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Old Feb 3rd, 2018, 03:11 AM   1
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Struggling to conceive after two miscarriages

Hi ladies,

We are TTC number 2. I had a miscarriage in March last year, which I had surgery for. I then had another miscarriage in July, which was a natural miscarriage. We started TTC again in September but haven't been successful. (We did have a couple of months break around October / November while having house renovations done and living with the in-laws!)

Deep down I know these things take time but I've always fallen pregnant really quickly, usually the first month of trying. I can't help but worry that something is wrong. I've also had the odd pain which seems to be coming from my ovary, not always around the time of ovulation. Also last month, I had spotting 5 days before my period, which was strange. This month my period isn't due until Wednesday but I've started spotting again today. I know it's not implantation.

Has anyone experienced anything like this? I get so upset every time I get a period and have started panicking that this may never happen for us again. I know I should relax and everyone says it'll happen when it's meant to. But that's easier said than done! Should I go to the doctors or is it too soon for that?


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Old Feb 3rd, 2018, 04:08 AM   2
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Technically with your break included itís been 2/3 months, it can take on average 1 year to conceive so try not to beat yourself up too much. I know when you really want something itís hard to wait but youíve gotta let your body do things naturally.
Unfortunately the doctors wonít help til itís been over 12 months with no pregnancies.

Good luck x

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Old Feb 3rd, 2018, 13:01 PM   3
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I understand your frustration. My first 3 pregnancies were conceived very quickly but since ttc #3 last feb its not as easy and you suddenly start worrying!

I did concieve twice last year though, unfortunatly both didnt work out. So when I look at it realistically it only took 3 cycles then 2 cycles....but I freaked out cos this didnt seem normal to me and with a loss I wanted it so much.

So yeah it does normally take a few months which is hard after a loss. Guess we were just extremely lucky with our first babies! As for spotting, I dont know but you could mention it to your doctor?

I wish you lots of luck and
Try and not worry too much and look after yourself x

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Old Feb 16th, 2018, 11:18 AM   4
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Have you done karyotyping and/or a sperm test?

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