Loss at 20 weeks - Page 2

curleymumma · Mar 28th, 2012, 04:46 AM

I think you know the answer to the mummy question babe- being a mum is whats in your heart, not whats in your arms- I send you so much love XXX

Babyramon · Apr 3rd, 2012, 14:59 PM

Thank you gals or should I say angels.. I struggle still its not getting any easier. I got a memorial tattoo of his footprints and this saying in Spanish " siempre en mi corazon" means always in my heart. I'm back at work and hates being HERE, coworkers (3) are pregnant and only one asked about my baby and how I'm doing and sorry about what happen. Its hard to sit in my office when one of the pregos comes in and has a conversation about there growing belly with another coworker-like really where's the compassion. I just breathed in and out and held in my tears somehow...

dancareoi · Apr 3rd, 2012, 15:17 PM

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Originally Posted by Babyramon

Thank you gals or should I say angels.. I struggle still its not getting any easier. I got a memorial tattoo of his footprints and this saying in Spanish " siempre en mi corazon" means always in my heart. I'm back at work and hates being HERE, coworkers (3) are pregnant and only one asked about my baby and how I'm doing and sorry about what happen. Its hard to sit in my office when one of the pregos comes in and has a conversation about there growing belly with another coworker-like really where's the compassion. I just breathed in and out and held in my tears somehow...

I am so sorry for you loss. you musn`t blame yourself, you did what you thought was best at the time for the good of your baby and your family.

You are a mommy to an angel baby.

I had a MMC in July 09, we allowed 1 AF before TTC and I got PG in Sept 09 - my baby boy was born in May 2010.

I had MMC 12 weeks ago, i thought i was 17 weeks, but baby died at 13-14 weeks.

you must do what feels right for you and your OH.

Best of luck for a rainbow baby.

curleymumma · Apr 3rd, 2012, 15:47 PM

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Originally Posted by Babyramon

Thank you gals or should I say angels.. I struggle still its not getting any easier. I got a memorial tattoo of his footprints and this saying in Spanish " siempre en mi corazon" means always in my heart. I'm back at work and hates being HERE, coworkers (3) are pregnant and only one asked about my baby and how I'm doing and sorry about what happen. Its hard to sit in my office when one of the pregos comes in and has a conversation about there growing belly with another coworker-like really where's the compassion. I just breathed in and out and held in my tears somehow...

Hey there sweetheart, im really feeling for you. Do you know that there are services for support when you are grieving a lost baby through late misscarriage? I wonder if that would be a helpful place for you to get some practical and immediate support?

I understand from what you have said previuosly that you really regret having the amniocentesis, and im soo soo sorry that happened. I know that you were doing what you thought was best, and trusted the medical advice you were given, and your baby knows that as well. Given the circumstances, and that you are faced with pregnant women every day at work, i would highly recommend contacting a grief counselling service if you havn't already.

I send you much love and support, XXX

Babyramon · Apr 29th, 2012, 13:58 PM

We had our follow up appointment yesterday with the new doctor. All tests came back normal and he gave us the green light to start trying again. I really liked him and he stated that he will take care of me when I do become pregnant again. The only thing is that I felt like "poo" when we explained to him our reasoning why went forward with the amniocentesis we told him in the case something being wrong with him we wanted the right doctors there to help him after I delievered him, but new doctor said no I tell my patients only to get that test done if you believe in abortion because of the risks in our case which was rare.
Though Im excited that we can start trying again, but I feel so horrible that if I didn't decide to get that test done he would still be in my belly. I'll always carry that guilt with me.

Pinkorblue11 · Apr 29th, 2012, 14:26 PM

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my heart goes out to you, I lost my little boy at 20 weeks also. I hope you conceive your rainbow soon.

lch28 · Apr 29th, 2012, 15:51 PM

you are forever a mommy to your baby boy. I lost my daughter Sophia at 23w6d on February 28th. We will always be Moms to them.

