Struggling

StayHopeful · Feb 11th, 2012, 23:42 PM

I mcd on Jan. 16 at almost 5 weeks and the doctor told us that we could try again right away. We didn't bd for a little over a week, but since then we've been bding every 2-3 days. We decided not to "try" until after my next af, so I'm not charting my cm or bbt, but we have been using pre-seed and I have been elevating my hips with a pillow after bding. I have no idea if or when I ovulated (I did have some lower back pain on cd 17 and 18) but the last few days I've been feeling a little nauseous and my bbs have been sore. Technically if you count the first day of mc bleeding as cd1 then af is due on Monday, but if I didn't o until cd17 then it's too soon to test. Part of me really wants to test but part of me is scared to. I'm not sure if I'm scared of seeing a bfn or if I'm scared of a bfp and losing it again. My "symptoms" are psyching me out and it seems like all around me, everybody is happy and pregnant. I just can't stop thinking that I should be 8 weeks right now. Does this ever get easier?

Bride2b · Feb 12th, 2012, 02:32 AM

Ummm to me that sounds like 'trying' he he! It's possible to ov soon after mc bleeding stops,not to get your hopes up though as also the body does funny things after a mc, your cycles can go a bit mental. Although I'd imagine that having a mc at 5 weeks might mean the body will go back to normal sooner rather than later. It's horrible waiting when all you want is to be pregnant & know what's going on either way x

Good luck, maybe think along the lines of its unlikely (do then if it is a BFP come Monday then it's a real bonus!) xxx

chelsealynnb · Feb 12th, 2012, 03:09 AM

We are quite in the same boat. I miscarried at around 5 weeks Jan 20th, and I can relate to the 'everyone around you is pregnant' feeling. My best friend and I got pregnant at the exact same time. We were very excited to be sharing such a blessing together. Well, she is still pregnant and I am not

Please keep us updated on your cycle. DH and I tried again right away but I really don't know when or if I ovulated.

StayHopeful · Feb 12th, 2012, 09:31 AM

Haha you're right, I think we probably are trying and I'm just not quite ready to officially call it that yet. I am so sorry about both of your losses, fingers crossed that we all get a BFP soon!

Chelsea, I can relate to your best friend being pregnant, mine is too. She tries to be supportive but doesn't always know the right thing to say and it's been really hard. I feel bad, but I can't be around her a lot right now. I'm happy for her, but my own loss is too recent. I want to cry every time I see her little bumb. I don't know if/when I ovulated this cycle either, which is really frustrating!!!

StayHopeful · Feb 15th, 2012, 18:12 PM

Took an hot tonight, bfn. I didn't wait to use fmu because I hadn't had a chance to pee all afternoon at work, so I thought it might be okay... I'm a lot more disappointed and upset than I thought I would be.

StayHopeful · Feb 15th, 2012, 18:12 PM

Hpt, not hot. Stupid auto correct.

Feb 11th, 2012, 23:42 PM	#1
StayHopeful Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: Texas, USA Posts: 675	Struggling I mcd on Jan. 16 at almost 5 weeks and the doctor told us that we could try again right away. We didn't bd for a little over a week, but since then we've been bding every 2-3 days. We decided not to "try" until after my next af, so I'm not charting my cm or bbt, but we have been using pre-seed and I have been elevating my hips with a pillow after bding. I have no idea if or when I ovulated (I did have some lower back pain on cd 17 and 18) but the last few days I've been feeling a little nauseous and my bbs have been sore. Technically if you count the first day of mc bleeding as cd1 then af is due on Monday, but if I didn't o until cd17 then it's too soon to test. Part of me really wants to test but part of me is scared to. I'm not sure if I'm scared of seeing a bfn or if I'm scared of a bfp and losing it again. My "symptoms" are psyching me out and it seems like all around me, everybody is happy and pregnant. I just can't stop thinking that I should be 8 weeks right now. Does this ever get easier?

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Feb 12th, 2012, 02:32 AM	#2
Bride2b Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: Kent, UK Posts: 1,692	Ummm to me that sounds like 'trying' he he! It's possible to ov soon after mc bleeding stops,not to get your hopes up though as also the body does funny things after a mc, your cycles can go a bit mental. Although I'd imagine that having a mc at 5 weeks might mean the body will go back to normal sooner rather than later. It's horrible waiting when all you want is to be pregnant & know what's going on either way x Good luck, maybe think along the lines of its unlikely (do then if it is a BFP come Monday then it's a real bonus!) xxx

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Feb 12th, 2012, 03:09 AM	#3
chelsealynnb Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2012 Location: Michigan Posts: 1,977	We are quite in the same boat. I miscarried at around 5 weeks Jan 20th, and I can relate to the 'everyone around you is pregnant' feeling. My best friend and I got pregnant at the exact same time. We were very excited to be sharing such a blessing together. Well, she is still pregnant and I am not Please keep us updated on your cycle. DH and I tried again right away but I really don't know when or if I ovulated.

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Feb 12th, 2012, 09:31 AM	#4
StayHopeful Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: Texas, USA Posts: 675	Haha you're right, I think we probably are trying and I'm just not quite ready to officially call it that yet. I am so sorry about both of your losses, fingers crossed that we all get a BFP soon! Chelsea, I can relate to your best friend being pregnant, mine is too. She tries to be supportive but doesn't always know the right thing to say and it's been really hard. I feel bad, but I can't be around her a lot right now. I'm happy for her, but my own loss is too recent. I want to cry every time I see her little bumb. I don't know if/when I ovulated this cycle either, which is really frustrating!!!

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Feb 15th, 2012, 18:12 PM	#5
StayHopeful Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: Texas, USA Posts: 675	Took an hot tonight, bfn. I didn't wait to use fmu because I hadn't had a chance to pee all afternoon at work, so I thought it might be okay... I'm a lot more disappointed and upset than I thought I would be.

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