I guess it's unknown territory isn't it, but I'd like to think that in time things will feel almost back to the way they were before. That's my hope anyway. I think TTC changed things for us, it went from in the moment spontaneous times, to we need to be doing this tonight. It was so strange at first but after 2 months we got used to it. It did make me worry though that the spark had gone, because you have to get used to doing it when you maybe don't fancy it. Anyway, the point is we got used it and the next cycle was great with lots of bding (it was the lucky one too)
Ah yes your temps are a bit up and down. Mine often are pre o, they are never the same each cycle. With any luck they might settle and still show ov for you. Mine seem to be ok at the moment, although like you, I've not been sleeping well the past 2 nights so not sure if I trust them! Also my skin is breaking out which doesn't fit in with normal symptoms around this time. Who knows
Officially back to ttc as of yesterday. It's an odd sort of bittersweet feeling. I've been stuck in my own head a bit these past few days. As much as I want a baby, I feel like it's not going to happen this cycle. Kinda hoping we get this one as a freebie just to get used to everything again. Guess we'll see how it goes!
MrsU - So true about TTC. We were really enjoying it, and now it's all different again. It's a bit sad that we won't have that same innocent excitement again...I just keep reminding myself that so many wonderful firsts lie ahead.
Bee - Looks like you O'd and completely covered your bases over there. Go get it girl!
ND - Hope you're getting the rest you need and healing up as best you can one day at a time
It's not possible for me to ov early is it? Not if I still had a faint +hpt on cd11. I had o pains cd 9 & 10, which would be normal for me but they would continue to cd13 ish. Not had any since then but I've got achy v lt cramps today which i tend to get post ov. I did a couple of opks and there was a line but not +, so I'm thinking this could still be hcg. Not even sure why I'm bothering trying to chart, guess I feel like I need to try and be back in control or at least doing something!
I think it's good that you're temping. Otherwise your body would probably be giving all sorts of mixed signals. I'd say you're still well within the pre-O zone. I O'd about a week later than usual. Give it another week and see what happens. I did have some pains and cramps as time went on, but I figured it was just everything shrinking back down and getting back to normal.
Yeah you're right. Maybe my body was gearing up for ov but didn't quite make it? I wasn't expecting to feel anything like o pains for another week at least, think I got a bit excited when I did! I'll keep on temping and see what happens.
I think it's great that you're charting unicorn! I wish I had been both for my bfp cycle and afterward, but I didn't even discover it until later. unless it's stressing you out too much - otherwise I think it's great to have a little insight into what your body is doing. Based on your temps, I assume you have not ovulated and either might not this cycle or have a longer cycle. My post loss cycle was my normal 29 days, but a lot of women take 6 weeks post loss to have another CD 1. Thinking of you and hope you are hanging in there
les - welcome back to the ttc game such a bittersweet thing. I hope you are holding up alright too. It looks like you are just about to o! you'll be a couple days behind me. FX and sending you peace.
I am 4dpo and looking forward to my first RE appt - less than a week now! I won't know if this cycle worked then or not (wouldn't that be crazy and a little embarrassing lol) but I wanted to make sure to schedule in time in case she wants to do CD 3 and 21 bloodwork. that way, we can schedule it for CD 3 if so. just feeling like a weight has been lifted off of my shoulders knowing that someone is going to listen to me (the first consultation is an hour!!! ) and fight for me.
Bee - So glad someone is listening and trying to help you figure things out. Seems like you have your bases covered. If it happens naturally, you're doing all you can. If it doesn't, you are on a path to hopefully get whatever help you need. Did your DH do the SA yet?
MrsU - Since you're type A like me, I think symptoms/your body would stress you out a bit as is. For me, I like to see if I'm in post-O or pre-O helps me to ignore all those minor little bumps and baubles I feel that I never noticed before.
I think I am about to O bee. Thanks for noticing! I hadn't checked CP in quite a while, but holy cow was it H & S this morning! I took an opk just in case. Seems like it's getting darker, but not a positive yet. Going to test again tonight just in case, but hoping those little eggs get another day or two to plump up and mature. I usually O on cd10, fingers crossed that's what happens. It'll be a relief to feel like that at least is regular. Then comes the long wait to see what my LP does...hopefully I don't stress out too much during the wait!
Ladies - mind if I join you? I am completely new to this community, so I'm still trying to figure everything out.
However, my husband and I have been married for 15 years. I had an ectopic pregnancy in 2009 when we were NTNP and after that we just weren't emotionally ready to try for kids. So we waiting quite awhile (around 3 years) before I went off birth control. That's been several years ago now and we are still TTC #1 with no luck. I recently found out IVF is likely my only option, since my HSG test showed my one remaining tube is closed likely from scar tissue from the surgery to repair my ruptured tube from the ectopic.
So right now I'm researching everything I can on IVF and adoption. I've been checking everything out on the assisted conception board too.
Anyway, just wanted to say hi and that I commend all of you for getting back at it after a loss. Had I known at the time that I'd have this hard of time afterwards I probably would have tried earlier, but we just weren't ready at the time.
Hang in there. It does get easier after a loss, though sometimes I still randomly break down and cry for no reason.
Bronte - Of course you can join! I'm so sorry you've been through so much. Hindsight is 20/20 huh? I know the feeling, but I'm sure you started when you were ready and really that's all you can do. Glad you know what's going on, and Fx IVF works for you. I've seen so many success stories! Where are you at in the process? So fun question - I assume your un means you're a Bronte fan?
Thank you also for the kind words. I figure I have a bumpy road ahead, but I trust it will get easier if I just keep facing the hurdles and letting myself feel whatever it is I need to feel.
My friend announced today that she's expecting #2 in September. It just reminded me of the announcement that I had planned. My baby was also due in September and I thought I would be sharing the good news with everyone by now. I hate that her news just filled me with longing and sadness for me instead of happiness for her. July-September is going to be super hard for me. SIL due July, one friend due August, and now another friend due September. I can't help but think why me...but I hate that thought bc there is no answer and I would never wish this on anyone else. Hoping I'll have the strength to get through it all by then.
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