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Old Mar 20th, 2018, 09:53 AM   1
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Ttc after miscarriage

Back on here again.. sadly lost my rainbow baby at 5+6 .. tbh Iím blaming myself, I had severe sickness, so blaming myself due to that. Iím really wanting to try again but the sickness literally puts me off. I have a 2 year old boy who I never had any problems with him not even sickness. Anyone else feel the same way as I do? I just donít think I can go through it again

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Old Mar 20th, 2018, 15:09 PM   2
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Oh honey...It is NOT your fault! I know it's very hard not to, but this was not your fault. Sickness or no. Hugs.

Very sorry for your loss. It was very difficult for me to accept in the beginning but there is a reason for everything, in the end. You may not know the reason yet, but you will. Hang in there, you aren't alone

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Old Mar 20th, 2018, 16:17 PM   3
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Totally agree with Alligator, it's definitely not your fault. It's very hard when you don't have a reason as to what was wrong, but you will find a way. Making a baby is such a complicated process and often it just doesn't go quite right, Early losses are incredibly common...I know it doesn't help much but really it's just natures way I'm afraid and nothing you could have done would have changed it. I'm terribly sorry for your loss

With my first mc a few years ago I was quite certain I would ttc as soon as we could and it all went great and ds2 is nearly 4yrs old.
With the one last July I really wasn't sure I could go through it again, but we did and unfortunately we were very unlucky again. Since December it's been a long slow process of healing physically and emotionally, I've found it very hard. I'm terrified of losing another baby and know I will worry from that first BFP till the baby is in my arms. It's been a very frustrating time waiting for my body to start working again but think It might be there and I'm ready now. If you asked me in dec or jan I was a definite no way! You are stronger than you think

I have reminders in my house of my 3 little ones, 3 stars hanging up, and I wear a necklace with 3 stars on it. Just the little things that help me cope and remember.

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