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Old Sep 3rd, 2016, 10:30 AM   1
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September loss thread, TTC our rainbow babies


Hi ladies,

I haven't been very successful with responses to my posts in the past, but I am really struggling with this loss, and would like to hear how you are all coping and getting through this painful time and when we can start trying again? I lost my first through early MC at 5w,and I am still suffering through it.

Sending strength and love to you all



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Old Sep 3rd, 2016, 18:41 PM   2
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Hi I'm sorry for your loss, I know how hard it is to get through. I lost my little boy at 15 weeks, delivered him on Aug 21st.

Have you had an AF since mc?

Here's to leaning on each other to get our rainbow babies!



 
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Old Sep 3rd, 2016, 18:59 PM   3
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I lost my baby at 14 weeks and delivered them 2 days ago. Its not fair.
I think i am dealing ok. I do burst out crying randomly still. It has been helping to talk about the baby definitely.


I dont know when we will try again, to be honest did not even think about it untill i came on here. I can see a lot if people TTC literally straight after a loss, even ones further along than me. I was actually shocked but the more i think about it the more i understand that for some people it helps heal quicker.



 
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Old Sep 3rd, 2016, 20:53 PM   4
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Helen I'm so sorry for your loss. I delivered at 15 weeks so we are very similar. I think a lot of people go right into ttc because it helps you heal emotionally in a way. I can say from experience that rainbow babies have a way of filling the holes in your heart. But it's different for each person. You'll know when you are ready



 
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Old Sep 4th, 2016, 14:46 PM   5
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I'm so very sorry for your loss, hoping you have your rainbow baby soon!



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Old Sep 17th, 2016, 17:57 PM   6
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So StillPraying. It was not long after I read these words about people trying so soon after a miscarrage that ...... I have now become one of those!
I thought about it a lot and the more I did the more I realised that it might be something we should think about. As days have gone by we have really just been wanting to be preggo again as scary as it will be.
So we have decided that we will give it a go and hope for the best.
We are still to have our appointment with the hospital but i hope we hear this week so we can get some questions answered but aside from that we will very much be TTC



 
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Old Sep 17th, 2016, 23:04 PM   7
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Oh helen thats amazing it is scary but in the end will be worth it im so excited for you!! did you have any testing done?



 
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Old Sep 18th, 2016, 17:52 PM   8
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Yes we chose to have testing done to see if it could tell us why it happened. They said because its never happened before then they might not find a reason.
We are ok with that. We have not heard anything at all yet.

Yes its so scary to be even thinking about trying really and part of me also feels guilty for wanting to but i think weather we try next week or next year i will still feel the same way, its just natural I suppose.

What has happened has just made us even more determined to add to our family. We will still grieve for what has happened but we hope if we are lucky enough to have another pregnancy and it is successful that the happiness will heal some of the pain.

Did you opt for testing too?



 
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Old Sep 18th, 2016, 21:26 PM   9
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I only had testing done on me, they tested for everything from toxoplasmosis to lupus. After delivering him and holding him I just didn't want to know how, just wanted to make sure it wasn't me that caused it or would cause another.



 
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Old Sep 19th, 2016, 16:38 PM   10
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Good call. I didn't get that option.
Did you get the results through pretty quickly? We have been waiting 3 weeke now.

Have you had a period yet? I read about a lot of women who say they do not get one. I kind of want one before we start trying but no idea when to expect one.



 
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