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Old Dec 2nd, 2016, 11:56 AM   1
ttcequestrian
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Two CPs in a row, scared to keep trying


I am having a chemical currently, and had one last month too. Is there anything I can do to make this not keep happening? I am an absolute wreck right now. I work in a daycare and have to go to the bathroom to cry just about every hour, I look at the little ones and just think that I'm never going to get a chance to have one of my own and then I breakdown. I take prenatals and have just started taking evening primrose oil. Anything else I can take or do?
(I don't drink caffeine or alcohol, I don't smoke, I'm at a healthy BMI)



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Old Dec 2nd, 2016, 12:06 PM   2
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Will it be okay to TTC this month? Will it increase my chances of a MC if I do concieve this month?



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Old Dec 2nd, 2016, 17:58 PM   3
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I'm so sorry you're going through this again, two months in a row, well that's just awful, my heart hurts for you. It might not be a bad idea to wait a cycle before ttc again, let your body recover (and also your heart).

I hope your next BFP is a sticky one!



 
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Old Dec 2nd, 2016, 18:32 PM   4
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I'm so sorry you're going through this again, two months in a row, well that's just awful, my heart hurts for you. It might not be a bad idea to wait a cycle before ttc again, let your body recover (and also your heart).

I hope your next BFP is a sticky one!
Thank you so much! I think I will. I'm having a really tough time with this



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Old Dec 2nd, 2016, 22:22 PM   5
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I've been in your boat hun I've had 3 MC this year alone. a chemical then a month later one didn't implant on time, and right after that one implanted but due to sickness and coughing fits dislodged. I know how it is, you feel like it's never going to happen, that there's something wrong with your body that you can't keep it or hold it. All I can say is, you will have probably many more before and after, some you may not have even known about. It's completely natural and nature's way of "natural selection." I know many are not going to be happy with me for say that, but it's the truth. sometimes gene's don't match well, or a chromosome doesn't split right, or the environment isn't right. It's not your fault and just takes time and patience, most important DON'T STRESS ABOUT IT. All that frustration, sadness, hopelessness just stacks the odds even more against you; and believe me I KNOW how hard it is to not be affected by it and let it get to you.

I'm heading to a family baptism for my SIL's 2nd child and she's about to try for a 3rd near the new year, and here I am still MCing my first. You just got to keep trying and doing anything and everything to make the perfect environment for the little one, and not let it those heartbreaking emotions get in your way. Time can be the enemy and the friend, but having a group like the ladies on this TTC after loss forum truly helps more than words can say.

Keep fighting, keep BDing, and and know that someday you'll have one be your rainbow; your little fighter.



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Old Dec 6th, 2016, 13:06 PM   6
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I am in the same boat. CP last month and woke up to another one today.

I don't know what the exact answers are for you, but I can share what my plan is (for what it might be worth).

I am going to take two months off from try to let my body rest and get though the holidays. I believe that the reason for my two CPs in a row were that my body just wasn't strong enough to get the hormones going so I'm going to try to get some blood tests and possibly a progesterone supplement if I need. But mostly, I'm going to tell myself everyday how amazing my body is to conceive and how lucky we are and how grateful I am for it.

I think that you might need to get some rest too. Your body was probably a little confused and tired from the first loss so I wouldn't try again straight away. Let your body get back to normal with a regular period and in that time maybe learn some positive affirmations or stress techniques to help you ease into creating an amazing, wonderful exciting pregnancy the next time you're ready.

As a side note, all of the medical professionals I've spoken with say CPs are totally normal and do not mean you will not have an amazing healthy pregnancy. Also, my mother had eight healthy children (had the last one at 44) and she just told me today she had two CPs in a row between and the doctors said there was absolutely nothing wrong and don't even bother to do testing and she went on to have more kids so there's so much hope here for us!



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Old Jan 12th, 2017, 23:40 PM   7
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I am so sorry for your losses...I can relate to what you are going through. I personally am seeing a RE tomorrow to discuss this very question. I decided to see the RE because this cycle's chemical was the third loss I've had in a short period of time and I want to get some testing done. In terms of deciding when to try again, I am trying to balance the benefits of taking a rest from TTC vs. the time pressure I feel to TTC ASAP. I will probably try again this cycle. No matter what don't forget to let yourself grieve for the chemicals. They are really hard.



 
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Old Jan 14th, 2017, 19:55 PM   8
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Thank you guys 💕 I'm trying really hard to stay positive this cycle since we took last cycle off!



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Old Jan 15th, 2017, 19:15 PM   9
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For what it is worth, my husband and I had a discussion with the RE and he said there is no physical reason for us not to try again...but it is totally up to us in terms of how we feel emotionally.

My husband is good to go...I am a little hesitant to be honest (can't believe I am even saying that...) but I am getting an HSG test on my CD9 this month (so they can examine my uterus and see if there are any issues there). As long as the HSG test doesn't reveal any obvious problems, we are going to try again. We have heard the HSG improves fertility for a few months.

I've had 2 early losses for sure and very likely a third, all within 5 months. I just want to stress again to let yourself grieve for the chemicals. Sometimes people don't seem to understand how distressing the chemicals can be since the pregnancy isn't very "far along." However it is so emotional. I have been there too in terms of crying at work!! You can always come to this message board to chat if you need to, good luck!!



 
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Old Jan 15th, 2017, 22:13 PM   10
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Sorry you're having such a cruddy time. Perhaps resist the urge to test early... if you wait until you have actually missed a period (i.e. 2-3 days late) then you reduce the likelihood of finding out about CP and maybe not knowing would be easier? This is in no way meant to devalue the pregnancies you have lost.



 
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