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Old Feb 1st, 2017, 11:57 AM   1
paramedicone
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very nervous


so to start i am not looking for attention just trying to seek understanding.
i will start from the beginning. last November my wife and i had a miscarriage at about 4 to 5 weeks she thought something was off but did not think about pregnancy because her ob told her that we would not be able to conceive on our own and we had tried several types of oral meds but with no aval.
we went to a day movie and after the movie she goes to the restroom and comes out crying. me being the man i am question what happened normal things like who said or did or tried something while you were in the restroom and while in the car she breaks down and tells me she miscarried and saw the fetus fall out in the toilet and then watched the auto flush send it away.
fast forward to this past Sunday at 0330 she has not been feeling very well and has had very strange symptoms for example very sensitive nipple breasts feeling heavy, sick to her stomach certain foods that make her sick by the taste foods that she eats daily, very fatigued, frequent urination, etc so i suggest that she start taking prenatal vitamins just in case she might be pregnant.
so at 0330 she takes a pregnancy test and it comes back positive we both cry because we have been trying for the last 3 years at least with no avail. with my medical training i think she is about 6 weeks pregnant from some of her symptoms she thinks she is about 4 weeks our first baby appointment is on the 27 of feb.
words can not describe how happy, excited, and nervous i am. and not nervous about being a father but a miscarriage happening again.
is there anyone who has been in a situation like this or close to this and how did you prepare yourself or stay in a good mind set to help you? right now i am so nervous when she comes home from work i do everything for her like cook, clean, laundry, get her things to drink so she does not have to get up to much. on my days off i clean the house and cook dinner. every time she has a different pain or cramp im googling it like crazy to see what could cause it. it is so hard to separate myself from my emotions and nerves like i do at work.
so if anyone can please help me with advice or information i would be very thankful.



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Old Feb 1st, 2017, 12:19 PM   2
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First off congratulations!! Ive had a miscarriage before my daughters were born. It's so so hard. There is not to much I can tell you that will put your mind at ease. With each pregnancy that worry was always there. It seems like once you are thru the first trimester it starts to become less and less. Excitement does kick in. Cramps and stretching pains are all normal.
Can I also say, you are being a wonderful husband she is so lucky to have you.

Ask any questions you need to!



 
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Old Feb 1st, 2017, 12:50 PM   3
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thank you. from school i know some women may have a miscarriage before they can hold a baby full term it is like the body needs to learn how to adjust hormones and temp to keep the baby. that is one way i am looking at it trying to be positive. and her symptoms are way stronger now than they were with the last pregnancy. and after she is sick she eats.
i pray that God lets us keep this miracle



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Old Feb 2nd, 2017, 09:32 AM   4
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Having more symptoms is definitely a good sign! My fingers are crossed for you both



 
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Old Feb 2nd, 2017, 12:40 PM   5
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Its really hard. I had 2 miscarriages before i had a full term pregnancy. Its really hard, just take it one day at a time. I used to say to myself, today i am pregnant and thankful and i cant change tomorrow. Its really hard, it gets a little better after you see a heart beat on ultrasound and then better once you ferl movement.



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Old Feb 2nd, 2017, 14:38 PM   6
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i am not going to lie i am very nervous about the first ultra sound. my mother in law wants to be there to hear it and going through my mind after she said that is what if there is not a heart beat. then the next thing racing through my mind is what if our child has a disorder or some type of birth defect. now im not saying i would not love our child if there was something wrong. but it does scare me because like every parent you want your child to have a healthy normal life and not one where they have to learn to do things differently or they cant do things normal children can it would be having to tell them that they can not do something because of xyz.
that would break me



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Old Feb 2nd, 2017, 15:00 PM   7
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I have had two losses and three full term pregnancies. What I have learned is to try and enjoy every day of pregnancy. MC is heartbreaking but pregnancy is a blessing. Try and and enjoy every day as much as possible. The worry will never disappear altogether but don't let it spoil such a special time. Honestly there is not much you can usually do to change the outcome but whatever happens tomorrow try to enjoy the joy of being pregnant today.



 
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Old Feb 8th, 2017, 12:28 PM   8
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my wife just had blood work come back today and she is 5 weeks pregnant and her progesterone level is low a 10.7 and her ob said she needs to be at 20.
now i am really nervous have any of you guys had this problem and had a healthy baby?



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Old Feb 11th, 2017, 08:25 AM   9
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If her progesterone is low they should give her progesterone supplements, totally normal.
Just relax and try not to stress her out too much. Hopefully her doctor will monitor her properly and give her prometrium or progesterone shots to increase this hormone



 
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Old Feb 13th, 2017, 09:04 AM   10
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her next ob appointment is on the 27 which is weird. one would think that if a doctor wants you at a certain level then you would be going atleast a week after you start someone on a supplement so that you could check their levels to make sure that they are going up to the level you want to see them at.



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