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Old Jun 20th, 2017, 13:26 PM   11
emilydee87
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Oh no I am so sorry to hear this. My heart breaks for you, truly. I just had my first pregnancy and miscarriage two days ago. I was only 5 weeks. My hubby and I are going to try again right away. But I think there is a world of difference between 5 and 12. We only knew for a week, and we still couldn't believe it fully. At week 12 I'm sure it had sunk in and you had become more attached to your baby emotionally. I cant imagine. Take it one day at a time. Maybe, give yourself the grace to not have a plan. Just be. Be sad, be angry, be tired, distract yourself, treat yourself, honor the loss as you need to. Physically, I think you can start trying as soon as your numbers go to zero, so its really up to your emotional state.



 
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Old Jun 22nd, 2017, 03:46 AM   12
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Yeah we had built the cot brought a pram and everything it's been heartbreaking. I just don't want to do anything.. I dont want to go to work, can't function. I think I'm talking into depression I just can't handle it.

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Oh no I am so sorry to hear this. My heart breaks for you, truly. I just had my first pregnancy and miscarriage two days ago. I was only 5 weeks. My hubby and I are going to try again right away. But I think there is a world of difference between 5 and 12. We only knew for a week, and we still couldn't believe it fully. At week 12 I'm sure it had sunk in and you had become more attached to your baby emotionally. I cant imagine. Take it one day at a time. Maybe, give yourself the grace to not have a plan. Just be. Be sad, be angry, be tired, distract yourself, treat yourself, honor the loss as you need to. Physically, I think you can start trying as soon as your numbers go to zero, so its really up to your emotional state.



 
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Old Jun 22nd, 2017, 04:58 AM   13
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Oh Sasha, my heart really goes out to you, I remember you from the other thread.

I am so sorry to be reading this, I can only imagine how you must be feeling.

Have you been able to go to your GP and discuss how you are feeling? This is hugely traumatic and you may need some professional help to help you process it all and know how you can begin to look forwards.

Sending you so much love, I'm here if you want to talk. Look after yourself



 
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Old Jun 22nd, 2017, 05:05 AM   14
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Thank you...

It's been awful I haven't been able to stop crying for days..
I'm going to the GP later on today as I need to be signed off work for more days. I'm not ready to go back in yet. I have a holiday planned for Saturday so I'm hoping after that I'll be ok and ready to join civalsation again


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Have you been able to go to your GP and discuss how you are feeling? This is hugely traumatic and you may need some professional help to help you process it all and know how you can begin to look forwards.

Sending you so much love, I'm here if you want to talk. Look after yourself



 
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Old Jun 22nd, 2017, 07:16 AM   15
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It's good that you're going to the GP today. And very good that you have a holiday coming up too. Is it going to be a relaxing holiday?



 
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Old Jun 23rd, 2017, 05:36 AM   16
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It's half relaxing lol I'm taking my 5 year old niece and my best friend is bringing her 4 year old son. I've taken my niece away alot but it's always slightly stressful flying and taking children away. However I do love spending time with them all and my niece is golden



 
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Old Jun 24th, 2017, 06:52 AM   17
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I just joined the forum, looking for info/support, etc. and saw your post.

I just wanted to extend my sympathies and let you know you're not alone. I just went through a very similar experience. I miscarried unexpectedly at home late the night of my 12w6 day, just before my scheduled scan the next day at 13w. It was Father's Day so we had just told family and friends as we were past the dreaded 12w mark and had already had an early scan and saw heartbeat, etc. It was our first pregnancy as well.
The loss is profound, the shock takes your breath away, but we're strong and we'll survive it. It will make us better mothers when we do get our rainbow babies--we will know what miracles they are!

All that to say, lots of hugs and hope for what lies ahead of us.



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Old Jun 27th, 2017, 15:33 PM   18
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I just joined the forum, looking for info/support, etc. and saw your post.

I just wanted to extend my sympathies and let you know you're not alone. I just went through a very similar experience. I miscarried unexpectedly at home late the night of my 12w6 day, just before my scheduled scan the next day at 13w. It was Father's Day so we had just told family and friends as we were past the dreaded 12w mark and had already had an early scan and saw heartbeat, etc. It was our first pregnancy as well.
The loss is profound, the shock takes your breath away, but we're strong and we'll survive it. It will make us better mothers when we do get our rainbow babies--we will know what miracles they are!

All that to say, lots of hugs and hope for what lies ahead of us.
Yes we lost out baby at the exact same time what a sad coincidence :sad: it is so sad. I'm not over it yet and I know I won't be ready to go back to work next week either.

I have however decided to try again straight away so I'm hoping I a fee weeks to see a GBP again and have a March baby!



 
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