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Old Oct 27th, 2017, 08:27 AM   1
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Becoming impatient


Ahhhhh... I am not the most patient person at the best of times, but after having a MC just over a week ago I just want to be pregnant! (I was unaware I was pregnant, but that's another matter...)

Just looking for some positive stories really as to how long it took people to get pregnant following an early(ish) miscarriage.



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Old Oct 27th, 2017, 16:03 PM   2
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Ahhhhh... I am not the most patient person at the best of times, but after having a MC just over a week ago I just want to be pregnant! (I was unaware I was pregnant, but that's another matter...)

Just looking for some positive stories really as to how long it took people to get pregnant following an early(ish) miscarriage.
Sorry for your loss.

After my MMC I got variable advice from different doctors. Most said wait ~3 months to try to get pregnant again. But I really felt desperate after the MC and just wanted to be pregnant again.

I waited for the bleeding to stop (which took about 2 weeks to completely go). Then I did a hpt just to check that HCG had gone and it was neg so I figured I could start TTC again. I think it is a good idea to wait until the HCG levels have gone down because you don't want a false positive in a couple of weeks time - that would be crushing.

Anyway I decided to start trying again straight away. My next AF was late (took 7 weeks from the MC) and then I got my BFP after that. So I caught the next cycle after one AF and they do seem to say that you are more fertile straight after a MC.

So I would wait until HCG has gone and you are comfortable trying again.
Hope this helps and good luck!



 
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Old Oct 27th, 2017, 16:20 PM   3
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Honestly when we first started trying I wasn't sure I was ready to be pregnant. We got a BFP right away that ended in a missed miscarriage. After that I desperately wanted to be pregnant. I think it is normal to really feel the need after a mc.

My OB said to wait for one AF, but he did say it was mostly for dating purposes. I had a D&C so we waited two weeks to make sure I was healed then started trying again. It took 5 weeks for the first AF to arrive. My body was a bit of a mess during those 5 weeks. It took basically the entire time for my tests to turn negative and OPKs kept going back and forth from negative to positive. I don't even think I actually ovulated.

After that though we conceived next cycle, so 2 weeks after AF. I'm in a TTC after loss group on here and the average in that group seems to be 3 cycles to get a BFP. Obviously some people catch quick and others take longer, but take comfort that the average is pretty quick.

I'm very sorry for your loss and I hope you conceive your rainbow quickly.



 
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Old Oct 27th, 2017, 17:58 PM   4
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Thankyou both! That gives me hope! My bleeding has basically stopped already after 1 week 1 day. (i was only 5 weeks along) they advised me to wait until 10th nov before testing, but i have tests in the house so may just see what it says tomorrow.

The desperation to fast forward and get mt bfp is unreal!



 
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Old Oct 28th, 2017, 19:14 PM   5
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Hi, I'm going through a miscarriage at the moment. I totally understand how you feel. We'd been TTC for 4 years, and when the miscarriage was confirmed I couldn't stand the thought of trying again, I just wanted to mourn the baby we lost. But it's been just over a week now and I'm starting to feel a bit impatient too. It's difficult because I feel like conceiving again won't heal my grief, I'm mourning this baby regardless, but I also really want to be pregnant again.

The doctors and midwives who have treated me have all said there is no medical reason why you can't try again as soon as you stop bleeding. Yes it does make dating a little difficult, but it won't affect the health of the pregnancy. You could track ovulation, using whatever method you prefer, to give you an idea of when you conceived. My fertility doctor told me that the only reason to wait the 2/3 months that some practitioners suggest is either for emotional healing, or if you need to await the results of tests on the miscarried baby, but that's usually after a 2nd or 3rd trimester loss, or if you've had 3 or more consecutive early losses.

I've also been told that you are more fertile after a miscarriage. Fingers crossed for you!



 
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Old Oct 29th, 2017, 05:48 AM   6
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I'm in the same boat as you, Mum, I miscarried last Friday at 5w4d. My bleeding stopped within a few days and numbers are already going back down. They weren't high to begin with so they should be back to normal by this week. The only reason why I was told to wait for AF was because I am using injectables and IUI to get pregnant so I need AF to start them. I'm so anxious for AF to get here so I can start again. This was my first pregnancy after 12 years of trying, I just want to keep a happy and healthy sticky bean again.



 
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Old Oct 30th, 2017, 12:14 PM   7
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Hi, I'm going through a miscarriage at the moment. I totally understand how you feel. We'd been TTC for 4 years, and when the miscarriage was confirmed I couldn't stand the thought of trying again, I just wanted to mourn the baby we lost. But it's been just over a week now and I'm starting to feel a bit impatient too. It's difficult because I feel like conceiving again won't heal my grief, I'm mourning this baby regardless, but I also really want to be pregnant again.

The doctors and midwives who have treated me have all said there is no medical reason why you can't try again as soon as you stop bleeding. Yes it does make dating a little difficult, but it won't affect the health of the pregnancy. You could track ovulation, using whatever method you prefer, to give you an idea of when you conceived. My fertility doctor told me that the only reason to wait the 2/3 months that some practitioners suggest is either for emotional healing, or if you need to await the results of tests on the miscarried baby, but that's usually after a 2nd or 3rd trimester loss, or if you've had 3 or more consecutive early losses.

I've also been told that you are more fertile after a miscarriage. Fingers crossed for you!
So sorry for your loss. Its difficult isnt it. I feel like im coping well with the emotional side, and physically I basically feel back to normal so hopefully it won't take too long.

Thanks, fingers crossed for you too!



 
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Old Oct 30th, 2017, 12:15 PM   8
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I'm in the same boat as you, Mum, I miscarried last Friday at 5w4d. My bleeding stopped within a few days and numbers are already going back down. They weren't high to begin with so they should be back to normal by this week. The only reason why I was told to wait for AF was because I am using injectables and IUI to get pregnant so I need AF to start them. I'm so anxious for AF to get here so I can start again. This was my first pregnancy after 12 years of trying, I just want to keep a happy and healthy sticky bean again.
So sorry for your loss! I really hope you get a sticky bean soon & go on to have a happy, healthy 9 months!



 
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