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Old Jul 12th, 2011, 22:30 PM   1
onelove06
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to try or not to try?!?


So wondering if anyone out there is going to respond back to me or not....

But anyways, I just had my first period after my first miscarriage. I am scared to start trying again. Going through a miscarriage I think was one of the hardest things i have ever had to go through. I had been trying to get pregnant for years now and it finally happened and I was in complete shock but to only lose something I have wanted for many years. I lost one of my ovaries and tubes due to a massive infection that grew to the size of a Grapefruit because the doctors kept telling me it was just a cyst and that it would pop on its own. finally after complaining and being sick all the time my dr. told me that he would go in and remove it to only loose so much for there not believing me that something was wrong that it just wasnt a cyst. they would blame it on a bladder infection.. but bladder infection doesnt cause dizziness and puking, but hey im not the doc. But since then its been hard, and finally got what i wanted and well in was only short lived and i lost the one thing in life that i wanted.
Now After this miscarriage i am up in the air if i want to try again, my period didnt miss a beat it was right now the mark. so i dont know if i should try or not try for a baby. I would love to be a mommy and all i want to be is a stay at home mom but I dont want to have to go through a miscarriage again. I feel lost my husband will do whatever i want to do and its hard to talk to him about this, its hard to talk to anyone about this because no one knows what to say so i turn to this feed to in hopes of someone that is going to something like this. I am sorry its soooo long and in hopes that someone will respond to me and help me out



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Old Jul 12th, 2011, 22:35 PM   2
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I'm really sorry about your situation, you've definitely come to the right place for support! I haven't been through what you have so I can't give great advice. But there is nothing wrong with waiting a little while, you don't have to make any kind of final decision now. Did your dr say that you would have fertility issues more now because of the surgery? I would say take the time you need, maybe do some NTNP, and you never know. Are you and your DH open to adoption?

Hope this helps a little.



 
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Old Jul 12th, 2011, 23:31 PM   3
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I felt the same exact way I was on the fence for so long about tryin again bc of the pain I felt when I lost my last pregnancy.. It took me a little while to decide yes this was what I wanted im not saying that is the right thng for u To do but it helped me give myself time to think we r here to help u thro the hard times n listen when u need a kind ear . U can only decide when u r ready n when u r ready we will b here to talk u thro if needed good luck with all ur decisions



 
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Old Jul 12th, 2011, 23:35 PM   4
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hi i've had two miscarriages


i know it's hard on us going through this and it seems like were alone even though are husband or boyfriend is there too. i have my 1st on July 27, 09 and i have my second one a week before valentimes day this year. i have pcos and 31 have wanted kids for the last 4 years and was told that i'm overweight and for me i have trouble seeing all these women that are twice my size and they have no problem getting prego and then you have ones that don't even act like they care about there kids and they can keep popping them out.... so the only advice i can give to you is just try to keep your head up and go with the flow because my family keeps telling me just to relax and it will happen when it's meant to and you know what did does no good to stress out about it because i think thats my problem because i admit i can look around and be upset and find myself crying ..... so good luck and i hope you get your baby....



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Old Jul 13th, 2011, 06:18 AM   5
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Thank you ladies.. time have been rough my doc also told me that I was to over weight to get pregnant. But like you said girls two times my size have no problem and can look sideways and get pregnant. I don't want to get my self all worked up now knowing that it is possible to get pregnant and that when I do want to try its just gonna happen because I know its not... I know that I have a hour glass ticking in front of me because I have already also lost 1/3 of my cervix and the doc is ready to take more due to precancerous cells so only in time he is going to want to take everything. I really glad someone has finally responded back I have wrote a few posts and not a single sole write me back it made me feel even more alone.. so thank you ladies..



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Old Jul 13th, 2011, 08:52 AM   6
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sorry for your loss, i would start trying again. it can take a while to get pregnant again so why not try now?
i lost our baby 3 weeks ago, no d and c, was told to wait a month but i ovulated saturday so we jump on it



 
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Old Jul 13th, 2011, 10:08 AM   7
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sorry for your loss
I think you need to do whatever feels right for you and your body.. Dont let fear hold you back from trying again
I am soo scared to get pregnant again at the thought of loosing another baby.. but the thought of becoming a mom and holding my little baby in my arms.. over comes my fear



 
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Old Jul 13th, 2011, 21:47 PM   8
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I am sorry for your loss. I think only you can decide if you want to keep trying. Having my 2 miscarriages has only made me more determined. Yes I am scared as well but I've realized how bad I want more kids. That want overrides my fear. Good luck in your decision.



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Old Jul 14th, 2011, 18:49 PM   9
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i think we might try this month i dont know ovulation is approaching and approaching fast i cant feel it... through out these past few months i have learned a lot about my body... and the way it feels and give the mark on when my period is going to start... but i think we are going to try this month and see what happens... I should ovulate next week, but i am not getting my hopes up or stressed over it like i have in the past.. if its suppose to happen it will. for the longest i never thought i could get pregnant and the moment i gave up and stopped using my ovcue i got pregnant. i still havent started using it again... what away to use a 300 dollar thing let it sit and the drawer....



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Old Jul 14th, 2011, 19:43 PM   10
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everyone is different... myslef I had to go for it right away... i dont know if this was good or not.. you can see my history below.

I just have this need to know my future to know things will be ok and i will have a little squishy bundle of joy in my home again. This pushes me forward. Chin up.

Good luck to you in your choice... either way what you do choose will be right for you... everythign happens for a reason!! I base my life on this and everyhting in it... my hubby got a speeding ticket on weekend but hey it probably saved our lives... who knows what would have been on the corner if we kept on going??



 
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