I had a miscarriage last Thursday. The baby was 6-7 weeks according to the HCG test that I had when I started bleeding the previous day. It was my first pregnancy, and I'm feeling the loss terribly. I just want to try again as soon as possible. I know I can get pregnant easily and I want the pain to go away. Unfortunately, my husband doesn't want to try. And not because of his own grief, because we need to "get our life in order." I don't understand what that means. We both have reliable jobs, we're both healthy.. And first he had said that when we get his immigration papers through and after I get health insurance and a GYN exam (I went to my family dr. but they didn't do an ultrasound yet), we could try, but now he's started to insist that I finish college first. That could take another year plus on top of the time it takes to get the papers and relocate. We had a plan that he would make his work schedule so he could watch the baby while I'm in classes...I guess that's fallen out the window now. I'm just SO frustrated. He seems immune to my grief. I'm just supposed to sit with this pain, while my life and my fertile years pass me by.

Im so sorry, i know how that feels when all those carefully laid plans seem to go out the window. After my first mc i was absolutely devestated in ways that im only now starting to realise, my partner is very open to trying again though as he has talked to some friends and colleagues and some of them have been through similar situations which has given him a better outlook on things. Even though the baby isnt here anymore, you are still a mum, sometimes this thought makes me feel better. Women are very persuasive though and I'm sure you can bend him to your will! Best of luck!

I'm sorry for your loss hun! I hope your hubby changes his mind.