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Old Mar 9th, 2011, 10:19 AM   1
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More fertile after miscarriage- confirmed by nurse today??


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I am recently home from hospital following a D&C today and as part of my discharge the nurse clearly said words to the effect "after miscarrying you have a short window of being super fertile" and implied we either need to go at it like rabbits or take loads of precautions- depending, I assume, on whether we want to get back on the pregnancy bandwagon (which we do)

Sadly in my post-anaesthesia haze I smiled and nodded and failed to ask any further questions- specifically about the safety of TTC so soon, how long the 'window' lasts and whether the risk of second miscarriages increases or decreases over time

I have googled 'fertility after miscarriage' and have come up with several tonnes of contradicting information and advice

Can anyone offer any fact about fertility after miscarriage and this all-important window of opportunity... in particular how on earth it works??

I have worked out that I *should* have been due AF on 17th March if I hadn't got pregnant, so *should* have been ovulating early April... does anyone know whether this remains relevant after miscarriage?

Any help much appreciated (and sorry for the rambling...)



 
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Old Mar 9th, 2011, 10:27 AM   2
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Hi, I've just read something right now that said you will be fertile before you even have a next period, and also that if you get pregnant at that time you are at 1 and a half times more risk of miscarriage. Than if you wait for at least one period first.
Its not set in stone however but I kind of think it maybe best to have one period first.



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Old Mar 9th, 2011, 10:30 AM   3
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I was told this too after my last chemical pregnancy...... so I gave it a try and after my bleeding (for 4 days) we started to BD again daily. I literally must of ovulated straight away as was pregnant again immediately!!! Unfortunately this is also another chemical pregnancy but i do 100% believe your way more fertile after a m/c as the cervix is slightly open...... which lets the spermies swim through easier. Good Luck!! x x



 
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Old Mar 9th, 2011, 10:30 AM   4
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I have just found this site http://www.pregnancyloss.info/trying_again.htm . The author not only has a lovely way of writing but seems to spout sense



 
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Old Mar 9th, 2011, 10:39 AM   5
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I definitely agree theres a higher risk of m/c as that would explain my 2nd one. Im going to wait for one proper cycle now xx



 
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Old Mar 9th, 2011, 11:03 AM   6
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I M/C on Jan 31st
I was ovulationg Feb 13th/14th .. confirmed by OPK.
Period should have come on Feb 28th... I usually have a 28 day cycle. I am still waiting... 9 days late.. negative Preggo test.

So... My sched restarted at Day 1 being my D/C.. I am assuming others are the same???

My thoughts are that we all should have 1 proper cycle before ttc. However our hearts carry us in different directions. My husband and I did BD while ovulating after D/C.. valentines day.. Ugh humm... LOL...

I really belive also that my body will either be prepared for pregnancy or not when egg meets sperm. If egg met sperm this month for me my uterus was obviously not ready to have the egg and sperm connect to uterus. AND this is probably why I still have not had my period too.

I checked with my own doctor and she suggested 1 full cycle before trying. It seems all Docs have differnt opions.. as do all of us.

I also Googled about the fertility window thing and I got the general sesus of about a 3 month window???? We will see... hopefully all goes well for both of us!!

Sorry for your loss.. hope I helped a bit.



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Old Mar 9th, 2011, 11:11 AM   7
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Thanks for the website link Cliqmo. One week on from MMC and ERPC, I am perhaps thinking I might be able to consider TTC again after spending a week thinking I wouldn't be brave enough to. Think I will defo wait for first AF and then just see what happens. But this is how I feel today, who knows how I will feel tomorrow!!!



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Old Mar 9th, 2011, 11:16 AM   8
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Honestly I don't know what people did before forums and access to such a wealth of supportive, understanding people and advice

Thank you all x



 
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Old Mar 9th, 2011, 11:28 AM   9
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My GP today (fertility specialist) said there is no increased risk of mc if pregnant immediately after mc, your body is actually more prepared.

Hubby wants to wait until after our holiday in June, I don't, so arguing at minute but discussion needed!

I was gonna suggest ntnp but under the strict policy that I would not test until we get back from holiday so if I miss AF I just assume cycles are messed up and if I mc on holiday I just assume it's heavy AF (like some ladies do who don't think they are pregnant)

Am I stupid to suggest?!



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Old Mar 9th, 2011, 11:43 AM   10
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My GP today (fertility specialist) said there is no increased risk of mc if pregnant immediately after mc, your body is actually more prepared.

Hubby wants to wait until after our holiday in June, I don't, so arguing at minute but discussion needed!

I was gonna suggest ntnp but under the strict policy that I would not test until we get back from holiday so if I miss AF I just assume cycles are messed up and if I mc on holiday I just assume it's heavy AF (like some ladies do who don't think they are pregnant)

Am I stupid to suggest?!
Hi WoodyA, thanks for the post. I read your thread about your OH

Your plan sounds good, so long as (unlike me!) you could avoid agonising about your period due dates and symptom spotting etc throughout your holiday (for me POAS is not the be-all-and-end-all, it is simply part of the obsession )

I would suggest giving your OH time to come round to the idea of TTC again and NOT making any such promises about whether or not you will POAS before your holiday



 
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