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Old May 18th, 2018, 08:21 AM   1
red_head
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I feel like Iím breaking


Sorry all I know all I do is whine constantly in here about the same things but I donít know where else to turn. I have no one to talk to about this stuff other than my husband and I canít keep bringing him down.
My son was born sleeping at about 17 weeks on the 25th of May (we found out heíd passed away at 16 weeks, although the scan had dated him later than we thought - by lmp it was more like 18/19 weeks so heíd been born at 20, and as he was obviously unwell itís likelt lmp is more correct). Anyway I am desperate to get pregnant again but also terrified. I donít know what to do. Iím supposed to be working right now but instead Iím sitting here crying. I feel like I need time to get myself together get healthier and fitter - since we found out he died Iíve done nothing but comfort eat chocolate and mope around and I wasnít small to start with. But it took us five years to have him. Weíve only been pregnant four times gay whole time. What if I stop trying and then we canít get pregnant. My husband is older (43 this year) and I donít want people to think heís a grandad when the child older. I donít want to take away the opportunity. I am so desperate to be pregnant again but I donít ever want to go through this again. We still havenít had post-mortem results and wonít for a couple months yet. Iím still getting faint bfps on and off. Each time my heart starts praying itís a new pregnancy but on my head I know it isnít. I just donít know what to do. When will I feel okay again? When will it stop hurting so bad? How do you know when the time is right to carry on?



 
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Old May 19th, 2018, 03:18 AM   2
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red i am so sorry for your loss. And how you feel is perfectly understandable. I'm not sure you ever truly get over the loss of a baby but it will get easier to live with in time. Just be kind to yourself. Have you thought of having any counselling to help cope with the grief?



 
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Old May 19th, 2018, 07:58 AM   3
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If you ever want to speak to someone, feel free to drop me a message at any time. I totally understand the feeling of not wanting to keep talking about the heartbreak to your partner, but you need to let things off your chest. You need to talk about it.
So if you need someone to listen, I'm here x

I can never word it right, but I heard someone say the pain will never go away, but each day the pain will become slightly less heavy to carry.

Only you can decide whether you want to keep trying. I would probably keep trying myself too. I know you've had a lot of losses, but there can still be a miracle at the end of this tunnel.

Can you speak to your GP further for more support with fertility? From what I've read on some of your posts, it doesn't sound like you're getting the support you need. Is it worth switching to another local GP or requesting a new midwife to speak to, as they really don't seem to have the right attitude xx



 
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