I lost Joshua almost 6 weeks ago. After a high risk pregnancy, my little boy was delivered by c section on 6th feb at 34 weeks. Sadly, throughout the day, he deteriated, and peacefully fell asleep in my arms in the early hours of the 7th. Me and my partner both want to try again, not to replace Joshua, nothing could ever replace him, but to complete our family. I miss Joshua terribky, and cry for him everyday, we light his candle every night, next to his photo, his ashes, and some of his things. To try again, how soon is too soon? We're never going to stop grieving for Joshua, I know that much. I know I need to give my scar time to heal, and my body time to recover. xx

Hi, I'm so so sorry for your loss of beautiful joshua. I can totally relate to how you feel.
July just gone I had a complete placenta abruption unexpected and my little girl was born sleeping. I already have a 4 year old and a perfectly healthy pregnancy with her.
It's the most horrific thing anyone can go through, I am broken. I couldn't try again after my daughter that passed because I found I wasn't protected against rubella( this wasn't why I had abruption that was unexplained) so I had jab in September and waited until December to ttc, I got pregnant straight away. Unfortunately I had a missed miscarriage and had d&c done 3 weeks ago. I'm so desperate to have my rainbow, and like you it's not to replace my daughter, because she will never be replaced but to somehow try to fill that big hole in my heart. I know I won't feel better until I've had another baby. I want to ttc straight away after af but family keep telling me my body needs a rest. I agree to some degree as worried if I do I will miscarry again but then on the other hand I need this more than anything. Did you found a reason why your son passed away?
I hope we get out ray of sunshine soon. If you ever want to chat I'm always here xxx

They wrote on his death certificate complex congenital heart defect and pulmonary hypoplasia, but we're still waiting on his post mortem results. They don't really know at the moment. I'm so sorry about your daughter and your miscarriage. In a way I'm thankful I got 13 precious hours with him, but I constantly worry that he was in pain the whole time. Having to sit and make the choice to turn his support off was the hardest thing I've ever had to do, I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy. I would love a rainbow, but I don't want to put my body through too much too soon, especially when why he died still isn't clear. I'm terrified if it happening again. I know everyone says the chances are slim, but the chances were slim of it happening once, it can happen again. xx

I am so sorry for your loss. In my opinion too soo is only when you and your partner are not ready. when you are both ready than it is not too soon!

I'm just worried that by body isn't ready to be pregnant again yet so soon. We got to 34 weeks with a very difficult pregnancy, now I'm still recovering from a c section x

Hi there, I know this is an old post but did you find out why he passed?

I'm so sorry for your loss, I wish you and your partner peace and luck for your next try.
my baby has just been diagnosed with a lung defect too except he isn't born yet. I think it's pulmonary hypoplasia.