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Old Sep 14th, 2018, 15:49 PM   1
MrsFruitie
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Looking for people TTC after miscarriage


Hi Ladies,

We had it confirmed today that I have unfortunately had a missed miscarriage. At my scan I should have shown 10 weeks but the fetal pole measured 6 with no heartbeat.

I have opted for the minor surgery which will take place Monday 24th. I am too emotional to deal with the physical pain of a natural passing as well.

As soon as we have the all clear we aim to try again as we are looking forward to being a family. Me and my husband are very much in love and cannot wait to share our happiness and love with a little baby.

Iím looking for women in similar situations to share our TTC post loss journey together, and support each other!

Thanks ladies and stay strong.
We can do this! ❤️



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Old Sep 15th, 2018, 08:37 AM   2
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Hi Mrs Frutie

So sorry to hear your sad news. Sending all my love for the 24th which I know will not be an easy day for you.

I am currently going through a similar thing. My partner and I had been trying to conceive and got our BFP in June (on Father's Day!). The pregnancy was very typical and no issues but on my scan day (14th August), we were advised that the baby had major abnormalities and would not survive outside the womb. I had to have a medical termination which was heartbreaking. I am currently waiting for my cycles to return before we discuss trying again.

I too am looking for ladies in a similar position to share the journey with for all its ups and downs! Would love to stay in touch. Stay strong xx



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Old Sep 15th, 2018, 16:42 PM   3
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Oh Stardust Iím very sorry to hear your sad news too. Huge hug to you. It really is heartbreaking, but at the same time when we do have our babies we will appreciate them all the more ❤️



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Old Sep 16th, 2018, 03:07 AM   4
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Hi ladies may I join? So sorry yo hear of your losses. I already have one child but just had my first miscarriage and have found talking about it so healing but am struggling to find support in the 'real world' so would love some here especially with the terrifying journey of TTCAL.

Everything seemed to be going well with this pregnancy, great hcg, bub measuring ahead, strong heartbeat, perfect growth rate. I had been spotting but had spotted through my entire last pregnancy so hoped for the best. Unfortunately our third scan showed growth had stopped just after 8 weeks 2 days. Heartbreaking for sure. I went on to miscarry naturally while waiting to hear from the hospital. I totally understand your desire for medical treatment mrsfrutie as I wanted the same.

I'm still having the odd bleed here and there and it's been a week and a half since I passed everything. Will have another blood draw on Monday to check hcg. Hopeing it has dropped way down.

Trying to decide when to start trying again. I wanted to wait one cycle but now I'm not sure, I just want to be pregnant again but don't want to rush anything too much.

Thinking of you ladies.



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Old Sep 16th, 2018, 04:21 AM   5
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Hi Chickybaby,
Iím sorry for your loss also. And I agree itís much easier to talk about with women in similar situations on here.
Itís a heartbreaking situation that unfortunately we have no control over at all, sometime it just salt happens.
Iím really worried mine will start naturally before the surgery, I really donít know how I would cope emotionally.
We will be trying to conceive as soon as it is safe again, as we are so excited to start a family together. Iím hoping it happens quickly like Iíve seen with a lot of post loss ladies, however the first pregnancy took a while so Iím unsure... xx



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Old Sep 16th, 2018, 05:13 AM   6
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Mrsfrutie yes it still feels surreal. I still can't quite believe I've lost a baby. Crazy how quickly the world moves on.

Sorry you a worried about having a natural miscarriage. I was terrified too but was already bleeding so it happened quite quickly. Most women I no have had a d & c weeks latter with no bleeding in the meantime. Please try not to stress though, you are stronger than you think and will get through this.

We were lucky this time and got pregnant first try. Took 8 months with our first. I had messed up cycles after bcp.

The info on when to try again is so different depending on who you talk to. I think I will wait to see how long it takes to ovulate or if I do and go from there.



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Old Sep 16th, 2018, 08:41 AM   7
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Hi Chickybaby

Sorry to hear your story.

I know exactly what you mean when you say you're finding it healing to talk about it. I feel the same but I almost feel like it's expected of me to keep it to myself in the 'real' world. So I think this forum will be a great source of comfort for me in my journey.

I'm also not sure how long to leave it before trying again. There's so much different advice online isn't there?! I think the main thing is that you allow one natural period for your womb to heal. So I'm currently waiting for that. I'm pretty sure I have ovulated as I had my normal signs - slight pain and EGCM but I didn't test so we will see!

I really hope we can all stay in touch and document this exciting and frustrating journey together until we all have our rainbows



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Old Sep 16th, 2018, 14:54 PM   8
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Hi Ladies,
I agree, itís nice having people to share the journey and talk through any worries, and equally any positives we come across.
My doctors said they advise waiting until your period after the miscarriage, but thereís no reason you canít try sooner. I think itís easier to track the pregnancy if you wait for your true cycle to start. Plus it gives time for your uterus to rebuild to accommodate a little bean again.
I think we will actively try after the first period, but wonít be 100% careful before then just in case. We donít want to miss a possible pregnancy opportunity.
My op is a week tomorrow and Iím really nervous about general anaesthetic!! Last time I went under for my tonsils out it wasnít pleasant at all 😩



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Old Sep 16th, 2018, 16:28 PM   9
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Aww hun, I feel for you. I really do! But having had a medical termination myself - I almost wish I’d opted for the operation. Just have it all done with me not knowing anything about it! But as ours had a post mortem to check for chromosomal issues, it was the only way!

It’s funny, I think this is the first time in my life I’ve been looking forward to having a period! I think I can feel it on the way! As soon as it’s over, I’m all over it! Would love to be pregnant again before Christmas but the first attempt took 9 months so we will see!!

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Old Sep 16th, 2018, 19:19 PM   10
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Yes I think we will wait for the first cycle too. Might bring some sort of closure as well that the last pregnancy is complete and my body is back to normal and ready for the next time.

Thinking of you mtsfruitie! Everyone who I no who has had a d & c have did it was great (as great as this can be) going to sleep and waking up with it all gone. I think recovery might be a bit quicker too. Horrible how it drags on for so long though.

Ladystardust4 also really looking forward to getting my period. Would also love to be pregnant by Christmas but if not then by the due date. I'm dreading that day.



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