((I also posted this in the "Recurrent Miscarriage" thread in the Miscarriage Support Forum, but have not gotten any replies...))
A little background:
I have a little girl that will be 6 in June...I had her unplanned at age 19. My current BF (he is mot my daughters father) and I started ttc this past October. Got a positive hpt in November. A little over a week later, started bleeding. Being as though I have no health insurance, we went to the E.R. I was told my hcg was at 19 (had to have been at least 50+ prior to that because I got bfp on clearblue digi) and they could not tell how far along I was because nothing at all showed on the ultrasound. Next E.R visit 2 days later--hcg went up slightly to 23. Then 2 days later, all the way back 6. I have never cried so much in my life. I had AF in December and found out I was preg again in January. Again...about 1 week later, started bleeding. I did not even go to the hospital because I knew what was happening. Had AF again on 3/1.
This time I decided to take matters into my own hands and did some research. For about a year prior to the first m/c in Nov, my cycles were about 21-23 days long. I thought I might have a short luteal phase, so started taking daily100mg B6 along with prenatal vitamins and baby aspirin. Also, I started using Femgest progesterone cream 5 days ago when I really began to think I was preg again. I had way more symptoms this time than with any of the others. Took a test on FRER 2 days ago...I estimate that I was about 14 dpd. Got a verrrry faint positive, but it was there. Another faint positive yesterday. Today....THE BLEEDING STARTED I thought for sure this one would be a keeper!!! I am SOO disappointed...my BF and I want a baby so badly.
I would love to have all kinds of tests done and try to figure out why I am having recurrent m/c, but I have no ability to pay for it out of pocket at the moment. I am racking my brain trying to figure out why this keeps happening to me... and are there any other remedies that may be able to try myself to help get a sticky bean soon without running tests??? I am also going to start tracking BBT and try charting..will start within the next few days to help pinpoint O, etc.
I don't think the problem is actually GETTING pregnant, it's just keeping the baby after I get a positive HPT.It seems like I am losing all these babies shortly after they implant. I would assume they are implanting because hcg is being produced and showing on hpt, correct? Has this happened to anyone or does anyone know why this could be happening?
Also I am kind of wondering if my BF's sperm may have something to do with it. Perhaps they are not healthy? He has no children and has gotten at least one other girl pregnant before we got together....which ended in m/c also. The strange thing is now she is preg by someone else and is having no complication at all. And I myself have had a successful pregnancy with someone else in the past.. Hmm coincidence?? Or could his sperm be the problem?? I don't know what the scientific probability of that could be.
I am just at a loss right now and BF is frustrated also. I'm sort of grasping for straws now and I don't know what my next step should be. Thanks so much for reading. Any advice, input, or ideas would be greatly appreciated!!
I am so sorry 2 hear what ur going thru. I dnt really have any advice sorry. Have u seen ur doctor again 2 discuss possible causes. Mayb cud b that u have a thin uterus lining so the baby is implanting to give u + reading bt not sticking coz it's not thick enough... Sorry I know that's not much help.
Thinking of you and sending lots of hugs x x x x
Thanks for the reply. Well I am under a special type of medicaid insurance now, and can only go to a certain clinic. My next appointment is 4/17 (you have to book your appointment months in advance...it is sooo ridiculous, but i guess what can you expect with medicaid) and i don't know how much they will be able to tell me, but i will definitely ask that question. I'm thinking something like that may be the problem.
Hi Brooklyn, so sorry for your losses
I'm in pretty much the same boat as you. I have a DS that is 5 and have just had 2 MC, and possibly a chemical this last cycle. My MC's were early like yours loosing both at 17 dpo.This last cycle I had all my normal pg symptoms and even an implant dip. Got an extremely faint line, but bled on day AF due, even though temp is still high, and I have lots of clots, sorry if tmi! I have a 10 day lp and I'm sure this will be the reason. I'm taking b100 complex to try to lengthen it, but no luck so far. I'm also taking baby aspirin just in case. I'm trying soy this cycle to see if it gets better eggs too.
I think temping would be beneficial to you, just so you can accurately work out your LP. Your OH could try taking zinc to improve his swimmers? I don't think the progesterone creams do much, I don't think they are strong enough, you will prob need something that is prescribed to be effective, but you need your progesterone levels checking first.
I wish I could be of more help, but we just have to hang in there and believe that one day we get a sticky one!
Dani I tried the cream this time but didn't work. Im going to talk to the dr about progesterone pills though. Melly yes it sounds like we are in very similar situations!! I need to look into soy also...I am on cd9 so is it too late to start it this cycle? I do need to start charting my temps. I'm not really sure where or how to start but I'm sure I can research and figure it out. I'm almost positive that it is because of short lp because my cycles for the past year have been about 21 days long thanks so much for the responses. I will be sure to keep you updated and I hope you do the same baby dust
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