Hi everyone

I'm just beginning to check this forum out after being in the miscarriage section, think I'm going to live in both for a bit as I am not sure I'm ready to officially TTC, I'm just sorting out my relationship and working things out with my OH after the chaos of the last month.

ANYWAY my story is I started to miscarry naturally on 22nd January just after the 12 week scan which told me my baby had no heartbeat one of the saddest moment of my whole life.

The bleeding stopped a week later, then about half a week later started again and was bleeding then until today.

I am going to stay with my OH next week and ......not even cos it's TTC time yet but more because it's Valentine's day... is it safe to have sex by Tuesday? Or is that too early?

I don't want to take ANY risks with my future fertility, but I do really want to feel close to him again and tbh I just can't wait to start trying but we don't see each other that often at the moment and even though I know it's ridiculous and impatient I just can't wait to start feeling like there's a CHANCE I could get pregnant. even if it's a silly impossible chance.

I think I'm probably being a bit crazy, I just want to know if anyone was told about actual SEX after a mc. The doctor told me to wait till my next period before trying for a new baby, but at the time I couldn't imagine ever wanting to have sex again anyway so i never bothered to ask about that :/

Also - I know for a fact that as soon as I've had sex ONCE I am going to be obsessed with doing pregnancy tests does anyone else feel like that??? I just have such happy memory of last time - when i did about FIVE lol just to see it come up positive - I want that feeling again so bad even tho it ended so sadly...

Sorry if this is a dumb question.

Hope everyone is well and staying strong!

If the bleeding has subsided you should be fine to have sex sorry for ur loss and its normal to have all the feelings u have. Also, the testing I think we all obsess a bit lol I took 13 with my mmc lol I was in shock...so go out and enjoy ur V day with oh gl

I'm sorry for your loss. I was also told at a 'routine' ultrasound near the so-called "safe zone" (as I once felt it was...).

DTD whenever you want now. It's important to bond with him in this way after loss. Good luck!

Aww I know how you feel with the list feelings and wanting to get straight back onto it. I'm still bleeding from our MC but am already thinking of getting stocked up on tests lol

That must have been really scary for you to get to 12 weeks and hear that news mine was at a scan at 6 weeks but hadn't had symptoms for a week except bleeding so was half expecting it. Although still tried not to believe that could be true.

I'm not waiting for my period but will be charting as before and using SMEP

I was told 2 weeks wait after having a d&c--I was 11weeks 6days, but baby had grown wings 1 week earlier @ 10weeks 6days.

So sorry about your loss. Doctors ask u to wait for AF to show b4 u start TTC cos of dating d preg (as in to calculate EDD accurately) incase u get your BFP.
I dont think there's any harm in trying once the bleeding has stopped. Had ano early MC this month and am not waiting to TTC. Awaiting O