Hello Ladies,

Just joined the 1st Trimester forum about 4 weeks ago, and it looks like I'll be back to TTC.

Started bleeding this morning and rushed to ER. Basically they could not detect fetal heart beat and I'm measuring 8 weeks with HCG levels around 9700.

My family doctor wants me to wait a week to confirm if it really is a miscarriage. However, I'm supposed to be 10 weeks, and if I indeed lost the baby, then it must have happened 2 weeks ago.

How do I cope? I think I'm feeling blah right now.... distracted by DD1 and DH I guess, I also feel like I need to take it one day at a time.

How long did it take for you to start TTC after a miscarriage??

Thanks!!

Firstly, I'm so sorry that you are having to go through this The not knowing is awful, when I had my MC I was glad just to get an answer and not be left in limbo, even though the news was bad.
Have you been booked in for another scan?
Thinking of you, and hoping you find out what's happened soon, and that the news will be good

Past 40 hours has been rough.
I started bleeding profusely 8 hours later so rushed back in. Eventually, I passed everything!!! Wow- I'm still in shock and grief.....also traumatized by all I've seen.

Follow-up scans shows the uterus is okay and levels are down, but will be monitored for another week! I know this happens a lot, but I feel like such a failure.


hanfromman, thanks for the encouragement

Awww don't feel like a failure You did nothing wrong, and just because you had a miscarriage it doesn't mean there is anything wrong with you

How far along were you?

I know nothing that anyone can say can make it any better, but I really am so sorry Make sure you allow yourself time to be upset, and if you are working make sure you take some time off. It's one of the hardest things to go through. How is your OH?

Most people I know of could start TTC again after a couple of weeks, when the bleeding had stopped. You will usually get your period within 4-6 weeks Mine didn't arrive for 10 weeks but I think this is a bit unusual!
Some doctors say you should wait a month or two until TTC again, but as far as I know there is no medical reason for this, they say it so that if you get pregnant again the due date can be worked out easier, and also to give you time to come to terms with the MC. But you should start TTC again whenever you feel ready

It's so hard at first. I am so sorry. None of it makes any sense what-so-ever. It was NOT your fault. My heart aches for you.

I had a missed mc in December, and we started trying after my first cycle. I think until i had that first period, I was still in shock. I needed it to really accept the loss.

NesSAH - you are not a failure. I know it's easier to say that than believe it though.
I had a mmc in February - it was my first pregnancy and dh and I were so lucky as we had only been ttc for a month. I found out on Christmas morning that I was pregnant and on February 8th I found out that I had lost our little bean. I was so angry with my own body because it hadn't done what I had wanted it to. I felt like my body was broken and would never be fixed again. But after a few weeks things got easier. I had my first AF on 15th march - only 5 weeks after the medical management so again I was lucky I guess...this has been our first month of actively ttc - although I would've been bding a lot more if I had had my way hahaha - hubby was beginning to think he'd need to come to bed with a bucket of cold water just to stop me!
I was getting pretty sick of people telling me it would get easier...how could it possibly get easier. But they were right. It does.
It's so difficult to be patient - I am the most impatient person in the world and want to be pregnant right now. I've found this forum has helped me lots over the past few weeks. It's so nice to read encouraging, positive stories. You will get there hun. It hurts so much in the first few weeks. But the pain does ease.
Please message me if you ever need a chat xxx

10 weeks and 5 days. My first scan was supposed to be next Wednesday at 11 weeks and 5 days.

I`ve missed three days of work, but will have to be back next week according to the nature of my work. I`ve been taking it slow and only my supervisor knows. She is okay with me making an appearance and then disappearing during lunch time.

OH is doing well, but feeling guilty for not taking care of me more. We all feel responsible, but I know it is probably a phase. Each day is different and with the physical pain slowly diminishing, I am hoping that I gain emotional strength soon!!

Sorry for your loss hun!
I`m still in shock too... so hard to accept. Still taking one day at a time. I`m encouraged by everyone`s stories, so there`s hope for me!!!

Kelloggs86, thank you sooo much for sharing. I will take you up on the chat

You all are wonderful ladies, thanks again!!