I just had surgery for an ectopic pregnancy yesterday. My emotions are still very fresh. I dont know how long to wait to ttc again. my husband and i have been ttc for 10 months, finally had bfp and turned into an ectopic. I know I am at a higher risk now of another ectopic. We want a baby together so badly but now we are so scared of another loss. I need support. My husbands family hasnt even called to see how we are doing. Hell, they didnt even congratulate us when we found out we were pregnant. And a week later we are devastated and no one seems to care. Which just hurts us even more. I dont know who to talk to about it.

I'm sorry your family aren't being supportive It is scary to try again, I waited months after my ectopic...but you do it when you feel ready

so you have pretty much been through some of the same medical conditions i have. i dont have pcos, but ruptured cycts this last summer which is why i stopped having a cycle. ive had 2 surgeries for endometriosis. i dont think i will continue w clomid. i am pretty sure that is what caused the ectopic. I dont have anyone to talk to who really understands. my husbands family has been horrible. they were too busy partying when i was in surgery, and still havent even called to see how we are doing or anything. but they went onto facebook and pretty much kicked us while we were down and said some horrible things about us. i dont know where to go from here. i am really scared that i will have another tubal and not catch it early and have it rupture. i dont know if my cycle will start up again on its own or not. i meet w the doctor again in 2 weeks to see what my options are. but i have to weigh my risks. my husband and i dont have any children together, and as much as i want a baby with him, do i risk my life again and possibly leave my other children without a mother if it goes horribly wrong?

Im so sorry for your loss I had an ectopic 2 weeks ago and my left tube removed i was around 5-6wks my husband and i were ttc for 2 years and this was my first ever pregnancy. if you would like to talk im here

Md13, I am sorry for your loss. I miscarried starting yesterday at work and am high risk for ectopic. My beta Hcg was 296 last Monday, March 19, 496 Wednesday March 21 and dropped to 74 from my blood draw yesterday the 27th. I am scared because the whole time I have had lower right quadrant pain and am not sure if this could still be ectopic even though I bled and passed clots yesterday. I haven't bled much today and that lower right pain is still there aching. Strange thing is I had the same pain the month before I got pregnant and had an u/s that showed nothing. Did you know right way? I have heard some say it was really painfu, while other people didn't know they even had a tubal pregnancy til they had already ruptured.

I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my first pregnancy to miscarriage in January. I was, and still am, very scared to try again. However, I'm even more afraid of waiting too long at my age and not being able to have a baby, so we are trying again. No luck last month. I'm terrified of never having another pregnancy, and of having another pregnancy and losing that one.
I am so sorry you have to go through this.

so sorry you are going through this mattzkat I can only answer you based on what i experienced i experienced serve pain it was so bad i was unable to breathe or walk and i only experienced light bleeding everyone is different though i have heard some women experience no pain at all if you are worried that it is ectopic insist on an internal ultersound to make sure thoughts and prayers are with you and im sorry for your loss

I am so sorry hun, please keep us updated. My pain was sudden and intense in lower right quadrant. if i pushed near my right ovary i wanted to die. i was crying and nauseus. in hind sight the pain started out like ov pain but i know i ovd on the left so thats why i worried about a tubal because it was isolated on the right.

I have had friends not find out until it ruptured. luckily I knew something was wrong. i think some women think the pain is growing pains, or gas ( which is what my husband told me it was) so they keep going day to day until it then ruptures. I got lucky.

Hugs to you hun

Ladies im sorry i havent responded in a while. It has been very difficult lately. and i have been good at hiding my pain and feeling to my family. just putting a smile on my face when on the inside i feel like im broken.

My healing has been slow because I tore my stitches to one of my incisions and its now horribly infected.

I am scared right now. My husband and I bd'd two days ago, and later on in the evening i had major ewcm. and yesterday i had cramping from right ovary. I know I ovd. but instead of feeling excited, a feeling of fear came over me. I know that getting pregnant so soon again raises my chances of another ectopic and I just dont want to go through that again .Now that this has happened, i know that until I see a bean in my uterus i will be a total ball of anxiety. I dont know how to feel. I ovd 11 days after my ectopic. Considering I had to do 3 cycles of Clomid in order to conceive last time, i should take my natural ov as a good thing, but I am still really scared.

Has anyone else ovd so soon after their ectopic mc?

reading about your losses made me cry. my husband and i had been actively ttc for nearly a year and to finally have that bfp and then find out its ectopic just cuts like a knife( no pun intended). I am so sorry you lost your tube. I guess I shouldnt complain because they caught mine before any damage was done to my tube. I am so so sorry for your loss. I wish I lived closer. i have relied on my massage skills to help friends conceive, but I cant even help myself. I helped my best friend conceive less than 3 months after emergency surgery and the loss of one ovary, and one tube.

I just wish I could reach through this computer and give you a hug

How long did your doctor tell you to wait before ttc again? I didnt even see my doc after surgery. I found out by overhearing the nurse on the phone
I dont see him again til next week