure, but I hear for many it can be quite traumatic. With the d&c, you won't have to go through that, and you won't have to let time drag on wondering if there's anything that will cause problems later. Hope all goes well
Sorry for the delayed posts. Learning myself through all of this tells me I take about 2 days to process things.
So, my doc wanted to do the d&c and I wanted a laparoscopy. She agreed given the pain on my left side. So Friday my preop bloodwork showed my hcg increasing to something like 450, up 100 from Monday. I freaked. ... immediately knowing that was not good and it was highly likely to be ectopic. 5:12 pm the clock read as the anaesthesiologist was telling me to breathe deeply to knock me out. 8 pm, the nurses are calling my name to wake me up in recovery. Doc has already given the bad news to the dh....ectopic in the right tube, near rupture, un repairable.
I've been healing nicely and should be fully mobile by Wednesday. While distraught from the loss of my tube, I am happy to be alive, still full of hope and look forward to trying again.
wow ND!!! what an update. I'm shocked, really. I can't believe they didn't see that and good on you for knowing that something just wasn't right. I'm glad that you are okay and recovering. sending you so, so many big hugs and please let me know if you need anything. Although my situation was different, it's similar and I'm around to chat anytime you need. wishing you a speedy recovery.
les - thanks for thinking of me. how are YOU? I'm hoping AF is just around the corner for you (I think that's the first time I typed that on this site )
I had my HSG done yesterday and all is clear. I guess I'm running out of ideas as to what's going on (which is probably for the better that I stop self diagnosing). If dye could get into my uterus and tubes, then surely the sperm can. and nothing was abnormal about the shape of my uterus that would have prevented implantation the first time. of course there are still more invasive tests that can be done, but as of now- unexplained. sigh. the next step will be an SA for DH which they are just doing to cover their bases...they don't think there is really a need since we got pregnant on the first try.
follow up appt with obgyn is on Tuesday. hoping they release for to the fertility clinic then because this hopeful mama is getting impatient!
Haha I know it's surreal to now be sitting here actually hoping for AF. I think I'm ok now if I get another week before I'm on to the next cycle.
Today was a really tough day for me. I couldn't stop crying. I realized how very much I miss being pregnant, but not just being pregnant...I miss being pregnant with my gremlin. I feel so silly confronting these feelings, wishing for something that just can never happen. I need to work through this madness before we start trying again. The last thing I want is to be pregnant, but mad or sad that I'm not pregnant with the right baby.
ND - I hope you're up and about, but also taking it easy. Lots of hugs your way.
Hi ladies, can I join you? I know leson from the TTC, bfp and now sadly the mc boards. But hello bee and ND!
I had a MMC at 10 weeks (empty sac measuring 8 weeks) and an ERPC (at 11+2) 2 days ago. It's been such a heartbreaking couple of weeks and although the physical side is almost over, I know the emotional ride is going to be tough. Having ladies to chat to who understand what you are going through is so important. I'm glad I found this thread, as leson said, you don't know quite where you fit in! We'll be waiting for af to make an appearance in 4-6weeks before we start TTC again. I can already feel the super impatient me beginning to surface....
Of course you can join here MrsU! Just a small group so far, and only bee is in ttc mode in this moment...but we'll all be back there when we're ready.
Bee - I'm sure it is a mix to have everything check out but still not know why it's taking so long. My SIL and her husband tried for over a year. They went through all the tests and everything checked out. She's now very pregnant and expecting her little boy in July. You just never know.
I'm officially back to ttc! AF arrived today 4+3 days post MC. It's a few days later than I had hoped, but definitely still in early March NOT mid-March. I knew my ob was wrong. Goes to show you that in some ways we know our own bodies better than the docs.
ND sending hugs your way
Bee - Hope you're close to enjoying O time!
MrsU - The wait is tough...I'm not going to lie. You saw me struggle with it. I can't even describe how happy I am right now. Not as happy as I was to be pg, but still so glad it's over. I was bracing myself to wait another 1-2 weeks, so to see AF today is such a relief.
Yey!! Leson I am so so happy for you! (I'll prob never say that about af on this site again!) and you're not much later, I know you have short cycles though. Hopefully in a few weeks I'll be celebrating the return of my af too! X
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