About ttc after first cycle, I got my first AF on April 17th. I am currently on CD 13, all my opks have been negative, but i am hoping for a positive soon. I have been ttc since my bleeding stopped.

good luck, lots of baby dust. I hope we all get our rainbow babies.

curleymumma · Apr 29th, 2012, 19:25 PM

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Originally Posted by Babyramon

We had our follow up appointment yesterday with the new doctor. All tests came back normal and he gave us the green light to start trying again. I really liked him and he stated that he will take care of me when I do become pregnant again. The only thing is that I felt like "poo" when we explained to him our reasoning why went forward with the amniocentesis we told him in the case something being wrong with him we wanted the right doctors there to help him after I delievered him, but new doctor said no I tell my patients only to get that test done if you believe in abortion because of the risks in our case which was rare.
Though Im excited that we can start trying again, but I feel so horrible that if I didn't decide to get that test done he would still be in my belly. I'll always carry that guilt with me.

sending love and support, you will forgive yourself in time, because you know that when you made the decision it was with the right intention, the outcome was not what you wanted. I wish could send you real hugs, bless XXX

dancareoi · Apr 30th, 2012, 04:17 AM

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Originally Posted by Babyramon

We had our follow up appointment yesterday with the new doctor. All tests came back normal and he gave us the green light to start trying again. I really liked him and he stated that he will take care of me when I do become pregnant again. The only thing is that I felt like "poo" when we explained to him our reasoning why went forward with the amniocentesis we told him in the case something being wrong with him we wanted the right doctors there to help him after I delievered him, but new doctor said no I tell my patients only to get that test done if you believe in abortion because of the risks in our case which was rare.
Though Im excited that we can start trying again, but I feel so horrible that if I didn't decide to get that test done he would still be in my belly. I'll always carry that guilt with me.

You musn`t feel guilty, you did what you thought was right at the time, based on the information you were given by the so called experts.
This new doctor you have seen seems to know his stuff and I am sure if you have people like him giving you advice, your rainbow baby will be here before you know it.
Sending lots of baby dust your way.

LilyLu · Apr 30th, 2012, 12:42 PM

Reading this post is making me teary eyed.... Nothing is your fault! When we were ttc I had told my dentist that i "could be" pregnant. He then went ahead and prescribed me 800mg of ibprofen. I didn't know I wasn't supposed to take that. I figured the Dr knew more than me. I miscarried 2 weeks later

You better believe I will be more protective next time. AND I'LL ASK MORE QUESTIONS!

My sympathies....

Mar 28th, 2012, 04:46 AM	#11
curleymumma Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2012 Posts: 356	I think you know the answer to the mummy question babe- being a mum is whats in your heart, not whats in your arms- I send you so much love XXX

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Apr 3rd, 2012, 14:59 PM	#12
Babyramon Waiting To Try (WTT) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2012 Posts: 37	Thank you gals or should I say angels.. I struggle still its not getting any easier. I got a memorial tattoo of his footprints and this saying in Spanish " siempre en mi corazon" means always in my heart. I'm back at work and hates being HERE, coworkers (3) are pregnant and only one asked about my baby and how I'm doing and sorry about what happen. Its hard to sit in my office when one of the pregos comes in and has a conversation about there growing belly with another coworker-like really where's the compassion. I just breathed in and out and held in my tears somehow...

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Apr 29th, 2012, 13:58 PM	#15
Babyramon Waiting To Try (WTT) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2012 Posts: 37	We had our follow up appointment yesterday with the new doctor. All tests came back normal and he gave us the green light to start trying again. I really liked him and he stated that he will take care of me when I do become pregnant again. The only thing is that I felt like "poo" when we explained to him our reasoning why went forward with the amniocentesis we told him in the case something being wrong with him we wanted the right doctors there to help him after I delievered him, but new doctor said no I tell my patients only to get that test done if you believe in abortion because of the risks in our case which was rare. Though Im excited that we can start trying again, but I feel so horrible that if I didn't decide to get that test done he would still be in my belly. I'll always carry that guilt with me.

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Apr 29th, 2012, 14:26 PM	#16
Pinkorblue11 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: California Posts: 1,113	Big my heart goes out to you, I lost my little boy at 20 weeks also. I hope you conceive your rainbow soon.

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Apr 29th, 2012, 15:51 PM	#17
lch28 Other BnB Addict Join Date: Apr 2012 Posts: 6,139	you are forever a mommy to your baby boy. I lost my daughter Sophia at 23w6d on February 28th. We will always be Moms to them. About ttc after first cycle, I got my first AF on April 17th. I am currently on CD 13, all my opks have been negative, but i am hoping for a positive soon. I have been ttc since my bleeding stopped. good luck, lots of baby dust. I hope we all get our rainbow babies.
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Apr 30th, 2012, 12:42 PM	#20
LilyLu Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2012 Location: TEXAS Posts: 45	Reading this post is making me teary eyed.... Nothing is your fault! When we were ttc I had told my dentist that i "could be" pregnant. He then went ahead and prescribed me 800mg of ibprofen. I didn't know I wasn't supposed to take that. I figured the Dr knew more than me. I miscarried 2 weeks later You better believe I will be more protective next time. AND I'LL ASK MORE QUESTIONS! My sympathies....

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